Been running after a hot chick for a while. She's no good to have a relationship and a few weeks later I met an other cute girl. She came up to me and I had never seen her before but she finds me attractive (looked for me on facebook).

Since the first time we met she texted me almost daily. It's been going on for 2 weeks now.
So I asked her out to the movies. She's a bit shy so I assumed that she would feel more comfortable if her girl friend would join us on the date. But her friend could not be there that evening and the hot girl asked me if I wanted to come to a party in the neighbourhood.

I went there, but there were a lot of guy friends around her and it was no place to get to know her.

Problem 1: A guy that I've known for a year (we're not friends) is in love with the girl. She claims that he is her best friend but he only wants to have sex with her. I have recently found out that he has told her that I'm no good to hang out with but she still texts me anyway

Problem 2: Her best girl friend has feelings for me. I did not answer them. She's fun but she is far less attractive

Problem 3: My other friends are trying to hook me up with a unattractive girl who is their close friend. She has feelings for me too but I feel zero sexual attraction to her. I told my friends that I like her but we'll never be more than friends and now some of them are mad for me being too shortsighted..

This evening we go out with a group. The hot girl is there. So is her girl friend with feelings for me and so is that ugly girl that my friends want me to hook up with..

What's my plan?

I am at the moment seeing 3 women and it has turned out rather well for me. Your problem one girl that texts you gives you an edge to become a secret. This is an awesome thing. Get her to come to your place and be fun, silly, or whatever and show that you are not what the friend says you are.

Make open contact with the best friend. She can be the tool you need to get with your text girl. Once you have something "no matter how big or small" with the best friend the text girl will feel more of a need to reach out to you. Even if it's for her friend.

You can use this to make a secret relationship, saying how you can't be serious with her because you are kinda seeing her best friend and you don't want the guy friend getting involved in your business. This can turn into a friends with benifits situation, and the more secretive it is, the better it becomes, but the more explosive it can become later if you can't manage it.

Girl three, go out with her. She'll have friends that you can add to your social circle. If you never do anything with her, a public friendship with her can also play into your hands by making the other 2 feel that you have a larger social life than they had originally figured.

Yeah, you might want to try the "make out and lead on" card with girl #3. Women use it all the time on guys, why not use it on the 3rd girl, and get our to be baking you cookies, and cleaning your place for at least a solid couple of months. And hey, if it doesn't work out with the other two girls, you have a legitimate drunk booty call.

@ I am seeing 3 women:
Do you mean that you are going out with 3 girls or that you have a sexual contact with all 3 of them?

I met all 3 girls yesterday and this is how it went..
There was a birthday party and the hot girl and her girl friend with feelings for me were there. I had some fun in conversations with both of them. My friends were sitting close to us and after an hour, the guy who tries to hook me up with that ugly chick mentioned that she was coming to the center of the town that same evening (Our total group was planning to go there too)
He said that she had been texting with him about me and that the ugly chick wants to meet me so bad.

I found this a total cockblock and I told him that I was going to ignore her. That he shouldn't be mad about it because I had already warned him before. I stated that I had already told him 10 times that I'm not gonna be with her and that he should stop giving her hope. I didn't say it with an angry voice or something but I wanted to make myself clear.

So we went downtown but the hot girl was already gone. I stayed there with her friends but left an hour later. Haven't spoken to the ugly girl and she doesn't have any hot friends so I don't see a point in getting to know her better

I'm in a sexual relationship with all three. I don' t really count it unless sex is involved.

Establishing something something with the ugly girl is a good thing for social reasons. If you can convinence her that your not good boyfriend material or not compatible then you may get a texting buddy and your friends can leave you alone about her. On the other hand, unless your friends really see your situation as hopeless with the hot girl or her friend, then they will eventually stop pushing the ugly girl on you.

If you can make the ugly girl a text buddy, becuaes it sounds like she likes texting, then you'll have a girl texting you as a friend infront of the other girls. It will show higher value on your part.

I use to have friends that did the same crap. It's funny how someone whos supposed to be your friend will screw you up with best intentions.

So basically you are saying that I should use the ugly girl to get to know more women and establish a high value status for other girls.
A lot of women say that they hate your attitude (having a sexual relationship with 3 women) but tbh I think it turns them on sexually.
I am a sensitive guy and my belief was always that I should only have sex with a girl I'm really in love with. That vision has limited me in my contact with women and I regret it that my parents have tought me those values.

I'm not hopeless, in fact I'm more attractive than the average guy for women and more attractive than my friends. But my lack of experience with women is a turn off for most of them and it's time to do smth about it.

The hot girl likes to talk about sex and has had many relationships. I don't think she really cares about who I am and I have heard that she has a tough time getting over her ex. If she wants to use me for it that's fine. I'd rather be in that situation than having to lie to someone who is really in love with me

To be honest. I spent 15 years with your values. I got married out of highschool to a girl I thought was my soulmate. I worked hard to get her to fall for me "2 years" actually. When I told her I can't be her friend anymore because it was breaking my heart she waited 2 weeks to come to me and we were a couple for years after.

My father never gave me any tips either, although one of my most vivid memories was telling him I was getting married. In turn he replied "Son your 21 years old. You should be out fucking anything that walks. If you think this girls for you, then she'll be around when you get sick of it." Until that day the most we talked about was playing baseball.

I thought my dad was a saint till then. He's still married to my mother after 48 years.

I quit trying to find THE GIRL and just became more social and the women I have now, though it is friggin complicated fell into my lap. If anything they help me. One knwos of the other 2 and doesn't care. One wants me to commit to her but does the friends with benifits deal to not loose me even though she know of one of the 3. The other is an ex that won't let go, and even though I know I'm making it hard for her to let go by having sex with her. She even has boyfriends. Point is ... they all have their own thing going. My Idea of women has changed because of it. I don't need to provide or protect them, if I do I mean less to them. All I have to do is tell them I have something to do and can't see them "meaning I'm meeting one of them later" and the other 2 want me more.

I want to get good at pick up so i can actually get away from this situation, but I know what makes women tick.

You mentioned your a sensitive guy and raised to believe you should love and have sex with one girl. That concept messed me up many times. Not being able to get it up very well from over thinking is a horrible thing. Once you rethink women, those concepts change.

Also If the girl I see only for sex didn't know that I was somewhat seeing the other 2, she would have never jumped on the idea of being a sex buddy. There are women that like the idea, because it shows your desirable.

Just pulling in information from this forum, I can see how things I do that I have been sucessful with work, and I have been able to see good changes in the way I carry myself as well. Just keep reading thru the forums and follow advice and you'll make the changes you need.