Ok, so how is it possible to do all this if you are non-social(I have my resons which can not be helped) considerd funny but also wierd, Have a very smal social circle and you canot do all that party shit?

I have my ressons for all of it, and they cannot be helped unless I move out of my family house which isn't gonna happen until i'm 18 and bu then I'll be outh of college :/ so what the fuck do I do?

Dude, you're talking to a guy that barely had any friends or connections whatsoever. I had no reasons to go to school, except for the educational part. I was made fun of and I was considered really "socially awkward". Those were my highschool days.

Now let's narrow down your problems:

* You're not a social person and you can't help it. Unless this is an actual mental disorder or physical problem - you have no excuse to be antisocial.
* You say you're considered weird. That's fine. I've been considered the creep for a long time. This can be fixed.
* Small social circle.
* Can't party. What the fuck is this? Of course you can. Guess what? I'm still young enough to be living with my parents. And I am. They're also at home almost ALL the time.

. . .

Now let's remove all the bullshit out of the list above. By bullshit I mean: Things that are not REALLY problems. They are only problems because you make them problems. The list will now look like this:

* Anti-Social.
* Small social circle.

See how the list narrowed down?

Let's look into the first problem. Being antisocial was my SPECIALTY back in the days. I NEVER talked to ANYONE. Barely even my friends. I just didn't feel like it. It just wasn't there. So what changed it? Motivation. I gave my self reasons to change and become social as fuck. My personal reasons were these:

* I wanted to be among the cool kids
* I wanted to be popular
* I wanted girls swarming around me
* I wanted a girlfriend (biggest reason).

This pumped me into taking the first step into becoming social. When I was ready, I started following the guide (read the thread again and again).

Your second problem was that you had a small social circle? Well, obviously you will have a small social circle when you're not being social. The problem becomes inevitable. That's how we all start off. There's not much to be said here. Once you follow the steps into becoming social, the social circle will grow automatically! I guarantee you that this will no longer be a concern.

Now let me finish off by reminding you that anything is possible if you truly want it and you put work into it. How you described yourself to me here is absolutely fixable. I strongly recommend that you read Conquer Your Campus by Mark Redman (and take notes!!!). It is the perfect guide to the college setting. Way more in depth than this thread.

Hope things got cleared up.

Panda.

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I have an asian family, they do not let me out I have argued with them but nothing, so I'm deciding to move out when I'm 18, there fore at the moment going out with people not happening, arranging partys is just definatley not happening O_O, so is there a way how I can get just popular not amazingly popular, I don't mind talking to new people tbh, I only have aa for women.

a picture of me, I do look abit pale on this one, i'm actually brown, having trouble blending in cause of the snow xD


by the way that dressing code in my college is considerd gay O_O, i'm not changing it they can suck my dark mushroom.

Ps:I live in england.

Ok I see what you mean now. I was afraid you had some mental disorder when you said it was impossible for you to do it lol.

Anyways.

All you gotta do is to follow the social part then. Even easier. AA for women is very common (I was no exception to this...). But you say you have no problems meeting new people in general?

Connect with more popular guys then! Start climbing up the ladder. Eventually, as you move up, there will be more and more women connecting with you and you can't avoid it. Just talk to them like you talk to anybody. Remember to not try to "pick her up". Just be friendly.

If you're super-fucking-scared of even looking at a woman, I strongly recommend cold approaching outside of college. There you may fuck up as many times you want. The point of that is to simply get USED to talking to women. That's it. Once again, no pick up. Unless you want to go that far of course (which I recommend outside of college. It's good practice).

Lol btw, when I see your picture, it reminds me of almost EVERY high status popular guy back in my days. EVERY. And dude, I'm not saying that just to make you feel good. I'm truly saying that you got what it takes (when it comes to clothing and general outlook).

The fact that it's snowing and you have a hard time sticking out - is GOOD!! That means you're standing out! You're a walking peacock

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Lol thanks xD, erm I can talk to people depending on if they have aconnection with any of my freinds O_O. When I first moved into this college I had no freinds cause I moved house far away from my old high school :/, any way I knew one guy, who is a hardcore emo xD actually here's a picture of him.


Then my social cirle started to grow larger and larger(below is a pic) but it's very week as the people in the picture below I only see them every now and then and I don't really hang with them, they just know me cause i'm funny and went to a metal concert with one of them.


and then I have my media class who I hang out with at breaks sometimes, but I don't hang around with them alot because they expect me to follow them around which is not my thing, mostly I'm with the emo guy.

(picture of my media class)

So looking at my problem of not being able to go out, and also considering my hesitation talking to someone I have no connection with what can I do?
heres my current sittuation I can do outside college aproaches I have experience with women, and I tried that game shit in college and it just got me the titel of wierd so I stopped that right there. I can also talk to strangers at bustops,busses, mall, shoping area etc just not college O_O.

start talking to random people throughout your days, you know the newbie challenge. After talking to those people and finding common ground, you have a reason to hang out with them.

keep doing that till you have a lot of friends. you know this supmag.

