Ok, so met this girl online. I'm attracted to her and she says she is attracted to me as well. She seems a bit insecure - when I don't respond for a little while, she'll text another message to get my attention. We haven't met yet, just texted and talked on the phone (she works overnight, so she sleeps during the day and our schedules are tough to coordinate right now).

Here is where my dilemma comes in. Whenever I try to use a little bit of game, being cocky & what not, she seems to back off. For example, I got her # online after we had sent messages back and forth and I told her that i'll be closing my account because of all of the weird girls trying to get with me, and if she wanted to still talk she would have to give me her number. She happily did.

Last night, she went to a party and I was a bit annoyed by that but I didn't let it show AT ALL. I was just like "have fun" and then she asked what I was doing and I told her I was going to a club with my buddy. This morning, she texted me and we started talking and I asked her about her night and she said it was good and then:

HER: How was your night?
Me: It was interesting lol
HER: How so?
Me: Well my buddy started talking to this group of chicks so I went over too, and we chatted for a while and two of the chicks followed us around all night and even to our car ... I must be a crazy chick magnet lol. I dont know what the deal is
HER: Nice

And then the conversation sorta died. I thought I was using a sort of social proof/interesting story/jealousy type of deal. Maybe not? And she hasn't texted me since (a couple of hours) ... which for her is pretty long. She did respond, but every time I use this type of technique she takes a while to respond. So it might be coincidence or I dont know?

Update:

I sent her a pic. She said "So cute." She sent me a pic. I said "So beautiful". Then she said "Says you" and I said "Is there anyone else that matters?"

And now she is taking forever to write back again.

NOTE: I am NEW at this. Still learning! And advice is much appreciated.

Update:

I sent her a pic. She said "So cute." She sent me a pic. I said "So beautiful". Then she said "Says you" and I said "Is there anyone else that matters?"

And now she is taking forever to write back again.

u cant just openly call yourself a chick magnet man it dont work like that
instead of sayin u was a chick magnet u shoulda been like "but whateva shit like that always happens to me"

and as for the pic part ur playin it too safe u shoulda been like "u fucken sexy as shit" or somethin u kno

You're bragging. You're practically telling her that you're a player and that immediately puts girls off, which is ironic considering that most girls fall for players.

No no no. Go back and read it. I told her online that I was getting rid of my profile because crazy chicks were sending me messages. Then I said crazy chicks were following me around in the club. Therefore, I said in the text message, that I must be a CRAZY chick magnet. That is to say that CRAZY chicks seem to like me. Isn't that kinda like a neg?

Or am I just completely wrong on this?

She actually asked me if I was a player and I didn't know how to respond.

u shoulda said yous a magnet for crazy chicks then
thats improper grammar bitch

Yeah I think that was the problem... I messed up how I wrote what I was trying to say.

Right...But would you swear to what seems like a shy, quiet girl?

Personally I don't swear, unless they start to swear first.
This is one issue im not sure about..

All the guys made some valid points.

Anyway,you're doing pertty decent Daquix;I was confused with the chic-magnet line until you'd actually clarified it.

Im dissappointed though that you told her that her pic was so beautiful.

Then again,direct gamers may not mine what line,but Im an indirect game so I would've been like,"cool pic","so cool".

Make her wonder and question herself instead of basically throwing away the whole game by confirming she's beautiful.

Plus,I dont see why you were upset that she went to the party!!!

WTF,she has no obligations to you.

Yall havent even gotten to 1st base and you're already ctching feeling!!!?

Soon,I can guarantee you'll be subcommunicting those feeling to her which will have her running.

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No I have no feelings for this girl yet at all. We haven't even met yet! The only reason I was a little annoyed that she was going to the party is because I have been trying to set up a day 1 for a week now, and there is always a reason we can't. Most of the time it's because she is working over night and therefore sleeps during the day, but the other times it was because she wanted to go to a party and dye her hair. I wasn't jealous, I just wanted to get the day 1 over with.

And yeah I know the "So beautiful" line was AFC. I'm still learning

But here's the update. I'm sick of her ditching the day 1 so when she asked me to call her last night I said: "Ok, in a bit ... but just so you know, i'm not gonna do the text all the time thing if were never gonna see/meet each other" ... and then she responded "Ok...." and I didn't respond because I didn't hear my phone and 5 minutes after that text she sent "Actually i'm gonna go to bed. goodnight"

So thats where were at right now. I've read a lot about chicks trying to turn guys into "text buddies" and I didn't want that to happen with this one. Was I wrong about sending her that message? Should I text her something today if she doesn't text back?

That's the truth!

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I think trying to be funny (or Cocky and Funny) while texting, or emailing, can be problematic to say the least because humor doesn't always carry over well in texting unless you know the person very well...

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Texting "Ok, in a bit ... but just so you know, i'm not gonna do the text all the time thing if were never gonna see/meet each other" was probably not the best idea my friend. Its sounds like you are getting frustrated and getting annoyed with her. Which is a turn off.

What I would of put is:
Ok, in a bit ... Hey look, tomorrow (or the next day shes free that you know of) I was planing on going up to (place) and you should join me, I'm a little busy tomorrow though so we wont have to long to spend together.

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