It seems the more I try to find girls, the worse results I get. Despite having sex with a small African village amount of women for my lay count, I have come to the conclusion that the more desperate I am, the more desperate the girls. Then they have emotional problems and sometimes are not the most attractive of the female species, but when you are horny, let's be honest, your standards drop a little bit.

Since cutting out my internet "sarging", I have had a lot more time to focus on other areas of my life. Even though work is where I have the most contact with attractive females nowadays, I feel like I have more to relate to them since I'm not surfing the net for pussy at home. Sure I enjoy the company of girls, but I hate being needy, so I learned long ago to relax and let the girls come to me a little more.

There is the basic concept of wants vs. needs in many parts of life. You need food to eat and you want to go to the fancy restaurant, but then you look at your budget and settle for IN and Out or some other fast food. This same concept goes with women. Sure you want a woman, but do you really NEED a woman? Frankly, most girls are rather annoying to me unless I find them really attractive and/or slutty sex-hungry nymphomaniacs. This is just a conclusion that I came to. Hopefully I will find a nice girl soon. The point is, I am in no hurry to chase after females. It's more of a quality control thing now for me.

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Chicoman

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Interesting.

Kind of reminds me of how the mPUA's usually go for quality over quantity in their later years. Or, at least, that's what they tell us they do.

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I've taken sex for granted in my life for over a year now and having recently got a gf in the past month, if we split up I'll be looking for a fuckbuddy right away. So I guess you could say I need girls.

I don't know man. Girls are an exception. Ofcourse you don't litteraly die if you don't have girls, but we have our instincts: our drift to fuck girls is as big, or maybe even bigger, as/than our drift to eat.

I get your point though. We've all experienced before: girls who we realy like and want seem so difficult (or used to be), and girls about who you don't give a shit, are acting too available.

Girls you like don't like you, but girls you don't like like you. This irony is strangly familiar to you, right?

So we have found the answer! If we don't care, you can have all the chicks you want! Ok dude, let's start not caring ... NOW!

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What? It's not that simple? Doesn't it work? Ofcourse it doesn't. If you want to have the newest videogame, it's not an instinct. But if you want a woman? Yes, it is. We keep telling to ourselfs that we don't need women but we actualy do.
Players with MLTR say they don't need girls. But what if one day, God decides that the player is unable to flirt with women, that no women will like him, that he will have no sex, not even a single kiss from girls for 2 years, I know for sure, the player will be begging to God to have merci with him.

I have this thing that I am unable to show interest in girls to whom I'm not attracted. Of the girls I know (from class, college, my former high school, etc.), I can only show interest in girls who (sexualy) intrigue me in some way, or she must have a very cool, open and funny personality to compensate. Out of the girls who do (sexualy) intrigue me in one way or an other, 70%> ... are girls who I would fuck or kiss (ranking from a bet to just one drunk night to more times/ fuckbuddy), 25% are people who are funny, who do not bore me and with whom I go on well, and only 2,5-10% who I just realy like also due to their great personality and maybe see myself in relationship with.
That 2,5-10% of that group who intrigue me, these are the girls I mostly go for at daytime. I'm mostly not interested enough in the other girls, and wouldn't kiss or fuck them unless I'm having a great time in a club or they would be so horny that they will drag me away without having to put one sort of effort.

I do care about that small group. But you see I make it very difficult for myself, but I can't help it. I flirt alot with most girls who (sexualy) intrigue me, but I only "need" that small 2.5-10%. This is the group for whom I come out of the comfort zone, with whom I like to talk the most, whom I meet, for whom I do effort,...

I wish I'd care less, and the irony is, in order to not looking needy, like I want them and thus not losing girls I like, I put alot of effort in looking like I don't put effort in them.

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If you "need" girls that's really going to fuck up your game.

You aren't going to die if you don't get girls. Life will probably suck, but that's not the point. Just saying you "really really want girls" is much better than saying you "need" them. Just changing the word will change your reality to one in which you're likely to get more chicks.

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There is no need to chase the limit and open 8 biliion "sets" per hour.
Acting as if you should have 10 million numbers in your phone just for the heck of it is just childish and juvenile.
However, if you see a girl that attracts you, and you think that looks interesting, it is highly recommended that you should go and talk to her.

Saying that you don't need women is kinda misogynous. You do need them for the love and affection, but you don't need to change your lifestyle and way to get them.

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A well construced post. you've earnt yourself my respect =D and your right, too many men are engulfed in the media struck ideaolgy that the man must seek the women. Once in a while we should considering tampering with the scripts of man.vs.woman for our advantage and do shit the opposite. Taking the backseater and making the women make the first move/approach is not only self rewarding and confidence boosting, but its simply...more...cool. Chasing women, overtime, will only make one more accustomed to the 'i must chase women' way of life and only result in you becoming more 'desperate' and attracting those of a mid category value / with low outter/inner attractive qualities. if at this current stage in your pick up ventures you feel that you just cant get women to chase you to some degree for some perculiar reason, then lay off the pick up and readjust your outter appearence and body language, for these are the things that ALL women pick up on when they set eyes on you for the first time...these are the things that create micro attraction first, women cant help but become attracted on a miniscule level. We all [im presuming] decided to enrage our lives with the golden seduction fruits of pickup for the purpose of not only becoming the 'tony montana's' of pick up...but to 'GET THE WOMEN TO INVEST IN YOU' - maybe we should try it sometime ; ) T.

I am living proof of this statement. In fact, I'd take it a step further: Give it enough time and you start to wonder if getting laid is even worth the effort.
I disagree entirely. For the first couple years, it kind of sucks, but after that... meh, whatever.

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:O Say it aint so mate. Your delirious, lets get some coffee into you.

Wouldn't that be more of an innergame issue for you though?