Hey everyone so heres a brief synopsis. I really like this girl and I would love to enter a relationship with her.


Im 18, shes 20. Shes a Photographer and I met her at an event about a week ago. We hit it off immediately, found out she knows my best friend and we flirted all week at this even we were both at. At the same time I also found out she has a "long distance" relationship she is committed to back in her home state where shes from. Shes got high morals and would def. not cheat and is a very dedicated/committed girl which I actually dig. We have a lot in common and the situation just feels RIGHT. She told me she told everyone in her life of importance about me, it was FATE we met and she thinks Im amazing.

At the same time, the other night I decided to confess my feelings outright which was a big mistake on my part which actually caused her to repel a little bit but I've gradually taken back most of the control I think. She got weary and started making her situation with her boyfriend even more clear which started to really suck.

The other night I decided since shes leaving for 3 weeks to visit her family back where shes from and obviously to see her boyfriend, I needed to make an immediate impact. I took her to the recording studio and wowed her, then later on in the night after she left I left a rose for her to wake up to which she was really glad to see but also said "I hope you dont think this is going to make it any easier for either of us, Haha"...

Listen, shes gone now for 3 weeks. What do I do to keep her thinking about me, make an impact and convince her naturally to leave her boyfriend. Im also trying to help her with her career so Im not sure how much that comes into play as well.

Please advise!

Advice is GREATLY appreciated...

If something is going to happen between you it's going to have to happen naturally, in fact I would venture to guess that the more you try (especially those grand gestures) are going to just push her away.

You need to make her jealous, put her in the back of your mind and go to the bar and get laid, It does wonders for your confidence and make sure she "accidentally" finds out about it. You've already told her you like her (mistake) so the ball is in her court now.

hey man u got urself a big problem here. this one wont be easy.

sounds like shes a girl who knows how tops she is! the problem with girls who have boyfriends is that u must have options urself, orelse ull dig a hole ur brain wont be able to climb out.

how far did u get with the girl? kiss? sex?

if u want her to leave the guy shes seeing, then u must make an impact in bed, u must seduce her, and you must not be surprised if u get lucky. it should be normal

u must not text her whilst shes away. if she totally forgets about u and doesnt give a damm well then bad luck coz u had ur chance. but the only chance u have now is to not text or call her.

if she txts u, then reply
if she calls u, then answer

but dont show her u miss/need/want her

wateva happins now, it'll improve u for nxt time.

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The complex part is that she has extremely high morals and there is absolutely nl way she would cheat in anyway including kiss, etc. Sexually I haven't gotten anywhere with it because it just won't happen yet. My whole thing is I just need to win her over enough to convince her he's worth leaving and I'll become a huge part of her life emotionally, sexually, and with helping her with her career. I mean her roomate told me' she was considering moving back home from LA Just to be with this dude and give up her career which I NEED to stop. For us, but also because I care alot about her and I want her to suceed. I KNOW a big part of this guy is Just because there families are close ... Sound right?

Please help! Haha.

dude it doesnt matter u simply cant do what u wanna do without coming off as needy and insecure and scared etc.

u want her to know how much u love her, and how much she means to you and all this, but believe me, the more beautiful she actually is, and the more u try, the less chance u have.

i dont believe she wont cheat and really what u say makes no sense, u want her to leave her bf soo she can come to you? but she wont cheat on him? it wont happin like that i garrantee. shes neva gona leave him and then come to you, unless youve made an impact on her whilst she was still dating him. and the only way u can do that is by seducing her.

by telling her all ur emotions and feelings etc, well shes already probly got all that million times over from past bf's etc. u wont be any different.

its very hard i understand but i dont think its worth the stress/worry/dissapointed because ur unlikely to get anywhere. just go for the home run, if u get shut down, well what could u have done? ur not gona sit around 12 months waiting for her to break up.

u wanna be unforgetable to her? then act fast and move on[/quote]

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I'd take the asshole approach and hit her emotions hard. Who gives a shit. Being nice won't help. Being chill with the whole situation won't help either because you like her. Take the risk and mess with her emotions. You got nothing to lose. Just be direct with her. When you two will argue, just be like, "Why are you still talking to me?" or, "You know what, you're pretty but we won't get along." Why? "Because you have some so-called long distance boyfriend where only 20% of long distance relationships work out and your morals take away from many pleasures in your life." You're not really being an asshole, but you're telling it to her. You're putting her mind to work and it's direct.

Sometimes you have to forget this whole PUA game behind the bush crap and play it like a man. Stop with the tactics, the moves, etc. The more of an asshole you are with her, the more natural you two will be around each other. Constant use of PUA techniques with a girl makes it feel so fake. Just get to the point man.

If she asks you what's wrong and all, just say, "Well I like you but I won't be tempted by some girl to try who has an *online* boyfriend."