I think this girl at work is interested in me. But she has a long term boyfriend but it all changed from the news she told me today...

We've worked together for about a year now, but I'll probably see her once a week if that some times, due to us having different shifts every week, she normally works in the morning and I work in the afternoon.

We got on fine, nothing ever real serious just got on like work people do, but I always liked her (I don't think she knew this or doesn't) and I was starting to get the feeling she liked me. When I would look up, I would often find her looking at me and such. Today when I made it crop up in conversation she said she people watches, I didn't make it obvious that I was asking why she looks at me, I was transitioning conversation perfectly today.

We had a shift together and we messed around a lot play fighting and I got one of my main first IOI's off her. She said that I sound like 'her perfect boyfriend' or something very similar, I can't really remember now. We always had a little flirt, but I knew she had a boyfriend so never really progressed anything because I didn't feel it was right and never felt she would leave him.

Cut this short... the other week she was on a shift, and was talking to another work colleague friend of mine making sure I couldn't hear but made it obvious they were talking about me. When I asked what it was about my friend said he couldn't tell me and I said I'd take it as a compliment, he said 'you should do'. I was curious as to what the girl said...

Today, she said 'Ive got something to tell you' and she was about to tell me as another colleague approached she said 'not now, in a minute'. When the colleague left, she told me her boyfriend cheated on her last year when he went away and told her the other day. I asked if she forgive him, she said 'not really' but never said they split up. We talked most the day and had fun and talked about lots of random things while I was transitioning conversation (as I was trying to build comfort). Why did she only feel the need to tell me and no one else?

She eventually asked 'you know what we were talking about last week, did he tell you' I said no, she said 'really?' I said yeh really, what was it. She said she wasn't telling me like she was shy, then a couple of minutes later she said that he was going on a date with her mate but her mate wanted her to go with her. She asked my mate to ask me to come as to make it a 'double date' and when they were whispering, apparently she was saying I was 'hot' etc. But she said it to me like she said it as a joking way. But I do feel this was to shield her from me rejecting because when we've joked before she didn't need to hide it as much?

I took it as an IOI that she picked me (as there were a few others who could of been picked as well)? Right?

It was good, we messed around and stuff and really got on well. One colleague even asked if something was going on between us as we seemed so close all day. I definitely felt there as something there. I was going to try and number close as I asked her to go into town tonight. I thought I'd ask at the end of her shift as we both finished at the same time, but as we were about to leave she got asked to do another job and I felt it would be AFC to hang around and wait, so I left and she turned to me and looked almost geniunely sad to be leaving me.

The thing is, how do I do this without making things awkward now? She could stick with her boyfriend who knows, I just don't want to do anything to make it odd at work (such as asking her out directly and then finding out she doesn't like me afterall.)

How do I get this close?!

These are IOI's right?

Anyway, it might all read a bit confusing, but that's the main jist of the story. Any questions just ask, thanks

First advice would be to make better friends as he should of told you exactly what thy talked about. Second of all her whole story seems sketch... She has a boyfriend and shares the fact that he cheated? And they are still together and she cliffs with you? At the same time nothing really happened from what you said... I think you have oneitis for this girl.

If I written the whole story It would be an essay. It's written sketchy as I've just done it off the top of my head.

Definitely not oneitis that's for sure. I rarely think about her actually when I'm not working with her, she's just down as another girl.

True, most of my 'friends' suck

too add

I don't know what's going to happen between them. As he only told her the other day/night so I think she's still in a situation where she doesn't know what to do. I'm sorry the story sounds odd. But it's real difficult to write every little detail out.

But I can guarentee this isn't oneitis. I have a oneitis but this isn't her!

Invite her out to something fun with some friends of yours and hers. Be fun, the leader, etc. Kino the shit out of her. If you escalate confidently using push-pull you might be fine. I would imagine, however that she will likely bring up the BF, which you have to just ignore and keep her having a great time and kino ploughing, you may be able to push all the way. The other likely scenario is that you get LJBFed. Having other women around, creating jealousy, and sexually escalating confidently will help but will not guarantee you your precious f-close. I would also add that shitting where you eat is not the most awesome idea and it might be better to be LJBF her and game her friends outside of work instead.

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I'm going to work on that. I asked my friend again today and basically she sworn him to keep it a secret but I told him I'm not going to say anything. She basically said she thought I was hot and 'bangable'.

The job thing won't matter as much as I'm on the verge of leaving I believe (although no one at work knows this as I'm not saying anything until it's 100% complete) so I should be able to game her no problems then right?

Right, I need your advice guys because it's moved onto another level now.

We went out last weekend with a couple of other friends and we didn't do much. I got her on her own a couple of times to build up a little rapport and comfort etc.

Anyway, we got into the last bar and everyone was getting a bit tired but she kept getting up to dance inside our little group. She couldn't keep her eyes off me (it wasn't seductive dancing, but every time she looked at me she had a massive grin on her face). Later on going home I got her on her own - she told me she has never looked at anyone twice until me. She said she was splitting up with her boyfriend. I never would do anything whilist she had a bf despite what he did because I don't feel it was right. So in my head I was real happy but kept it cool and just said 'o right ok'.

Anyway, she said she wanted to take things slow between us after she split up with him. Not to mention it to anyone and not to go out exclusively as he's in bits after it happened and she didn't want to hurt him.

We met a couple of times with her mates and I didn't do much kino at all because I didn't want to push it and make her feel uncomfortable. But then again I thought I was on a tightrope as I didn't want to get shoved into a friendzone either. But I stuck to it. Until the one-on-one meet.

We was suppose to just go and watch a film were we weren't really out in public because it's a tight knit area. We ended up going to her mates who she can trust. We had a bit of kino hand holding (i used the claw) etc. Anyway we had a good couple of hours just chilling then when we went home and I got in her car and I k-closed. I know it was probably a bit soon, but she didn't stop and was really enjoying it, she text me saying what a good night she had.

The next morning however she text me saying she felt guilty as it was too soon etc. She said she has feelings for me but needs time to sort her head out as she's in a mess at the moment as her ex is bombarding her and being totally afc about the break up. I was cool and told her I'll give her space to get her head clear as I don't like being selfish and thinking about my needs (a slight dig at her ex without her realising, I'm hoping it worked and increases my attraction and decreases his).

Anyway, what situation am I in here? Have I moved this too quick, is she getting LMR or having buyers remorse as she doesn't want me to think she's too easy?

I've spoke to a couple of you via mail who I keep in contact regularly and been told I've done right by giving her space but I thought I would ask for all of your opinions. Reading back it reads like she's flaking but I'm not sure. She said she can't talk to me or see me at the moment. I think it could be LMR?