Just tonite i got a definite offer from a woman from work( she asked this guy to help her come up to me and say she fancied me!) saying she was shy and then when we looked at each other I said I was a bit shy too- then she said 'What you want me to lead? And then I realised that its been this way for every woman just about Ive got with and this isnt what they want!
Duh
What does it mean that I want women to lead the interaction and how do I learn to take the lead and vastly put myself in this obviously more ideal situation (apart from 'grow a set of balls' you bastards). Just a sudden realisation!
Annoying cause shes fit and hot
HELP

Maybe you are less confident about the things you are going to lead with. You said you were shy, so this what I think you need to work on.


Now I don't know if you mean what is leading made of, like its content, but what I can make of this is that you know what to do to lead, but you so into your old habits that subconsciously tell you to make the women lead, that you are not able to think before acting.

What I suggest is that you change this habit. Break your thought process, slow down your brain processing and change the pattern which tells you to make the women lead. Second, whenever you know you are going to be with a women, think ahead of the scenario and make a to-do list type thing about how you're going to lead.

Practice and practice alot. Failure is just feedback.

You have to let go of your past and just Do It! Its just that simple even though getting to that point can be difficult.


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Like the guy above me said, just do it. Just fucking do it. If the outcome is positive, hell yes. If not, who cares? It's better than not trying. And let me tell you something, 99% of women are not going to lead. It would be too easy if they did, and it would make things a lot less rewarding for us in the end, wouldn't it?

Ta for advice.
Have been thinking about leading and alot of guys I notice who are alphas tend to have tendancies towards being abit arseholyer than though about them. I have watched the video on Muhammid Ali in his hey day on Parkinson as a good alpha role model and he didnt come across at all as a big head - just lead the show - it was great to watch but a bit sparse on info on how to act on a whole for self to know.
But now am aware about leading/ alpha behaviour and its not about being obnoxious cocky (and unpopular like alot of guys in manager/ supervisor jobs) its about winning over your audience so they like you and want to know what your going to say next(basic).
More research like Chief said! You just got to know what your stage is your at(use your common sence) and pick through each sticking point one at a time.

I got just the thing for ya:
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