Here's my story for those of you willing to listen...

I'm 20 years old, and in my second year of college. I've dated one girl in my entire lifespan. We dated for 3 years, we were both young and we both had social anxiety. She was the only girl I had ever had the courage to ask out. About 6 months ago we split up. She became more open and social, and now she has tons of friends and a new boyfriend.

I'm still the same as I was 3 years ago. But over the 6 months that we've been broken up, I've become horribly depressed. My social anxiety has prevented me from getting a job, possibly making new friends and meeting women. The few friends that I have are all social people. They make friends and meet women with ease. They have jobs and are what I would consider successful people.

I know I'm still young, but I have this horrible feeling that I'll always be this way. All I want is to be the guy that has tons of friends, goes to parties, goes on adventures, is succesful with women and is respected amongst his peers. I feel like I'm stuck in the life I have right now.

But then one day I chanced upon Mystery and his book, which in turn led me to PUA's in general and then this very forum. I have read so many success stories on this forum, and I want to be one of those success stories.

I have never felt lower in my life, and I know the people here can help me change that. Is it possible? Where do I begin? There are so many things I want to change - my body, my fashion sense, my social abilities...everything. Where do I start, and where do I go from there?

Thanks for listening.

I know how you feel, i'm only 18 and a freshman in college but im in a similar situation.

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man up! who cares what anyone else thinks about you... seriously who the fuck are they to you??? thats right! fucking no one! live your life the way you want to live it mate... you only get one chance at life so stop letting your emotional boundaries hinder your chance to have a fun and exciting life! im in the army... i just came back from afghanistan... i lost mates over there and if its taught me anything... its that you must cherish every fucking step you take on this earth because you never know when its going to be your last!

and as for where to start? take it slow... sometimes change needs to be taken in baby steps... start off by joining a gym... after you're in a good gym routine start dressing differently... it sounds like you need a shit load of confidence! ill give you a tip... fake it until you make it! seriously... tell yourself you are the SHIT all the time and you will start to believe it mate...

sorry if it sounds a little harsh but you need to just stop caring what everyone may think of you... do you know what causes your social anxiety? is it your appearance? if so then change it you and only you has the power to change your life if its not heading in the direction you want it to go...

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A wise man once told me
"Bros before hoes, unless hoes have no clothes!"

Hitting rock bottom is a good thing. Means you will either stay there, or go up!

With the relationship thing, if you're in a relationship but not growing, you're probably decaying. If you're not growing in a relationship, get out asap!

Good words from Savlon. Definately worth taking on board! Small steps, big changes.

I'm currently taking 3 months away from anything sexual. This feels like rock bottom for me. But it's actually helping me grow, so it's all good.

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Day I don't quite know, of Celibacy Challenge

This truly sucks!!!

I was in your position about two weeks ago, been dating a girl for 2.5 years, broke up 6 months ago..

Anyways, my advice would be to read "The Game" by Neill Strauss, Magic Bullets, and just recently I have managed to get a hold of a whole lot of "missions" by StyleLife, which are really good for becoming social. Just look around the net, there are a lot of gurus who teach completely different stuff. Find what works for you.

Ye but practice to lose ur emotions. u lose ur emotions u feel so good and everyone considers you as DHV. act like u don't give fuck about anything. and u wont have that feeling again. bro i was like you last year. u can START watching David Deangilo's movies about how to become an attractive man very useful also u gotta believe and ull recieve

insanity is repeating the same things over and over again and expecting different results, your old negative habits served a purpose, if you now realise you can en-still more positive habits that will be more effective and leave you happier...GREAT.

You say 'you've hit rock bottom' fuck this way of thinking, you need to drop this shit right now, you can realise negative habits and work to change them without this self deprecating, self pity crap, this serves no purpose and all your doing is making yourself feel worse.

If your serious about breaking a negative cycle and want to instil new habits you'll need to take action...you want to be more social? take some class where you'll interact with lots of people, i.e drama or dance, you want to be more adventurous, do an extreme sport, you want to be able to get girls,go out approach them, do the things you find ON THIS WEBSITE.

IF YOUR SERIOUS about this you'll act NOW...book your class/adventure/go out and APPROACH...get blown out...fuck it all up...this is how you learn. you should be taking action and actually DOING something about this today or tomorrow if your not serious no doubt you'll put it off and hope for something to fall in your lap that will change everything for you...your choice.