Hello guys. I'm new here and well, I'm in need of solutions to win the heart of ex girlfriend of 2 years + back. We broke up in mid may, and since she initiate the break up, I was hoping for her to initiate the first move. I withdraw myself after about a month and pretend, show, her I did moved on but I still contact her at times.

Everytime we met, i always emphasize on if she did want to make things work and if she did really love me, prove it to me, afterall she's the one initiating it. But I don't seem she got it.

Few days back, she told me she had plans to go back to her ex before me. The emotion turn down did woke me up and make me read on Double your dating and The game.

So to make things short, how do I go about winning her heart back? In a way whereby it would make her give another thought on her decision. I did manage get her in the confusion state or should I say dilemma, yesterday, but she texted me regarding her decision today. I replied saying that I know what she's up to and I'm ready to catch her when she fall.



I know I have to start from scratch. I'm ready for it.

Come on man, the best way to get over an Ex is simple freeze her out dont text her on daily basis better yet dont call her never wait for her to initiate the contact never you. Well you pretend to move on but you still contacted her lol. Just because of that, she knew you didnt get over her.

Let me explain your girlfriend dilemma here: She proabbly loves you or not(I dont know) but she broke up for a reason, girls dont like wuss guys that all, needy and shit. With that atitude you given all her power you like saying, Hey go date every guy you want i will be waiting for you. BELIEVE ME IT WONT WORK she will compare you to other guys she will make her decisions base on that, even IF she loves, she will date alot of guys until you become nothing more than a memorie. why because you waited for her like a puppy and she has a leash on you. She had all the power in the interaction

Let me tell you a story of a girl friend I have, she had boyfriend they broke it up. her boyfriend was devasted i never seen no one take it so seriously he would go to the beach to cry(geez) so he put in his head that he will do anything to get her ex back. Sent txt, mail everys ingle day saying he missed her bla bla bla. He just got stuck in the moment, my girl friend start dating this other guy, but the guy was a complete asshole and she start beginning to compare the qualities and the flaws of the two, and she reach a conclusion her Ex was better, so after two months fucking another guy, and since the Ex was waiting eagerly for her to return , she broke it up and got back on the same day with him, she didnt love her but he was safe bet, he made her feel good made her self esteem higher, but she wasnt in love, was only a logical move like chess. Well they got back together but it wont last much. Because he has that guy in her hand and she is looking for someone new believe when she finds him or get bored she will dump him quickly,
Do you wanna be that guy?


Im on the same boat has you, and every guy on the seduction community will say there are plenty girls out there. but since we are in love we dont give a shit to this crap advice lol but we should.

But truth be told really if you wanna get her back the BEST WAY TO DO IT is simple move on dont contact her, try and game new girls use the material this forum has to offer, whatever put your objective simple getting girls so your ex girlfriend can see you are doing well, And maybe only maybe you will find a NEW girl without you even realizing and forgetting your Ex, or maybe your EX will notice what the other girls are noticing too, that you are funny and you haved changed for the better and she will want a piece of the action too, jealousy is a powerfull feeling. Girls are competitive seriously
Be nice to here but not supernice like a friend but dont give her much attention. BRAKE THE LEASH SHE HAS ON YOU. Show her your poker face , be indiferent, Dont asnwer immedialley the phone or better dont pickup it up she will call you again if not send her text. Dont text her back right away wait hours or even a day. She needs to feel she is losing you. that you are moving on.

You guys can talk about your relationships only the good things, and try to revive her memory with non verbal phrases things that she like, for example cocky smile you did, or something funny you use to do, only for her.Things that she told you she like.

And always do the opossite you are think. when she finds that you move on she will probably start missing you, how the hell can you start missing someone if you dont lose it, she hasnt.

So bottom line go do sports exercise everday so your body produces endorfine and you will be able to be more healhy and happier , and your girl will see that and FOR GODS SAKE GO GAME OTHER GIRLS. Best of luck.

Thanks Carlos424 for the advice.

To add spice to which she would realise, a friend suggested;

Do something sweet which had an impact on her, withdraw, and come back as someone better.

Any objection or improvement to this idea above?

Personally I think you are on the wrong track trying to win her back. As you stated she initiated the breakup and she must have had ample reason to do so, girls rarely break up with a guy they have been dating for 2+ years without good reason. While I understand that you are not over this girl and that you still have deep feelings for her my best advice would be to distance yourself until you feel that you can have some form of interaction with her without thinking solely about being back with this girl.

But I won't just lecture to you, if you are indeed set on trying to win her back then my best advice would be to remind her why she was dating you in the first place. Remember what you did to win her over the first time, look at all the parts of you she found attractive enough to date initially and work from there.

But what you should absolutely not do is make yourself come across as desperate to have her back. It would be a mistake to be too obvious about your intentions, she is the one who needs to realise that she was better off with you, not the other way around.

Sorry I didnt see this , and i Edit my first post with more advices if you wanna go check it out . Well I dont understand can you elaborated this. And remember she is the one that should initiate the talk not the other way around

I guess I've elaborate my situation wrongly. I should add in more details.

- she initiated the break up.
- was still kissing her ass for a month.
- withdraw, but kept in touch with her. Rarely would I initiate contact unless for certain reasons whereby she is more experience at.
- she did show signs of regret, but no initiative i could see that she made.
- she really did thought that i moved on, through the way i talk, act, etc and bcoz of this 1 point, she making a move. but i'm just taking it as a reasons she used to make me feel how she felt before. ( it could be wrong )

Thanks TrueSense for your opinion and tips.

As for Carlos424, what I meant was,
Do one thing that she would definitely remember, withdraw and learn more things at the same time improvising it before I did face up to her with a change and better me.

Well for the signs of regrets , sometimes is shit tests, my ex have done this million times to see if she has the power, now ofc thats trickery to see if her intentions are honest or not, for me its hard too see and since i dont know if she playing me or not i try to be completly indiferent to her actions

Yeah that is nice ideia Mezan you should try it.

Follow your heart is all I can say.

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