So i met this chick at a Halloween party and i got to third base. So she texts me through a mates phone saying how she had a bf and regretted the situation and said if circumstances were different things couldve been better. She also said she wanted to friends. I replied via facebook saying that she didnt have to worry too much about it and i wouldnt tell anyone about what we did that night. And than over the next 3 days we were constantly messaging each other over facebook all up probs around 40 private messages. She has stated that she only wants this to be a platonic relationship.

So its been approx. 5 days since we've messaged each other. Knowing that she has a bf should i leave this one alone? OR should i go and ask her out for a coffee ect. And if i were to carry through, How would i go about asking her out for a coffee without sounding like its going to be a date.

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I'd rather hear no, than never know

Since she wants to be friends, just ask her to hang out casually. You can come up with many excuses to meet up in guise of a friendship. Tell her you wanna see this recent movie but all your friends have already seen it and you don't feel like watching it alone, then ask if she want to tag along. If a girl wants your company she usually wouldn't tell you or mind that she had already watched it before. If she does say that she had already watched it, just tell her you'll find someone else. You can also call her up and say that you suddenly feel inspired to do some exercise or something and ask if she wanna jog or cycle with you so that you won't feel bored doing it alone.

Just think about what you ask your friends out for and how, then it would all be easy peasy. You can game her once she agrees to go out with you.

Personally I don't mess around with taken women. It'll get you into trouble...

That being said, it sounds like she might be interested in you despite having a boyfriend.

What a load of crap she is obviously attracted to you! who invests emotionally in someone like this? for a platonic relationship?

You sexually escalated your initial encounter so base the reason to remain in contact off of that unless your some sort of spiritually enlightened guru who floats around rooms with a golden aura there is no other reason that she MUST become friends with you... she has probably sized you up and either wants you groomed as possible next boyfriend material, or is deeply attracted to you and is basically allowing herself to get attached so something can just 'happen' accidentally between two fuckbu... er... 'friends' without the guilt of an encounter with a stranger!

/ramble off