ahh cultural norms eh... i'm canadian, obviously we have some things that are rude to talk about, but usually only if it affects that person in a first hand manner (clearly i'd never ask that question if i knew she had a family member involved in the tragedy).

i've field tested, it works for me. Depends on your culture I suppose.

One thing that I do realize here is that one needs to get the girl in the mood. Because well, as we all know, it's all about how she feels. The amount of talking that she'll do after a kiss or a backrub.. is simply a lot more and free flowing.

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well she is his gf, so i think that classes as a close friend; plus is she the average club girl or is she something more special/intelligent who enjoys a bit of sparking rational analysis of a controversial article in the Independent/Radio4????
personally i would love to discuss what i think about building a mosque next to ground zero, i would welcome a guy asking my opinion on that and debating it intelligently
am also interested in psychology, travel, childhood experiences...the whole list really, dont know how typical or otherwise i am really - but each of these topics can open up a whole subset of other related topics
the thing about actual relationships, as opposed to just having sex with someone, is that they should be ideally based on some level of shared interests and intellectual level/compatibility
its always good to ask her about her day/week ...if you dont already do this, make a mental note of anything she tells you that is a concern to her (write it down if need be) eg annoying mother, problems at work, sick cat whatever....) and then make sure to ask her how that thing is going next time you see her - you dont have to care about mother/colleague/cat per se ...you are just showing that you listen to her and care about what is on her mind/of importance to her....women love it if you listen

if you talk about what interests you and she isnt interested in that, or you ask her to list 10 random things she is interested in and you arent interested in any of them, then maybe you need to question how compatible you two are

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So ... ariana ... what uhm ... what do you think about the mosque being build in NYC, huh ?

LOL

(I think I've just watched too much How I Met Your Mother )

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