Been lurking for few days here and figured I should probably introduce myself.

My story is probably similar to many other stories out there. Guy meets a girl, they fall in love, girl falls out of love and dumps the guy, the guy feels like he'll be alone forever, then he decides it's time for a change...

My gf dumped me two months ago after 5 years of relationship, before that I had another long term realtionship of 4 years and some short term relationships before that. I hooked up with my current ex without even trying so basically I've been out of the game for 9 years (I'm 31 now). On top of that, my ex was the firs person I met when I arrived to USA and my only gf in this country, all my friends are mutual friends and after breakup I felt very isolated because i had to avoid so many people in order to avoid her.

Finally I realized that some things have to change so I started reading and watching videos how to pick up women and meet people in general. I'm very easy going person but I have hard time making real friends. I'd describe myself as shy and approaching people for me was always hard.

Even though I'm far from being able to confidently approach woman and get a date, this forum and all those videos definitely helped me to become more open socially. I'm at the point where I can talk to people everywhere, and It's amazing how easy it is, I hardly ever get rejected when I try to start a convo with someone!

I talk to baristas, bartenders, servers, bouncers... Yesterday I had small talk with HB7 at parking box while I was waiting for my turn to pay. I had no idea how to take it to another level but I still have a lot to learn.

It's amazing how people respond to self confidence. The other day I was passing by the car that was about to be picked up by the tow truck and saw a guy rushing towards the car. He wanted to talk to the tow truck driver and normally in this situation I wouldn't say anything, but this time I just told the guy authoritatively and confidently "get in a car", he automatically complied and I just shortly explained "he can't tow the car if you're sitting inside". He thanked me.

Finding self confidence feels good, it's not only for picking up girls. People remember me now, while before I felt like Billy Bob Thornton in "the man who wasn't there". I met the owner of this pizza joint near my house the other day and when I yesterday I went there to get some food, she remembered me.

When I started reading about all this I thought it was all BS, but I can already see the results. When I read about Kino and touching people I thought it would never work. I'm naturally not very touchy person, but I field tested it and so far it worked. I tried it with two hot bartenders the other night, I put my arm around them while ordering my drink, next time I approached they did the same, they remembered me and smiled (before I always had hard time getting bartenders attention)! I wonder how far can I get with all this...

I know this is a very long read but I'm very excited to become part of this community and I just wanted to share my experiences.

Good for you, man. You miss 100% of the shots you don't take. Rejection is just adding experience. Noone will be laughing at you if you try and don't succeed with women.

The beauty of this is you can't lose!

Sounds like you are making progress! I totally agree with s3aSon3d. What people call failure or rejection is really an opportunity to learn something new that you didn't know before. Stay positive and you will be amazed with the results.

Thanks for reply's,

Even though I yet have to reach the point where I'm comfortable approaching women, I feel great improvement in the way I communicate to people. Last night I stopped by this fast food joint and had a really nice conversation with a guy who works there. my old self would probably just have ordered food, picked it up and left.

Later I was texting my friend and ended up cracking her up so bad that she even asked me "you just made my day, what's going on with you, how are you coming up with all this shit" she's married to my friend so I have no intentions there. It's just funny how my attitude towards everything changed! I love it! When I speak, people listen to me and value my opinion, I never felt like that before!

I don't know how I did it but I changed from a person of very low self esteem and confidence into a very confident person almost overnight! I still have to work on my game and many other things, but I'm very CONFIDENT in myself and I know I'll make it!