Hi guys,

New to the forum, but not so new to the game. I wouldn't say I'm an expert or anything close to it, but I have familiarized myself with enough of the concepts.

Last week, I went to the strip club for the first time. It was awesome.
There was this one stripper, who was extremely beautiful. I couldn't resist so I took a lap dance with her in a private booth. She immediately got naked, we had some nice eye contact and what not. I proceeded to pay and had major touching as it is completely allowed in this strip club (I live in Canada). Just as she finished, I rose up and with a delay and a masterful use of pause, I told her that she was extremely beautiful and a far cry from the other women in the establishment, with pure sincerity. I proceeded to exit and left. (I've dabbled before in many different techniques, but this time I went with a direct/honest approach, for maybe the first time in my life and it felt great).

Well, it came to me later that maybe I should have tried picking her up. But since I had just given her money for physical contact, I felt it kind of inappropriate and seriously ineffective as approach.

I would like to return soon to see her again. Now I would need some advice, as this would be a first time trying to pick up a stripper, and exquisitely beautiful and young at that, though more reserved than your normal stripper.

I consider myself to by a very handsome guy, but as we all know confidence, body language, non-verbal and approach matter most. I first thought of paying for a private time frame in which I could talk to her, but then it came to me that it might not be the best way since I would be shelling money, which would totally destroy my chances, at least damage them.

Now my goal is to talk to her a little, joke around and generally pass off as very open-minded. Convey that I would like to now the person behind the job and be interested in how and why she became a stripper.

How can I distance myself from other guys out there who might have tried picking her up? I imagine the first way is to not pay for the time I'm conversing with her and hold my standards high.

Any advice would be welcome!

P.S. And if I suck, please tell me. Truth sometimes hurts, but it's the first step to growth.

Yeah, you paid to touch her... what do you think she thinks of you now?

That said, I _think_ I hit it off with a stripper once before I had even heard of the game. It was after a lapdance, when I just bought her a drink and we ended up talking. So maybe your cause isn't totally lost.. BUT you can't pay for another dance. If/When she "hits" on you next time you show up game her... talk. Use openers. Anything to keep her interested other than paying to spend time with her.

But it's still a longshot, especially if she remembers you spending money to touch her. and they tend to have decent memories for guys who spent a lot of cash.

Yeah I was afraid you might say that. It was 2:30 am, and the joint was closing at 3am.

Also, what I forgot to say is that I came up to her for a dance. Si I guess that is one more negative point for me.

It's pretty sure, when I go back, I will not give out money for anything. We'll see how it goes. I might give you a recap. I also didn't act like a creep as most of the guys there act. I was pretty gentlemanly, except when the dance began...

Thanks for the answer.

P.S. About the touching, I wasn't even willing to touch her at first when the lap dance started, mainly because I had heard that many strip clubs in the US would throw you out for touching the stripper; I thought the same applied in Canada. Anyways she took my hands and forcefully put them on her breasts and guided them. It might not mean anything, but I thought it was worth mentioning it.

Honestly I'd say approaching her is a bonus. Her placing your hands on her tits, however, is nothing.. maybe even a bad thing since you were timid about what you wanted at that point.

Thanks dude. Obviously, there is major work to be done if anything is to happen here.

I'd give you some points but I don't have nearly enough.