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Supmag, have you read my thread? It explains why you cannot "game" at school. The pick up artist mindset must be removed. You're not in college to pick up chicks... yet. You are there to make regular friends.

Start hanging out more with your media class friends and the metal-concert friends. Get to know them better and let them be fulltime friends with you. From there, you will get introduced to additional people, at the same time as you talk to people at college. Now you have two sources where you will get social connections.

Your social circle will grow really fast this way.

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Yh I realised that gaming dosn't work in college xD, but yh i'll try my best to get full conections, i'm trying to think outside the box with this now aswell but it's just that sometimes my desperation kicks in, I havn't had a girlfriend yet, i'm 16 now and I know I have alot of time but I want to get the max out of college :/, but i'll try what you said and mind talking to me about my progress on msn ?

Aaaah, I am in college SPAM and as far as I can see, the girls are the only good thing about it =D

Try being a high energy, social guy who aint ever serious.... but then when its one on one tone it down shitloads. Be a jokey/serious person. I find a LOT of comfort needs to be built with college girls, and that there is a real danger of falling into the LJBFZ... counterract this by being constantly flirty, and any comfort building should have a very sexual subtext.

Today: I actually opened a girl who was with her BF by dragging her away fro her bf shouting 'SHES MINE!!!"

Was pretty funny if i do say so myself. Got it on camera aswel... I shall try to get it on here... anyway SHE came and opened me later on. Why? Well her bf kinda stood there like a lovable loser. I showed confidence and was pretty funny. I actually indirectly showed myself as dominant to him.

Anyway, basically the attraction switches for college chicks as far as I am concerned are:

- Confidence
- Confidence
- Playful
- Semi- serious
- Confidence.
- Social standing
- Confidence

Straight after I opened her I actually went and non verbally K-closed a girl stood nearby. That was NOT on camera, but i may do it again ON camera to show you what I mean.

Anyway, Good post panda =DDD

LOVIN IT

oooooh, in addition, to further Pandas point as to why normal pickup doesnt always work as well is because there are so many damn p[eople- and quite often their friends wanna be hanging round with them xD

Instead, you need to be noticed and build attraction to more than one person at the same time. I do it by being a total wanker.... however although a lot of people say they dislike me, they also tend to want some =P

Its all a social game. They don't wanna admit that they are attracted to the loud obnoxious guy... but trust me, if you can show to them individually- usually on fb, that you can be serious and can emote, well... you're good.

Another disjointed ramble.

Loves snuggles and dirty cuddles.
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Good pointers there taffy really helped , but I think I need to have afull conversation with you or panda on msn or something that way I can report my progress to you and you can tell me if i am doing something wrong or not that will be really really helpfull

sure thing.... BUT.... my msn is foobahd.
Any questions, your best bet Is either posting a topic or PMing us... the more specific the question, the more accurate the response, baby cakes.

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The best way of actually knowing if you progress or not is to create a thread on this forum, where you have college game goals that you need to reach every day.

Example:

Day 1 in College: My goal for today is to do______.

Results: This is what I did, this is what I missed.

Any comments on my progress so far?

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Day 2: Today I will____________.

Results: I completely failed.

How can I improve next time?

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etc etc

So instead of getting help by only me, you will get help by the whole forum! I strongly recommend this, as I'm not available on MSN (never online) and Facebook would be too revealing.

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ssupmag, you look like that guy from Skins, Freddie i think. I saw that show once and i immediatly associated you with him. lol, but i know he has a lot of female stalker fan's wherever this show airs, so i guess this is a good thing for you xD, if you follow those guys around like you said you did, try beeing the leader of the group, like suggesting places to go, or beeing the center of the conversations, and try participating in every conversation, with an opinion and jokes but not just jokes.( i used to do that a lot, just funny comments but nothing really interesting)

I was in a similar situation a couple years ago, my gf broke up with me and i despite having a lot of friends outside my highschool, i didn't had many in my school or the ones i had weren't very popular, so i just had party's and stuff like that to meet women, too bad i didn't knew about PUA's back then xD, but now i am in college and know about PU so it's going great.

Another thing that i find that is really helpfull to make friends or to get popular in college or school is to say hi, to everyone you talk to, or friends of friends.
For example: when that person that you talked once, passes by you and you are hesitant if you should say something, say Hi! I just started doing this, and is doing a big difference.
when you do, you both get the feeling that you know each other, and then they are easy to approach or to engage in conversation.
(i read little panda post a long time ago, so i dont know if this was there or not but anyway if it is is a great tip).

Nice Idea panda might try that xD, and conguy thanks thats reassuring xD, I'm funny but only when I'm being racist O_O to my own race xD.

but yh I can add funny coments etc in there, I'll try to imprrove on that.

any tips on improoving humor? overall not just with women but overall in genrall.