| So, long story short. Talking to this girl I am REALLY interested in, and generally, when I don't care about the girl, I have some good natural game. However, when I do start to care, I completely fuck it up... So, there is this girl that I met online (lives 6 hours away, is going to move near me for other reasons), we been talking since mid August, was suppose to come see me in September, but we had a dispute about her problems such as : being closed off, not continuing conversation, seeming withdrawn when texting me. We resolved that issue (in the manner of not talking about it -.-), but not in time for her to meet me, her DUI sentence kicked in and she couldn't drive up to see me for whole October. I could of seen her anytime this month, but no cash for it. Sooo....
PROBLEM
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So the problem I have now is maintaining a higher level of interest like I initially had with her. It is hard to maintain talk for 4 months about random shit and not see the person.
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Anyway, I pretty much figured her out and why the way she is after talking to her for a while. This is how it is with me and her, she is interested, but it seems to be a slight interest to a medium interest. Nothing that is making her DYING to see me, trying to reach that level. We pretty much talk every single day at least for a couple texts to hours of texting...
Now, I recently found out what may be stopping her from liking me more, and it was another dude she was involved with in an on\off relationship that was long distant. He was married and was suppose to leave his wife for her. They don't talk, but I know he was playing her so bad with not being able to talk\text\email\SPAM\write letters or anything while he was doing his contracting work. They probably met up for a little while every 4 months or some shit like that. Anyway, I know the reason she built up so much emotion is because she couldn't talk to or see him. , but she is so set on the fact that he loves her. Anyway, she found out he left his wife for another girl recently, and she is devastated. She also got fired from her job that same day, and her birthday was the next day. After talking to her for a whole bunch via text (she HATES phone calls, I'll explain later), I told her this ... mind you this was a "in the sappy moment" kind of text, but I do think I could of worded it better.
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I was trying to demonstrate I am not afraid of losing her, but at the same time I fucked up and admitted I was afraid of losing her.
Me: Just so you know, I do like you, but what's more important is that you are happy. I really do wish some how you get in contact with him again and can connect again. I hope he see's he's making a big mistake.
(next day after no response... had a long convo before that all day)
Me: Hey, I think I'd be good if we both take some time to ourselves. I don't want to become someone's go to guy when they have problems, I been that guy before a few times. Nothing good comes of it and I always get hurt somehow in the end. We also are obviously into someone else and won't be able to focus on each other with them in our mind. If we just talk normally, I'm going to become one of those guys that are just your friends and nothing more, I'm not going to go through that again. Maybe we will talk in a few weeks or something.
So, I typed this up after we had a long talk about our EXs and were very emotional. It actually stirred me up when I was past my ex and over it mostly. That put me in a state where I seemed weak and vulnerable while talking to her, but before it could get worse, I thought I would deploy this tactic. Mind you the day I said this stuff, she just found out about her "ex", she just got fired, and her birthday was the next day. I believe even if she hates me for "abandoning" her at this time in her life, I already mailed her a $100 yankees jersey, she is a HUUUUGGGGEEEE yankees fan, and a card that pretty much just says "See you soon, hope you enjoy your gift -Jim" ... She should get that gift by 11\16\10, and that should stir up some feelings for me, hopefully. Haven't talked to her since, since being 11\12\10 days lol...
Oh, and one last note, which I tested, whenever she is told she CAN'T do something, she wants to do it. We got in a dispute about her not liking to talk on the phone, I finally told her just don't call me if it bothers you that much. Three days later she calls me... didn't call me for a month before that.
=====QUESTION=====
Should I wait for her to text me first, even if that means waiting a month? Otherwise, when should I text her and how should I re-open it?
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