Just a brief pep talk to remind everyone about the power of confidence. I see a lot of guys on this forum get discouraged about women because of looks, money, social life, race, age, experience, etc.

We have all seen men who are labed as "losers" because they do drugs, crime, don't work, or live at home in their mothers basement. YET a lot of these men still get laid by attractive women. Why is this? Well.. its because they choose to define themselves rather than letting their "situation" define them. Avoid the mindset of "I'm a loser because.... etc"

You are only a "loser" if you believe you are a loser. When you accept yourself others will too. When you don't apologize for who you are and how you live... people will be surprising accepting of you and even admire you.

You don't have to have a nice car, the latest style, love to dance, etc. However you choose to live... women will accept it as long as YOU accept it. One reason most relationships fail is because the people in them don't accept themselves. They try to follow the standard society sets even when it goes against who they are. You can never be happy in a relationship where you are putting on an act. The most admired people in the world are often the most unconventional. They are the ones with the balls to show the world they are unique and not ashamed of it.

One example of this is my love for what many consider "girly drinks". I will drink "girly" drinks at bars with my male friends AND with women. I will also order salads for lunch sometimes. At first people would make comments... but I would laugh it off and continue to drink these drinks and eat these salads because thats what I enjoy. Guess what? People stopped caring. But if I got all embarrassed about it and showed insecurity... I would get attacked even more. My mindset is: " I do whatever the fuck I want and I need no ones approval but my own". If a woman refuses to date you because you ate salad for lunch or because you ordered a "sex on the beach" at a restaurant.. she is a close minded flake. Best to weed her out earlier rather than later.

So the moral of the story is: define yourself on YOUR own terms. If you think you are awesome.. so will others (and if they don't... fuck'em)

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

You probably ment courage....

A lot of the time, people don't have such a problem with the situation itself, but just use it as an excuse why they believe that they can't do whatever. Believe you can't do something, and you most likely can't.

Oh and chicks' drinks are delicious

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"I tell a girl in a minute, I drive a bucket. She can ride or walk, either leave it or love it." NWA - I Ain't Tha 1

Wow, this is exactly what I needed to see tonight. Thanks alot for the post

Stop caring is good advice for stuff like wether you like girly drink or the colour pink. But not when you're living in your mum's basement and regularly visit PU-forums without getting any.

So true

When me and some of my friends where at a bar last saturday, and orderd the drinks, I was the only one to order something without alcohol (im just not into it). Offcours the whole place thinks this is sad, and they ask me wheter or not I would like to have a straw whit it, just to make fun of me .

I looked at them and said: "Yes, I demand it"

No comments after that.

You could say anything, just never seem to doubt jourself.

One of my friends from high school lives in his mothers basement and plays Call of Duty when he isn't working at Target. But he still gets action from hot girls. Mostly the ones he meets at work.. but still.

Nothing can stop you but yourself.

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

Good for him,

But I wouldn't suggest living this lifestyle to a newbie (who probably already is living that lifestyle minus the pussy)

If one changes the way he lives, it is much easier to also change his own behaviour. As opposed to saying "keep living in your mums basement"

Once someone has made a radical change, other changes will follow (as you adapt to your new situation)

How easy do you want to make it for yourself?


Telling a girl you still live in your mums basement without feeling any shame takes a strong personality, a personality most new guys don't have yet.

As opposed to fixing your life thus far you can tell a girl "I live with friends, it's awesome" without feeling any negative emotions.

These are just examples, but I think you get my point.

Stop making excuses NOT to improve, because it's so easy making those steps forward and actually improve.
You unnecessarily limit yourself by telling yourself "nah, I don't have to improve, I'll just act like I don't care"

Again "I don't care" is great for drinking girly drinks. But not for your way of living life. I just want to make that clear.

I know what you mean and I agree with you. My message is not that guys should not improve themselves and try to be better men. You should aways be trying to improve... not to get women but because its what YOU want for yourself.

My point was not to let your current situation keep you from getting laid. You may live in your mothers basement NOW with every intention of moving out eventually... but don't say "I can't get laid until I love out". You can still get laid. But only "improve" because its what you want for yourself... not JUST for women.

Regardless of where you are in your life.. there is no reason to let it screw up your sex life. Don't be ashamed of living at home.. you are doing the best you can with what you have and you will eventually move out. No big deal!

Thats what I was trying to say.

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

I agree with most of this, I am younger, no choice but to live at home. But I get laid, there should be no excuses. If you have the ability to change your situation for the better, DO IT. Do not just sit on the computer, go to parties, hang out with friends.

Thanks for balancing it out, I was hoping you'd post this.