I believe that if your frame is strong enough, and your game is congruent with your personality, then yes to all the above.

Number one I actually feel very strongly about except in exceptional circumstances (I couldn't convey my humour in a job interview, for example)

Number two: More of a 'never lie' philosophy to be honest (unless in a playful way). People have the right to know what they are getting into. This does NOT mean you cannot play the mystery man and feed the truth slowly.

Number three: Yes I believe it is.

Number four: Yes I believe it is.

Number five: Yes, it is one of the most important points of the thread, because there are many people who believe that to get the most out of this game, you need to be with someone new every night, being invited out to parties every other day and sometimes even getting paid for it (okay, maybe not quite). My being happy where I am shows that you do not need a large social circle and a booty call every night of the week.

People should strive to accept who they are, BEFORE they try and work on getting other people to accept it.

The aim of this game is to get into a social situation you are content with. It should not be a game with levels, and I feel sorry for those who get overly obsessed by it.

1. I think you'd be surprised just how often you do that without noticing it.
2. That's cool, I can understand that in a sense, you'd be surprised how fun toungue in cheek role play can be.
3. Hurray.
4. I'm 50 50 on this one, self assurance is a fantastic trait to have, self assurance about being a neo nazi, not so. t's extreme analogy but I'm sure you get my point.
5. Really? I've not really noticed any such trend. Maybe it's what some little part of you wants (you know the immature 17 year old that lives in all of us) and you've yet to come to terms with this and "this" is your way of easing the internal angst.

(Sorry if I seem probing with that one, but I've seen it before)

If you were a neo nazi, why would you want to be with someone who does not want a neo nazi? As you say- an extreme example yet a potently acceptable one. It (being yourself) is a method of qualification- if she can't handle/ doesn't like it, then screw her.
Of course, you are right! Its a fun little party trick to be able to get same night lays... but for ME, true game is enjoying the interaction with a person- the interaction can take hours, the sex half an hour. This is why I value fuck buddies so much more- the sex is great and you can have a connection much deeper than you would get from one nighters.

I am NOT saying that one nighters should be illegal or anything, because we all have urges, as you say. I am saying that people should not feel inadequate unless they are pulling every other night.
Probing makes us go deep (excuse the pun) and therefore enables us to grow as people. Your probing can bring out the best in people, don't apologise man =]

Showing your a neo nazi is only a connection seeking thing if being a neo nazi is a neutral trait. We all have our flaws and our hang ups and our problems and we should all allow ourselves a bit of privacy. Granted when your looking for the "one" you want someone who can take you on warts an all.

With friends and other close partners... well they may still accept you for your flaws and hang ups....but that doesn't mean it's polite to burden them with your problems.

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If you're fine with me probing.

Look over your post, it seems cliche in it's over-compensating nature, you spend one second discussing your lack of interest in ONS.

That's cool. But the rest is an irrelevant ramble, and a good rules of thumb with rambles is that they are a stream of consciousness often with little refined articulation.

Now look over the bit I bolded again, it seems like your trying to convince yourself by reflecting your desired beliefs in a speech to "outsiders".

It's actually quite common for people to take their flaws and mis-beliefs and upon recognising them to reject those problems from their "self" and project them into others, in the same way that you may be doing in this thread.

Though you are exhibiting a form of this, which is only really possible on the internet by personifying and manifesting your internal struggle in self created dectractors. Thus giving you a platform to (unkown to you) perform your own form of therapy.
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Again this sounds like it's part of some horrible mental breakdown, its not, people do this with varying degrees nearly every day of their lives.

If you re-read my post, you will notice I did actually say :
also:
So in essence, yeah it was a pretty disjointed off the cuff ramble... and yes it can be extremely therapeutic. If you notice from my original post, this was not a post meant to instruct, rather one in which I could offload a rather potent nag. It made me feel better, believe me.
I like the use of the word 'may'. =D
I am actually a rather high energy cynic in real life... I believe your point is pretty redundant.

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I really like the way you think. I believe, however, there is a potential that sometimes there is a very great need to overcompensate. If I posted a half arsed whine about how people chase tail too much, then it would have been a lost cause... the ramble was OTT simply because I wanted people to listen and take note.

Out of interest: what is your full time profession?

We're still jumping the gun here. The issue isn't really over what you believe, it's WHY your posting it here and now.

What I'm saying is that the problems you've listed, aren't really problems and they aren't nearly on the level that you seem to be implying.

What this post is is therapy, hwoever it's quite bad therapy becuase this post could snowball and then we have 20 different posts like this that are nothing more than people wrestling with abstract entities to make themselves feel better.

If you want to wrtie for therapy, lok into expressive writing, at break it down and look at the lines of reasoning. Structuring your thoughts on paper is much better than just rambling them down.

oh, in that case, I totally agree (y)