So I met this girl at a party two weeks ago.

I asked her to get coffee the next day. She told me she has sorority stuff, and I suggested Wednesday. I had a feeling she was going to flake on me, so instead I told her Tuesday night I am busy.

We plan for Saturday. Then after I told her where and when to meet on friday night, she told me let's meet next friday since she had exams this week.

Today she told me she is really hung over from last night so let's meet tmrw for lunch.

Just then she told me that she had some event with her sisters so she wants to do Sunday for lunch. She went something like "omg you are going to hate me i just remb i have event with sisters, can we do sunday instead?"

All of this is through text.

How should I respond to this girl?

I am thinking of writing...

just so you know playing hard to get might work when I start chasing after you.

well the fact that she keeps contacting you means she's at least somewhat interested, sounds like she's on the fence though or is keeping you around as a 2nd / 3rd stringer. firstly i would call her out on the flaky behavior. set a precedent that you wont tolerate that. secondly (and maybe you just left this out of the post) but you need to build more attraction via text/calls rather than pushing to meet all the time. build enough attraction and she won't flake, i guarantee it

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Yeah man call her out or something. I had this behaviour off a girl for a while and evetnully just acted like i didnt care that much 'ar youve broken my heart i hate u so much! Haha its cool...' and saying that you are busy on X days, and as far as the day you suggested you could say something like i might invite someone else out then but i dont know for sure yet. I did that and the next day she wanted to see if i was still available.

Like said before the fact that she keeps responding and rescheduling for your date means that she's interested but maybe as 2nd string. You should put her on her heels a bit. Let her know that you are seeing other girls everytime she flakes , let her know that you are busy too and that she will need to make time instead of have time.

It sounds to me she is playing games with you. Don't agree to Sunday. Tell her you already have plans with someone else then don't ask her out for 2-3 weeks.

During this time, you should make dates with other girls, then bring up those dates with this girl about how good a time you had, etc. Jealousy is a great weapon to use when you're single and just dating.

i was in the situation your in and done exactly what this guy said, make yourself look busy and when she asks u out, say ur not free. Treat her nothing more than a friend, but don't show any interest in her at all, if you gave her interest by asking her out a lot she will be kind of confused where u actually went and will want u to 'chase' her again.

I wouldnt go and brag about u meeting girls though, only tell her if she actually asked but at the same time make it sound like 'ur keeping it to urself', she will be impressed by this aswell.

But what if she is very passive naturally? I have a similar problem, actually she just flaked on me a couple of hours ago (although her reason is quite believable). What you guys say, sounds like I should do business as usual with her, calling, texting and that kind of stuff. But I feel like she is quite comfortable with and I don't really want to encourage that flakey behavoir. I thought about just calling her out on the flake and tell her that I don't have the patience to put up with that shit. What would you say is the better approach?

Do exactly as i said above and it usually works, as a matter of fact, i done it on a girl that was overly smart with players and such, and a easy HB9. 2 weeks later she told me that she missed me and she wants to see me soon. All i did was a lot of indirect DHV's and that ive moved on and that i don't need her in my life without actually telling her, she received no attention of me. For this reason she came back.

My question may see rather stupid, but most certainly will be valid: How can I let her know and ignore her at the same time. I mean we know each other bout a month, and it's very rarely that she texts me first. On the other hand I am pretty certain that she is attracted to me - we made out first time we met - though i was really drunk and she tipsy - and did have a pretty good Day 2. She just seems to love playing hard to get or is simpley very shy... Still not sure.

well, i done this through facebook, my page was always busy with girls talking to me and posting on my wall and stuff, this was DHVing, don't know if you use facebook but thats how i did it. If she flaked on you today, text her tonight saying 'i just met your twin' and then make up a story of how amazing your night was(spread this over a few texts), yet keep it brief and short like your not to bothered or exactly bragging to her, tell her she missed out. Remember though, theres a few million fish out there so don't go and chase one, take a few of them.

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you need to give her an 'ultimatum' and let her know that you aren't willing to play around. your situation sounds pretty miserable in terms of ridiculousness.. if she really doesn't want to be around you/hang out (for whatever reason, i doubt it's you, probably something going on with her own issues) then you need to realize that it's not worth your time. (in other words, go sarge up your area and forget about this girl)

So were you also in contact with her during those two weeks? I have a similar situation. She added me yesterday on facebook, and is probably stalking me right now. We texted a lot before seeing each other, but now no contact in a couple days. Should I wait for her to contact me?

no contact what so ever, after she flaked i disappeared totally. I'd say she wants to see you without actually telling you that. If i was you i'd wait until she initiates with you, when she does, ask her where shes been hiding and tell her shes missed out not talking to you. If you still have her number and she texts u, still ask her who it is, this will look like you forgot about her. then she'll tell you who and you ask her where shes been or what trouble shes been causing etc, then go on from there.
Remember though, it will be a lot easier to build attraction if you have DHV's on your wall or girls posting on it and such.

I don't use facebook much, so unfortunately no DHV stories there. It's been about 10 days now since our last contact. Should I still wait for her?