| Hello everyone.
The last 6 months or so have been fundamentally developmental for me in my confidence and interaction with women. After a night out with a friend, who, is naturally good at talking to girls and has been with many women, I had the realisation that much of my frustration at life, and at people and at myself was perhaps due to the fact i felt self conscious and unattractive around most women,
That night, we were talking to a 2 set and both were hb8's, My friend dominated the conversation. I was talked to only to improve my friends value and reduce mine and I knew the girls were talking to me because they had to rather than because I was interesting. I got rather drunk as I stood watching this plan out and felt no control over how the night was going and why I was even there. I ended up getting home and having a black out period of abt 3 hours due to alcohol.
I spoke to my friend about the night and he said i ended up being very rude and horrible, a typical drunk frustrated loser. I wanted to hate the guy but the fact was true. I was only socially interacting with people after drinking and had no confidence with new peole in a social situation otherwise.
Another friend had been having a conversation with me earlier that week about game. About how his brother, a shy, and self conscious guy was getting quite good with women after reading a book called the game. I ended up going online and watching hours of videos on you tube about mystery method and stealth attraction.
The next week, again with a few beers in my system i was returning home on the underground tube to my unhappy and stale relationship (i was living with a ltr gf). A girl got on the tube smiled in a cut shy sorta way and immediately, and in front of numerous people, I made my first approach. It was very much aroutine but came almost instictually due to the hours of knowledge I had picked up on my first crash course of game. I appraoched using a situational opener refering to the heat on the train and saying it was a bad idea to wear the woolen blazer i had on. As I took it off I told her she was actually quite beautiful but that there were 1000s of beautiful girls in London and that she should give me 3 other things she had going for her.
Instantly she was attracted, as she smiled and exitedly serched for things she might be good at she said she had to get off at the next station. I displayed the ability to walk away saying if only she had 3 things other than her beauty that i probably would have got off and continued her conversation. At the next stop she grabbed my arm and pulled me of the train. So we spoke few about a minute about where we were going and what we did for a living (I know, not the best convo) i passed the phone to her chest and instructed her to put her number n the phone. She didnt know hers and didn't have her phone with her, after again pretending like i could walk away she said she needed to get my number and even showed interest in coming with me to 'see the part of town you live in-its not exciting there so i knew what this meant). I gave her my number took her hand, piroetted her on thetrain platform and went into a kiss. It worked. So on my first real approach I had a number and kiss close.
We had a couple dates and she went back to australia and we agreed to meet next time she comes to town. I didn't take it further due to the logistics of living with and also out of respect for my now ex gf.
Since then I have done more research (thegame, MM, NLP, SD,) and tons of practise in field. Although my confidence has improved drastically and my knowledgeis getting stronger I still have a long way to go. I still have to admit that alcohol is, at times, my crutch. I very rarely attempt day game approaches and only open sets in pubs and clubs.
I have recently another successful story of a f close with a Danish girl who loved the approach (again thanks to Mystery) of 'you girls are annoying', followed up by how i wanted to speak to them but their interesting conversation was not giving me the opportunity to go and say hello. Again, a girl on holiday, again, a short but great thing.
The story so far just to give you an insight to where I am but also to show the long path I still must tke until I can fee like I have gotten good at this. Recently I have started bing more ruthless in mixed sets and am trying to find my own style in the approach and close.
Peace to all and sorry if this was a bit long.
Please give honest feedback and any reccomended reading, links to videos and and advice on how I can improove.
Safe.
This is the story so far I guess
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