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at what point should i tell targets that i have a gf? and best way to state im not going to leave my gf and that i just want a 1 night stand/discreet friends with benefits situation. for this reason i currently focus on first nighters cos i find if you can have sex with the girl and you do a good job pleasuring and satisfying her she will let you fuck her again, even if you admit to being in a relationship. many girls have even told me in the past that they had already guessed i had a gf or knew i lied when i said i was single. do you think ther would be any merit to telling truth earlier on? maybe using it as a disqualifier? or is it a case of if it aint broke dont fix it?

-you may be thinking that i shouldnt be sleeping with other women and you would most likely be right but i have issues that way. lol. i have only been faithful to 1 girl in my life. my first love when i was 15, i lost my virginity to her and dated for a year, i barely noticed other girls existed during this time and turned down several good offers but after she broke my heart i have had 4 or 5 serious relationships (im 24 now and live with my gf of 3and a half tears)and have not been faithful in any of them. i think its cos i am scared of being hurt again and i would care less about being dumped if i was having sex with other girls anyway. or maybe cos im seeking somekind of validation from women. or maybe im just a horny bastard.

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Hi man.

No judgement on you. No need to explain.

Now, i would just not tell i am in a relationship. Since i have a great issue with lying, i wouldnt say something like: i am single, when i am in a relationship.

if there are any benefits or drawbacks... hmm, i wouldnt really know. But i do know, if she wants to fuck, she rarely will turn you down because you have a gf already. If you are sexual and she wants it, that will not stop her.

I think that if you want to have sex with another woman, while you are in a relationship, that is you problem/concern. Its not information she has to know.

good luck!
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i dont have any such problem with lying lol

im a salesman so i had to get used to telling lies lol although you raise a good point about a girl not being bothered if im in a relationship or not as long as i have built attraction and done everything else right. it ties in with what girls have said to me about having guessed i had a gf anyway or knew i was lying when i told them i was single.

thanks man

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I'm in sales and PU and I NEVER lie.

Why not tell the LTRs you want an open relationship from the beginning, but are open to commitment later on? That way you can still have ur ONSs and even MLTRs and nobody has to lie.

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i guess the short answer is its easier to lie. my ltgf would never accept me seein another lassie anyway. as i said i dont have a probem with lying as i dont see it as evil, jus wee white lies to keep everyone happy lol.

what kind of sales you in mate? i've done cars and double glazing.

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Hey man, not any of my buisness - But 3 and a half years and you are cheating on her?

Would you really give her the same pain that you got when you were 15?

I do not have a problem with lying, but i dont like people getting hurt lol, and also - hurting girls in any way is against the "leave them better than you found them" rule

im not saying you should tell her, fuck no - but its not a good idea to risk giving a perfectly fine girl the same issues as you got.

I strongly advice you to be faithful, but hey - your call

im very careful not to get caught so i doubt she will ever find out. i agree it would be a disaster if she did. lol. i just dont have the capability to be faithfull i dont think.

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- Giacomo Casanova

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