Finally I'm doing something about it, after all those nights of coming home asking myself why I didn't approach that girl who was looking at me or why I just walked away from that girl who bought ME a drink. I'm sick of the introvert I've become and this is going to change now. Below I am creating a journal, first step obliterating approach anxiety. I will go out to malls a few days a week and report how it went on this post. Once I am comfortable with a simply "hi, what time is it, where is xxxx store" I will ask for the communities help on how to proceed. Here goes, and to all who contribute THANK YOU.

Date: Monday, November 22, 2010
Time: Noon

Decided to the biggest mall in my area, Square One (I'm from Toronto Ontario, mysteries hometown). First set I approach was a two set, two Asian Girls asking them if there is a second cup in the mall. One seemed very shy and the one who opened up and told me seemed like she had just seen a ghost, I'm assuming she was a lot more nervous as I am... Not too sound cock but I'm not ugly thats for sure. After telling me where it wad I thanked them and went on my way.

At that point I noticed my hair resembled one of those raccoon hats with the tale sticking out at the end so I headed over to the barber shop. I approach a slim attractive blonde girl who looked no older than 20. How can I help you she asked, Hey I'm just looking to cut this mop off my head. She laughed as she pointed to a bulky looking Asian man who wore a short sleeved button down dress shirt a few sizes too big and has a fauxhawk with a rusty tone down the middle. Turns out he had a passion for hair styling since he was 15, unfortunately, that didn't fly well with his father so he got booted out of the house. After he was done I approach the slim cashier from earlier, So, Do I pull it off? I said pointing at my pauly D like hairstyle. Yeah it looks really nice on you, not many guys can pull it off. At this point my intent was to ask her for her number, but I wanted to learn to crawl before I learned to walk.

My third approach was a woman who looked in her 20's from behind but once she turned around she looked more more like she was in her 40's - but cute nonthless. Hey I'm sorry to both you but is there an urban behaviour in this mall? I'm new in town and we dont have malls this big where I'm from. She laughed, I'm sure there is but I don't exactly know where, theres a sign up ahead you can check that one. Thanks, appreciate it I said as i walked out.

As I walked toward the exit I noticed a petite brunette texting on her phone, as if she was waiting for someone. She wore a brown jacket, ugg boots, and tight lululemon pants. She has enough makeup on her face to pass as a manakin. Hey I'm really sorry to bother you, she stands up from her seat - Oh not at all! it's not problem! she said as she smiled at me playfully. Is there an Urban Behaviour in this mall, " yeah I know where it is it just slipped my mind. Fuck, oh right if you head down the stairs and make a right you cant miss it. Thanks appreciate the help I said, No problem, take care! At that point I decided it was time to head home.

I hope you enjoyed reading this entry, I'm going out again in a few days but I wont be able to progress without your help. After I get comfortable with opening what can I do to escalate the encounter into a conversation and possibly a number close. Remember, baby steps. If someone can reccommend me something small I can add into this routine it would be helpful. Thanks community.

Was gonna call it a night but a friend of mine called and invited me out.

Date: Monday, November 22th 2010
Time: 4:00

Decided to go to another local mall, unlike this other one this place was notorious for good looking babes. We arrive at a wal-mart and go to the car section to buy a car mat for a buddy of mine. I peeked over my shoulder and notice a decent looking 8 walk past me. I wasn't in the "zone" so I needed to oil the gears a little bit. I approached her as casually as possible and told her I was from out of town and that I needed directions to a local store. She gave me a stare, almost as if to check if I was lying or not and then informed me which direction I needed to go in. I thanked her and gave her a smile as I walked away.

Our next destination was Aeropostal, a clothing shop that sold jeans t shirts and sweaters. Before she had a chance to open her mouth, I greeted the door lady "Hey how are you" I said noticing the beret she had sitting on her head. " Are you going to be around for a while, I might need your opinion on something?" "Sure" she added. As I walked toward the back of the store I looked at the selection of jeans and long sleeved sweaters. I noticed a petite blonde with blue eyes looking over. "Can I help you" she asked, "Yeah, do you think this shirt looks good on me" grabbing the first shirt I could lay my eyes on. "Sure!" she said "It goes with your hair" I looked into her blue eyes, "Hey let me ask you something, how do you think they get the ripped look on these pants" pointing at a pair of pre ripped jeans. "Well when I do mine, I use sandpaper, or a power sander" she said. "You know how to use a power sander?" I said " Since when did women learn how to use power tools?" "Hey whats that supposed to mean, she said playfully". Oh nothing I was just surprised.

At this point me and my friend were both tried so we decided to call it a night. Although today was day one of this I'm already feeling my approach anxiety melt away. I'm almost certain I could have number closed the girl I'd talked to about the ripped pants but I kept telling myself baby steps. I wouldn't want one negative thing to crush all the built up confidence I had gained today. Again feel free to reply, add input, let me know what you would have done differently.

Read both posts fully! This is what I'm at, in my game. I have a little approach anxiety, but with a few nights on the club, and the 50-100 Sets I want to open in the next week. I hope to overcome it, and I was digging the.

