I know that deadlines and challenging goals are a good way to get you out of your comfort zone but what sort of thing can REALLY get you out of your zone so that you start feeling the danger of not doing this and putting your life on the line type feeling and throwing yourself at this. Do you need some form of external motivation (like telling people about what your doing- hence getting them to keep hastling you about doing goals) or what?
I live in my own house with dog and dont feel this only know that I want it. Any good suggestions?

Depends on your personality. I see two things depending if your introverted or extroverted;

1. Assess the consequences of not doing anything. What will happen in 5, 10 or 20 years if you do nothing? Make the threat of not doing anything worse then the discomfort you experince when you exit yourcomfort zone. This is a mental thing, you gotta convince yourself to do. Make yourself a deadline.

2. make a bet (or just tell someone else a deadline). Like bet a friend $200 that you will get a gf, or get laid or whatever in a month. Or make a bet when your out. Give a friend $200 and every time you open a set he gives you $20, I love this game.The next night you can reverse roles if he feels like.

Otherwise, just make yourself get out of your comfort zone. Thats what I did, after a while your comfort zone expands. I am told I am a very motivated person though so I dont know how well this works on someone more passive (not implying that you are). But just force yourself a few times and then itll come naturally.

cool i will try! I have had success in past but only after staying at a mates house after leaving home but that was 15 yrs ago and we went out as mates all the time and he would call me allsorts of crap like w~nker and 'my gaydar is going off' the bastard! but it made me SO angry about the fact I couldnt get laid that when I did meet a girl that liked me even though I was shitting myself I managed to push through and invite her round and get lucky but he was practically holding my bloody hand throughout the whole thing so I didnt learn how to do this getting a girl on my own which is the situation im in now!
Learning how to go through with this in a state of pain and urgency is beyond impossible seems to me at the moment without a MAJOR motivation, without tucking tail and going ah well and then getting even more p'd off with self

I have always regretted the things I DIDNT do but at the time i felt i shoulda done i.e. I wasnt congruent with how I was thinking or feeling.

Dont be in that position but its fucking horrible. Its so much easier to deal with the regret over doing something that you DID do as long as you were congruent with what you were doing.

If you have that thought process day in day out you will not go wrong.

Whenever you sense that you're stepping out of your comfort zone, most of the time it's the right thing to do

You're making this out to be more than it is. You won't die because you haven't chatted with a few chicks; if you somehow turn this into a do or die situation, you'll yank the FUN out of it. You're not going to die because you skip a meal but you probably try to eat 3 courses a day. You're not going to die because you don't watch a movie but when something fun comes out, you'll probably try to check it out.

This little game of ours is REALLY NOT A BIG DEAL. All you need to do is shift your daily habits a bit. Most guys here come to a realization that they ought to get into this and think, "I HAVE TO CHANGE EVERYTHING!" - While this might work for some, I'd say that this is not the effective route for most. You've lived your entire life a certain way and to change its course abruptly is an unnecessary charade.

1. Go to an office store and get yourself a dry-erase calendar.
2. Fill it up with daily 'pick-up' tasks that match your existing schedule.(There's enough material in this forum to keep you pretty busy. Chief's newbie challenge thread is a good start)
3. Check off completed tasks.
4. Have fun.

try having a near death exeprience.