Hey last night i went sarging with a few friends to a decent club over here in the UK. now although i managed to open a fdew sets and talk to loads of people i didnt get any closes. I wasnt that bothered tho as ive gotten atleast a k-close every time ive gone out in the past 2 months. But from what i was hearing, the girls i was speaking to that my friends later spoke to, were all asking like, whats that guys shauns deal, hes too forward, hes so full of himself etc. I dont understand tho, from what i thought i showed good lack of interest in the girls i talk to for a start and i wasnt letting there bitch shield put me down. But im thinking mabey i was just cocky? So im wondering how can u not give into a woman without being cocky or dominant. One girl i was talking to said she felt like the way i was talking to her it was like she felt i thought i was better than her. Should i just try and be nicer? I really want to calibrate this but need some advice. All help appreciated.

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I see said the blind man, but really the blind man could not see at all . . .

You want to be friendly with them so that you can win them over. I like to be the friendly, entertaining guy with a bit of mystique to him. The mystique is how you get your target to fight for your attention.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

so how do you portray mystique, and how can u get past a woman being bitchy or whatever without being rude to em or coming accross aggressive or cocky or whatever.?

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I see said the blind man, but really the blind man could not see at all . . .

Balance, the way to balance your cockiness is to be more funny. That will offset the negative conitations of your high confidence levels.

Also I've had pleanty of time wear it was:

HB:Your such a cocky asshole
as she takes off her cloths and hops on top of me.

You don't even have to toss on more funny to balance the cocky, you can just tone down the cocky and try to be more friendly. When you're really cocky, girls tend to either think you're an asshole, or they figure that you are interested in getting in their pants, so step it down a bit and use a bit of that Nice Guy inside your, which may or may not have been the reason you ended up here to begin with. We tend to overcompensate our niceness by being very confident and cocky, but then you realise you overshot your mark and have to try again a little lower. I got called a cocky asshole for YEARS, I mean from the time I was like 8 till I was 20. By being friendly, you can slip in the cracks and then once you get in close, you can strike without them seeing it coming and they are thoroughly surprised, but in a good way. I'm not saying to go overboard and be her friend, because we know you just end up with LJBF then and that's no good either. Happy medium is the key to not just PUA, but all of life.

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"The 'Brick Walls' are there to allow you to prove how badly you want something!" ~ Randy Pausch

~ Rye

I've also found that posture will show cockiness, if you sit back the entire time and never make any forward movements or friendly kino that the girls may be trying hard to get a response from you. If you are not giving a response and overly looking the person down then this will show you as thinking you are better or above the person. If it is your posture then it is an easy fix.

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Let the Lyrics do your talking

Maybe you are better than her?

It possible to be too cocky/funny Although i think ur probably more so on the cocky and not so funny...... at some point you have got to show that you'll a real person and not on some high horse. Women get tired of constant negs and crap it's fun at first then its like "OK whats this guys deal?" being a Jack-Nob takes calibration sometimes it needs to be to turned off way off

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So u think you can handle this?

You stealing my lines now 'Jack-Nobs' lol

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Effort surpasses Talent, but of course I already have Talent I'm just putting Effort on Top of that

Yeah i took what u gone do about it Mr. Cross... are u gon do use those fuzzy hand cuffs on me like last time

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So u think you can handle this?

No i think you would enjoy that too much I've got something else in mind for u U need some discipline

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Effort surpasses Talent, but of course I already have Talent I'm just putting Effort on Top of that

Ok I'll bring my naughty school girl outfit for the occassion I've been quite naughty lately lol

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So u think you can handle this?

Then I'll play the part of the Principal I've got my paddle ready

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Effort surpasses Talent, but of course I already have Talent I'm just putting Effort on Top of that

Bring the heat daddy u know i like it rough

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So u think you can handle this?

U already know Lover SouthernCross's got that Heat

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Effort surpasses Talent, but of course I already have Talent I'm just putting Effort on Top of that