Ive noticed theres different threads about routines, negs, how to disarm AMOGs etc...
I want to start a list of things to talk about while your having a conversation, I dont want to talk about the casual stuff everyone else is talking about like

PUA: What do enjoy doing with your spare time?
BH: sport, photography, getting out of the house.....
PUA: whats your most memorable photograph and why
HB: blah blah blah

Which turns into an argument about Adolf Hitler lol
So If you guys have any conversation or a list of conversation ideas thats cool and interesting which are not stories about the past like

PUA: What do you enjoy doing with your spare time?
HB: sport photography....
PUA: Oh I used to play ...., It was my first year playing and......

Something more under the radar not like bragging about yourself

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2) Those who watch what happens
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well ill tell you what i do, i cant say its the best but its what i do

my conversation revolves around qualifying her, just getting to know her, joking around and shooting the shit


the qualifying part is credited to "chiefs guide to outer game" in that i do it right off the bat and till the end, although i originally got the idea from Tyler's "can you cook? because if you cant cook where breaking up "

and then ill talk about whatever interests me really. This weekend just, i just talked about my grandad as he's came down and his craziness. nothing great.

an idea i had was to write a list of every subject or area that interests you or you would like to ask questions about, then top it up with anything that happens to you throughout the day that could be used for conversation and use it, as long as you find it interesting.

get to know her from a serious point of view, i believe girls like it when someone genuinley wants to hear about their day when they have mutual respect/attraction. then talk about that for a while, if they just say "not much" i might just say "oh come on everyones done something, im interested".

if im paying compliments its more like "you know you put a lot of effort into looking good everyday", if she's dressed well and groomed as i believe girls like it when someone appreciates the effort they go through to look good.

i cant say it works as this area is where im trying to improve but its what i do. the gist; whatever i find interesting and that also includes her, as i should find her interesting too.

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1. get the girl to talk
2. shut up and listen
3. escalate
4. make out when she stops talking
5. ???
6. PROFIT!!!

i like that

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i like shahanshah's reply i think he is spot on!! but just one slightly wierd suggestion, if you are really struggling to think of what to say cos your mind has gone desperatly blank and you are both sitting there in awkward silence you can do the a-z list of conversation topics

you can start anywhere in the alphabet but lets say you start with m
M: ask her what kind of Music she likes
N: what Newspaper she reads, what is her Nickname
O: what does she think about Online dating
P: what goes best with Peanut butter / favourite Pizza toppings
Q: what is the wierdest Question she has ever been asked (does she like watching QI - UK only question)

A: does she like animals (and did she ever have a pet)
B - what was her favourite Blackadder episode (UK only again)/has she ever broken any Bones
C: What was her favourite Cartoon when she was a kid/first Car

ok you get the picture

ok obv you can vary the actual topics and you wont need to go through the whole alphabet before you manage to get the regular conversation back on track again, in fact two letters will probably do it, but it can even be fun trying to make up questions for that relate to the next letter, and you can even make it into a game where you can take turns asking each other questions about the next letter

whatever you do, be REALLY interested in what ever she replies

also here is a great couple of links to questions you can ask your girlfriend and dating conversation starters http://searchwarp.com/swa45156.htm and http://searchwarp.com/swa45156.htm and http://www.saviodsilva.net/philosophical-questions.htm

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Helen: "Always look on the bright side of life"?
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Conversational rules I like to go by.

Turn questions into statements, e.g. instead of "where do you live?" say "something tells me you're not from around here" or "that's such a southern thing to say!" She will either say "omg how did u know" or start qualifying herself to you, or ask why you thought that. Either way you get the information but you've started a conversation rather than just gotten a one-word bored response.

If she is on a really dull or useless conversational thread "where's your off button?" or "you know you're still talking right?" or just change topic with "oh the weirdest thing happened" or "that reminds of this time when"

When telling stories, pause for effect, and try and elicit things out of her by taking time to say "and I felt so confused...have you ever felt like that" or "and my friend, who's always getting way to drunk, you must have a friend like that..." or "have you ever been there / seen that / heard that" etc. This opens up new threads that she creates, and you can keep going with that one, open a new one, or go back to your original story. This is important because you want to be generating new threads rather than just trying to milk every last drop out of one until it gets stale. That's how you create that feeling that you never run out of things to say to each other.

Always try to steer conversations towards subjects you have mastery of, or topics that you can tell an interesting story about. Displaying knowledge and understanding, especially of subjects she's interested in, is a better DHV than talking about the time you roundhouse kicked Chuck Norris and the galaxy imploded. I always end up talking about psychology, evolution, male and female interactions, and boom, I've displayed understanding and intelligence, and we're now talking about SEX

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[ Sorry Vaj I have to disagree with 1 and 2, Ive been listening to girls for a very long time and I believe if you cant talk/speak up theres no point in listening. What I mean by this is say if they bitch and moan I never had the courage to tell them to shut up in a nice way, so what Ive been doing is just listen and be a fake by actually letting her believe Im interested in what she says, hence the reason I dont want to sound like any average guy whil[/code]e Im talking to her by asking question on how her day went etc...
How can I make more statements while Im having a conversation rather then to ask alot of questions?
If she tells me how her day was and Im actually interested in the convo

HB: I went shopping then we got coffee with.....
ME: theres a coffee shop around the corner from there, they have a better environment....
HB: *blank look* ('are you serious?' look)

Ive also noticed my conversation are more like a life coach, how can I break this?
I do the same and they actualy get annoyed because they think Im doing a life coaching session!
This is brilliant man haha!!

So far so good guys thanks
theyve helped alot

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Three Types of Players:
1) Those who doesn't know whats happening
2) Those who watch what happens
3) Those who make it happen

Waited a while to see where this thread would go. Guys, this is seriously depressing.

1. Read.
2. Write.
3. Travel.
4. Converse.

And
This is NEVER a good idea. Unless of course you are in fact interested in her menstrual cycle, hand bags, and why _____ is a bitch.

Yeah, when you won't go further than points 1 and 2, it'll suck.

OMFG
You can listen AND escalate at the same time.


Stop wasting your time.

Can you talk to guys? Basically the same thing.

You are allowed to get bored if you are bored.

My advice is talking about stuff I like. Like relationships, seduction, inner strength and belgian beer.

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bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I never really thought about your idea, Thanks
I find women more dificult to vibe off then guys, you can talk about sports, women, cars, etc...
I can talk to a guy easily, but with women its like
HB: I went to school today....
Me: Oh yeah.... great.......
Thats really boring!

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Three Types of Players:
1) Those who doesn't know whats happening
2) Those who watch what happens
3) Those who make it happen