"When did girls learn how to use power tools?" Cocky funny right there, good stuff bro. Keep it up, you'll get solid game.

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be the leader of the men." -The Secret Garden, Women Sexual Fantasies.

"“The best way to get the person you want is to not be afraid to lose them” ~Neil Strauss

Salut!

Maybe one, little advice from the side of my experiences. Forget about the "baby steps" tactics, this will give you a feeling that "Yesterday I opened 20 girls asking for time, if today I do 21, it will be progress". Of course, in two weeks you will say to the girl "Thanks for help, I like you, what's your name?" but do you really need to wait two weeks for that?

One wise man (youtube "achieving your childhood dreams") said that an experience is something you get when you fail to reach the goal you wanted to reach. I strongly recommend you to push the limits if you want your inner game to be fixed.

What worked for me? Long time ago when I was facing the AA problem, I decided to push it. Weekend, Friday night, me and my buddy went to the party where I gave him 100zl (around 30$) and tell him if I don't kiss the girl the cash is his. And Saturday night - replay. Then 5 days off and weekend again - Friday + Saturday and AA is gone.

Salut!

Surielx.

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Date: Tuesday November 23rd, 2010
Time: 10:00am

I feeling really relaxed but not as hyped and high-energy I'd felt yesterday. It might have been the lack of my morning coffee or espresso but nonetheless I used every ounce of energy to force myself out of bed and hop into the shower. After spending the better part of the hour shaving every single facial hair that stood up I put on clothing I had purchase yesterday on my previous mission. I wore torn aeropostal pants, and a black and white plaid shirt that looked like cross between a sweater and a dress shirt you'd wear to a business meeting.

As I parked the car at the mall I noticed a medium sized brunette wearing a black coat that reached down to her knees and black boots with cotton balls hanging on the end of them. Remembering the three second window of oppertunity I made eye contact, took a deep breath, and casually approached her. "Hey I'm really sorry for bugging you but is there anywhere I can buy a warm winter jacket". "You can always try the bay" she said with a busy look on her face, "Alright thanks! I won't take any more of your time". As I entered the mall ideas started rolling into my head, I wasn't exactly expecting to use any of them as my main objective for the first few weeks is to totally destroy my approach anxiety and feel fully comfortable talking to women I'd just met. One opener I had thought of, corny or not, would be to follow the regular routine of asking where something was but to add in that I could have just looked at the mall map but she was much nicer to look at, unfortunately I never mustered up the courage to do so.

Being a coffee fanatic I mad my war towards starbucks, asking any 8-9 or 10 where I could get a decent coffee around here. As I waited in line I was helped by a nerdy looking Blonde girl, "Hey! do you guys sell anything that doesn't require an hour on the treadmill to burn off?" she laughed and explained to me that they server low fat options. In the end I ordered a caramel macchiatto, I asked her is that was the one with the design they put on top with the caramel. "Yup thats the one!" she replied, "hey I have a special request here, do you think you can draw a christmas tree on it for me" she laughed again "sure I'll be him to do it" pointing to a slim looking asian male. After it was done I showed the design to the other girls who hadn't seen it, "it turned out nice! I almost don't want to drink it" the girls laughed and I walked off.

My final stop was at the bay to buy a christmas gift for my 3 years old nephew. I saw a HB11 folding clothes, I mad the mistake of approaching from behind and said "hey do you work here, or are you just doing that for fun" I agree that was really rough, and the tone of my voice was too demanding. Why do you ask? she said. "Well I just have a question about a shirt over there" I said pointing at a shirt that was barely big enough to cover half my arm. "She can help you" she replied pointing at an older lady who seemed pleased to help me. As I stood in line with my purchases I could see HB11 and another blonde who was equally as good looking starting at me laughing. I Looked over at them with the face of a man who just benpressed the world, and let them non verbally know that I was in no way embaressed. Shortly after I went home.

I need the help of the community, I'd like some ideas of things I can add in here to make it more interesting. One idea I'd came up with but not yet executed was to ask for where something was as usual but follow up by asking if they have a second or if theyre a good tour guide and can show me where it is. If the replied with yes we could shoot the breeze on the way there and when we got close I can tell them I should be able to find the way from there and if she'd like to meet up for drinks sometime? What are your opinions on this? Please throw in your own as well and I might use them and tell you how they went! Thank you all who read this

Been reading over your field reports, brother man, It looks like you are doing some learning when approaching, I'd suggest using a mix between natural openers, and canned openers, Jealous Girlfriend, etc. Remember, have your voice, and body display something of energy, girls like that, I always change my voice when I'm out gaming, to display energy, and I have a smile on my lips.

Have you thought of going to any night clubs, for Dance Floor Game? I've had a little success with kino build-up without a single word, I'd suggest trying that out, I'm going again on Friday. Remember, women alone are often not of great beauty, don't be afraid to approach a group, even if a male is in it, appeal to the lessers of the group, and neg the target. Erm, getting off track.

I'm going to be keeping a journal, and I have a little field report of me out in the clubs around here, feel free to comment on either, always nice having advise out there, even if we are the same level.

