who actually welcomes oneitis? Without it, I'm usually so comfortable I don't even care about not getting laid, but then I become a different person the second I get that sick sinking feeling at the sight of a particular chick.

I'll be honest, not oneitis but some actual real interest iif she is LTR potential. If I'm sober I dont care for about 90% of the girls I am talking to, I'd rather just stay home instead of go fuck them. Every couple months one pops up that I'd actually like to hang out with sober otherwise its just like lets wait for the weekend or I'll blow you off.

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I don't understand the question. Are you saying you welcome oneitis, or you don't, and why are you asking if we like having oneitis or not?

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One-itis is responsible for every marriage you see. Its not always a bad thing... but its bad if the girl is a tease or putting you in the friendzone.

My rule with one-itis is to allow it as long as I'm actually fucking the girl. But if she is holding out on sex then I'm going to hold out on commitment.

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I'm saying I welcome it because frustration seems to be my best motivation. Doing the whole "gotta stop being AFC" thing every couple of years, then going right back. Was just asking out of curiosity.

Ok, I guess that makes some amount of sense. It's kind of like the carrot and stick idea. I don't really need a stick so much, since I just enjoy flirting in general, but I can see where you're coming from.

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I know it sounds juvenile, but there's no better reason to go talk to a woman than to get over a different woman.

I always thought that One-itis was per definition... BAD!

I mean, isnt that just obsessing over that one girl that you cannot have. The one that you have feelings for and feel bad because she doesnt return them... So you obsess over the fact that you cannot get her because you have the mindset that there is only one right girl for you in the whole world, or only one that you could possibly have because she happened to smile at you for some reason one day five years ago.

You confuse this with love. Which has the same kind of feeling but is actually going both ways.

One-itis is not an emotional bond. It is a name for the fact that you cannot admit failure and move on when defeated.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Hmm, if oneitis actually involves pursuing a lost cause in a desperate undignified manner then maybe it doesn't describe what I'm talking about. Same feeling, same shut door, different reaction altogether.

... My opinion... not the truth...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

One-itis is the non technical term for unrequited love.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Unrequited_love

You do not want this. There is nothing healthy or good about unrequited love. Playher is mistaken, I highly highly doubt that any marriage was created through unrequited love, in theory that very action would signify that it was not unrequited.

Maybe you do welcome it, a lot of people like playing the pity role, they crave the drama and the 'poor me' sob story, so inevitably they will put themselves in those situations and re-live the same shit time after time after fucking time.

Style once said that you never get your one-itis because you get clingy and then chase the girl away. So if you want to make a girl leave you, try to develop one-itis consciously.

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Doing this will create the most epic explosive backfire of your dating life

I am not trying to defend myself but the second sentence of my comment was said in jest and that's why the smiley!! And btw I totally agree with your previous comment.

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