9/10 to all might be a bit exaggerated, but at least I got you looking.

Every question that has a mentality of 'when i do X, Y will happen' regarding external goods and services. Is a flawed question (yes, contrary to what they tell you in elementary school, stupid questions DO exist)

Why is that? Once you achieve something externally, it doesn't cause an emotions. Well, for a little while. But it'll fade fairly quickly. It won't last.

Whoever here has made a conquest that blew his mind? The next 2-3 days you're happy about it, but what happens after that? The feeling fades, and another problem arises.

The mentality you need to achieve something to be happy is irrational. Nothing else than irrational.


How do we get sad/insecure/angry?

"men are not disturbed by things, but their opinions of them" -epictetus

Who ever missed a bus and took it personally "Damn driver, I KNOW he saw me"

or

even more familiar: taking a flake personal: "damn, she doesn't like me, IM SUCH A LOSER"


Now look back at that quote. Get it?

It is your choice to take FACTS personal. You don't have to. Again, taking facts personal is irrational. Use rational thinking to separate facts from opinions.

What is happiness?


Happiness is a natural state that doesn't need to be achieved, it is here and now, not in some point of the future. there is no reason for you NOT to be happy RIGHT NOW

"Will I be happy when I get laid often?"

I don't know, what i do know is that you can be happier not taking 'not getting laid' personal. It's a goal to get laid more, but not getting laid doesn't mean you're an inferior human being, it just means that you're an inferior seducer. Just like a pro-golfer that never touched a scalpel is an inferior surgeon.


This is NOT a reason to lay on your ass and not getting laid bc you're not 'taking it personal'. If you do want to lay on your ass and not get laid: GTFO this forum, quickly, if you don't want to get laid, this isn't your place. This is a pick-up-artist-forum.

Reminded me of one of my favorite quotes from The Power of Now:
Of course, this applies to the past as well. No matter what has happened in the past, there is nothing wrong this moment right now.

I thought the answer to all life's questions was 42.

Good post man!

It is all about choice, we choose what we can do and what we cant do. Probably the limitation lies within our own minds.

As for the does getting laid make us happy question... Yeah, it does, for a short while as you say. Its basically plastering over the wounds. However, with more and more successes you feel the need to get laid all the time diminish, of course you still wanna get laid if you havent got any in a while but you do it because you like sex, not to prove yourself.

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OK . . . but taking it 'personal' or 'not personal' is merely an emotional cover for any given situation. I'd think that the more important issue to address is WHAT REALLY ARE THE FACTS?

If one girl doesn't like you, that's one thing but if many people don't like you, it's a good idea to take this personally as you're probably a jack ass. Separating yourself from this situation would merely make you a delusional jack ass. In that case, BE SAD! Give yourself the permission to be sad. Figure out the CAUSE of the problem and FIX IT.

Our pro-happy culture tells us that 'happiness is good' and 'sadness is bad' but can there be happiness without sorrow? Nothing in this World is permanent. To cover up a sad moment with insincere happiness is just as flawed as being down on yourself due to problems that are out of your control and cannot be corrected. It's far better to accept the situation, correct ourselves, and progress moment to moment. When you throw yourself into this cycle, there's little room to gauge, "Am I happy or sad"? There's no room to tell yourself, "just be happy!!!" - because you'll already be happy. . .
Happiness is not really a state; happiness is a process just as sadness is a process. There is no achievement but rather a process of achievement and yes, the process is the here and now. To throw a happiness blanket on every situation leaves little room evolve. If I'm sad/angry/insecure, I'd rather NOT ignore it but rather explore it. Just explore your emotions . . . watch for the cause and its manifestation into action. Will you continue to stagnate negative emotions by allowing them to manifest towards wrong action or covering them up with justifications? Or will you allow these emotions to evolve towards a correct view? You don't HAVE TO BE HAPPY RIGHT NOW. "RIGHT NOW" has already passed.
. . . So this is correct. But having positive opinions over negative situations would be just as disturbing as having negative opinions over positive situations.

wow man this quote is epic:

"men are not disturbed by things, but their opinions of them" -EPICtetus

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Great post Max Weber

Thanks for the reply,

I agree with what you're saying, thanks for ying-yang'ing it all out.

How do you keep the balance without getting spiralled down within either delusionlly happy or delusionally sad?

many studies have shown that the key to happiness is setting short term achievable goals and working towards them - so its not entirely irrational after all to think that happiness comes from achieving - but there are other ways to induce feelings of 'happiness' - firstly, what we humans call 'happiness' is just a state that can be acheived by increasing levels of seratonin in the brain - lots of ways to achieve this - you can increase the levels both in the short term and in the long term

How do we get sad/insecure/angry? All these 'emotions' are fear based and originate in the centre of your brain, where your amygdala decodes emotions; determines possible threat; stores fear memories and your hypothalamus activates your "fight or flight" response. Just about every negative emotion is designed to hide our fear (flight response) from others, as children we are teased if we show fear , so we learn other ways to scare others away to try to make them not keep making us feel threatened, especially displays of anger designed to discourage others away. If you probe anyone why they are angry for long enough you will find they are actually afraid of something, and its often being seen/perceived by others as a 'failure'.

"damn, she doesn't like me, IM SUCH A LOSER" - being seen as a loser is what this guy is afraid of, this is his deep hidden and unspoken fear - get over this single fear and you will be so much happier - if she doesnt like you, doesnt that say as much about her as it does about you??? it could be as simple as 'she doesnt like me, she has no taste.'..or maybe she doesnt like guys with blonde hair, or she only likes really tall skinny guys, or she likes guys who read a lot and do crosswords, or she likes sporty guys or she is into guys with beards or fast cars or whatever..stupid to take it personally therefore.

i think its sometimes useful to think of people of the opposite sex like shoes in a shoe shop. just becuase one nice looking shoe is not a good fit to your foot, does that make you a loser?? no!! nor does it make that shoe a bad shoe...simply your foot and the shoe are not a good fit, but there are so many other shoes........why make your feet uncomfortable

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Awesome post... Wish I saw this in the lounge.

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You got an good point there buddy!

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Great post, reps.

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Good Thread.

The film ROAD HOUSE staring Mr P Swayze makes a similar point.

Dalton talks to the other doormen about this.

Dalton speaks to one of the doormen and said.

"What if somebody calls you a dickhead............."
The doorman replys "thats not really offensive is it"
The doorman sais What if somebody calls my mum a whore."
Dalton sias "is she"
Doorman reacts.

Point made.

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