| Try to keep this as brief as possible because I'd really appreciate responses. All of these are more or less unrelated.
Girl #1, we'll call her J. HB9. Met up with her a few months ago via facebook. I saw that she liked to run so running we did together. Our second meet up I went over her house late at night. We watched television together and I put my arm around her at one point. Fast forward to hanging out a few more times, mostly running. I met her parents. One night I was over late and we ended up laying on her bed. It was around midnight-1 and I suggested spending the night and she said maybe some other time. She's giving me lots of IOIs, but is super busy and elusive to the point where she barely responds to texts. Finally I ask her after a run one day what does she see with us. She says she's not really ready for a relationship, busy, blah blah, and asks me. I tell her I like her. We had a break from school in about a month at that point so I suggest maybe when break comes around we'll get something started. She says that sounds good.
Week before break we're talking on facebook. She says she was too busy to hang out a day I suggested and I said something like, "Aw you're killing me, J. I'm just hoping it will be worth it though." and she dropped the bomb that she only sees me as a friend, nothing more. I've been crushed ever since (almost two months). We haven't really hung out since, but I see her in school now and then and she's still super friendly and talks to me. I want to win her back so badly.
Girl #2. In the middle of the J situation, I met S (HB6). S had a crush on me for a few weeks, so prior to asking J what my situation was with her, I did a lot of making out with S on random weekends. I had class with her and we held hands and whatnot. After J rejected me, S and I stayed close. Then suddenly, it was like she became busy too (you can see why this worried me). I still had class with her, so I reacted very negatively towards her. She asked me if I had something against her and I said I thought it was the opposite since she doesn't seem to want to hang out anymore. She says she's just been busy and we kind of smooth things over.
Last night I was at a club that I had prior knowledge she was going to be at (but I didn't go to see her). She finally shows up and we say hellos and kind of part ways. I was dancing with this girl I have no interest in, but making sure I was looking like I was having the time of my life. S definitely saw me and after about 30 minutes, she was nowhere to be seen. Jealous? I was thinking of sending her a text today, something along the lines of, "Hey, too cool to save a dance for me last night? Haha." For the record, I did want to dance with her to rekindle what we had.
Finally, Girl #3, call her A (HB9). I have only briefly spoken to her (did I miss xx bus? You go to my school? Where are you from?). She lives in my building and her roommate rides the bus with me a few times a week. Her roommate is taken, so I am pretty committed to getting a decent friendship with her if it will lead me to the roommate. She showed me a picture of her A's halloween costume and I mentioned that I've seen her around and that she was cute. The roommate just kind of agreed that she's a total barbie.
The last time I saw the roommate I said, "I think I saw your roommate yesterday. I was gonna say hi, but she didn't seem to approachable." The roommate told me that A isn't really social and she would probably either call me a weirdo or ignore me if I just tried to randomly talk to her and mention that I knew her roommate. But then the roommate said that A would then probably come to her and ask about me and once the roommate tells A that that's her "bus buddy" she would be alright and talk to me from then on out. Not sure if I'm confident in this scenario playing out. But how do you think I can use the roommate to get A, especially knowing they both live in my building?
Appreciate any perspective to any of these problems.
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