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If you want to get good at soccer, you go outside and you kick a ball around. There is some technique to kicking a ball, but there isn't much debate. You swing your foot at the ball. Practice this over and over again, and eventually you will get better at it. It's really that simple.
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The same goes for pretty much any sport.
WTF? Are you implying that the World's best athletes achieve success by randomly 'swinging his foot at the ball' all day long?
Every coach and sport has its little quirks but this is pretty much how it works in most sports at the highest levels:
Every season begins with each athlete(if it's an individual sport. LOL . . .PU is an individual sport right?) writing down their goal for the season. A copy is taped on the wall of his room. Another copy is taped in the training room for all to see. After a meeting, we figure out all the existing strengths/assets/skills that help him obtain his goal. This is 'his way in'. If he(a wrestler) can take anybody down with a single leg, we're building his 'whole game' around it. How can we set up as many single leg opportunities as possible? How can we build as many finishes to his single leg as possible? It's inevitable then that we'll run into his weaknesses. His weaknesses are what 'prevent' him from achieving his goals. It could be a set-up, it could be defense . . . His weaknesses are what prevent him from taking advantage of his strengths. The weaknesses are what need to be drilled EVERY DAY. There's no way around it.
When you see any sporting event on TV, you'll notice coaches jotting notes. They are not writing goof notes to their buddies. They're taking notes of all strengths, weaknesses, opportunities, and mistakes. What do you think happens on Monday morning? A random kicking of the ball?
I disagree with the posters who recommend your 'way in' through a bohemian approach. If it works for them, it's only because they
already have the ability to organize (in their head). By the way, this is the reason why 'they' probably can't free write. This is the reason why YOU CAN. But while this 'free for all' mindset is great for dreaming and free-writing, it will only serve to keep you running in circles for practical applications.
By the way, we've been through this before:
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1. Go to an office store and pick up one of those cheesy plastic lined dry-erase calendars.
2. In the 'notes' section, fill out your strengths/'way in' vs. your weaknesses.
3. EVERY DAY should be filled in with task exercises that take ADVANTAGE of your strengths and strengthen your weaknesses.
Every night, you mark a check for completed tasks and jot a few notes regarding your day and you'll find yourself readjusting your calendar based on improvement. The only way you'll remove clutter out of your head IS TO REMOVE CLUTTER OUT OF YOUR HEAD. Remove it and organize it on this planner. This process alone will make you feel like a new man.
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Then going into another set and being suddenly good just seems like an anomaly - I don't know why I was good that one time. I can't see why, so I can't repeat it.
*You don't fear rejection. You fear confusion. Thus you need to be more outcome 'oriented' and get in the habit of taking it OUT OF YOUR HEAD and putting it on a planner so that it looks something like:
12/7/10: Success! I gave her the ol' let's take a look ourselves in the storefront window routine and grabbed her hand. She held my hand tight gave grabbed my arm. Notes to myself: Go for the peck on the cheek next time you dumbass!
12/8/10 Fail! I fucking farted and made her nose twitch a few times. She escaped by faking a call to her friend. Notes to myself: The hand fan is ineffective. Canned beans suck.
You're a writer. WRITE!
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