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"He is in command of my actions and seems to
be the leader of the men." -The Secret Garden, Women Sexual Fantasies.

"“The best way to get the person you want is to not be afraid to lose them” ~Neil Strauss

I've been frequenting nightclubs in the GTA for years now but my shyness has always got the better of me, which is exactly why I'm doing these drills, I have to say so far it's been working. On to the next report.

Date: Tuesday, November 23rd 2010
Time: 5:30pm

After waking from a nap I immediately made my way down to the kitchen and made myself an espresso. I had texted a friend of mine earlier asking if he wanted to go to a mall to do some Christmas shopping, he agreed and informed me that he was going to bring his girlfriend. As we were driving to the mall with music blasting I began dancing foolishly, I wanted to get myself in the mindset where I wouldn't care what people thought of me. As I looked over to a bus stop I could see a few people laughing as they looked at me - I didn't care. As we entered the mall I approached a blonde girl, she wore a cream coloured jacket and had bright blue eyes. "Hey, sorry to bug you" I asked "Is there an urban behaviour in this mall". As she explained to me where it was we made out way over. "As we entered the story I immediately said hi to every employee male or female who had made eye contact. A t-shirt with a matching vest caught my eye so I picked it up and pressed it against myself. I walked on over to an attractive brunette who beamed a smile at me. "Hey let me get your opinion on something, does this look good on me" "Yes it really suits you" she said looking into my eyes. "You think it would be something I'd wear to a club or casually" "Both" she said, "if you want to dress up you can wear the vest but if you want to be more casual you can just go out in the t shirt". "You see, normally I'd ask my friend over there for advice" I said pointing to my friends girlfriend "But she's got bad taste, lets keep that between me and you" she laughed and opened the fitting room for me. After deciding to buy the shirt I proceeded to the checkout. "So looks like I"m taking this" I said, handing over the shirt. "Hey I'm new in town, I just moved in from montreal, I'm still looking for all the hot spots to have fun on a saturday night" "are you a good tour guide?" "sure" she replied. "Well how about you put your number in my phone and you can show me around sometime". She laughed playfully, "not at work". Without much to back it up with I accepted defeat, wished her a good night and left home.

As I'm driving I get a call from a friend on mine, she had just broke up with her boyfriend and needed some support, being the good friend I am I agreed to meet up with her depsite having work in the morning at the crack of dawn. We entered a bay called the 17th step and had a few drinks. "I really loved him" she said "But he doesn't trust me, he's kicking me out of the house I don't know where to go!" I showed her as much emotional support as I could and she decided it was time to go out for a smoke. As we got outside I noticed a table and one chair, I immediately took the first seat and signaled her to sit on my lap. We had a thing going on for a while but it never went past anything besides making out as shes friend with a friend of mine. "you know" i told her "if you didn't know xxxxx I'd totally go out with you" "I like you too" she replied. "So let me ask you something, if you could rate yourself on a scale of one to ten how good of a kisser would you say you were" "uhh 8" she replied. "and based on what we did last time how would you rate me" "9" she said looking at me in the eyes. "I think I'd give you a 6" I said. But prove me wrong, "But I have smoke breath" she said " I'm chewing gum right now, I won't even notice". She closed her eyes and kissed me, we waked back into the bar. As we sat down I looked at the bar tender who was alos a good friend of hers. "Hey" I said "were trying to make her EX jealous, can you take a picture for us?" She took my phone and took a picture of us kissing passionately. At this point It was late so I wished everyone a good night and headed on home.

Time: Wednesday November 24th, 2010
Time: 10pm

Originally, I was going to document my entire night. But since the first half was a rehash of my previous missions with no success to speak of I'll skip on over to the feature presentation.

I was out with a friend of mine Jenn, the same girl who I'd spent the night before with comforting over the recent break up of her boyfriend. I received a call from a friend of mine who we'll call mike. "A few of us are heading over to the bowling alley, it's cheap game / beer night, you should come" after running the idea past Jenn we decided to drive over. As we pulled in the parking lot blasting classic EURO music I noticed a medium sized blonde girl smoking outside, "I glanced over in her direction and dancing in my seat. As we parked the car and headed toward the entrance I looked over at her "Gotta celebrate the waybacks, are you into that sort of music?" "Yeah, I go down to frequency sometimes".

I entered the building with a surge of energy running through my veins, I grabbed Jenn and headed over to the bar. "What can I get you" she asked "I'll get a corona" said jenn "I'll get a vodka redbull" "Sorry we dont serve fance drinks" I settled for a bud light and noticed the girl I had seen earlier. As I approach her I said "sorry I never got your name" "Katheryn" she replied, "nice to meet you, you did'nt happen to go to xxxxxx h weighschool did you?" "No, I went to xxxxxx" "Ah I see, so when are we going to head to frequency?, put your number in my phone and I'll call you sometime" she wrote the number in my phone and I walked over to my friends. On the way out, I saw her cleaning up, "Ill give you a call sometime" I said and I gave her a hug "kiss goodnight" I said pointing to my cheek, she laughed and looked away. "Ah maybe next time" I said, and exited out the door.