Whenever I'm busting a girl's balls, every now and then she'll come up with something like...

"That's not very nice"

or

"That's mean"

or

"Why are you so mean to me?"

And to be honest, sometimes I get kinda stumped.

Usually I reply with "Deal with it" or something similar, but I feel like it's a shit test that I'm not passing correctly. Any help would be appreciated!

_________________
Signatures are awesome!

Oh God I would love to hear the answer to this. I get that all the time.

Well, what do you say in these situations?

_________________
Signatures are awesome!

Guys, realize this. Teasing should be done playfully, harmless and with a smile. Sometimes it doesn't get received in a good way and it won't be a shit test when she says you're mean. You might be joking when you say her hair could get a wash, but she might get the message wrong and think you're actually making fun of her. Look at it this way, a good friend of yours keeps on making lame jokes about you and eventhough you might laugh you'll soon start to think it sucks and you'd want him to stop.

I'm not saying 'you're mean' should always be interpreted this way, but a good chance is she's serious. You can read of your body-language wheither she means it or not. Ex. she starts laughing and softly punches you on the shoulder and says you're mean in a playfull way, that's good. However if she says you're mean while closing up her body (arms crossed etc.) and not looking all to happy, there is a big chance she won't like what you said.

Long story short, be playfull and tease her, but draw the line early. And remember, every girl has a different boundry and it's your job to find it, just like you would with your friends. Teasing might turn into picking on someone and if you mean to or not, it sucks and will lower your chances with her.

Goodluck guys

_________________
Optimistic?

hmm not sure what 'busting a girls balls' exactly means(teasing??)......but, i think that better than saying 'deal with it' which really isnt nice at all tbh, if you care about her at all, you could just reply with:

'sorry babe, dont be upset, i didnt mean it, just joking with you.......(and if you are making fun of her hair /size of her bum or whatever, just add) ......your hair looks lovely/ your bum is the best bit of you etc etc"

....then kiss her quick and rapidly change the subject.

_________________
James: "Cheer up. Remember what the Monty Python boys say."
Helen: "Always look on the bright side of life"?
James: No, "Nobody expects the Spanish Inquisition."

True, I love it when I tease a girl and she punches me. Lets me know I'm on the right track.

If she does look hurt or pretends to be hurt I'll say "Aww, come here, I didn't mean it" and hug her. Works.

And yeah, with busting balls, I do mean teasing.

_________________
Signatures are awesome!

Girl: "You are being mean!"

Me: "It won't be if you have a sense of humor."

Or, my try at the hoop theory

Me: "It was supposed to be funny. Now, you are being mean by saying that I'm not funny!"

*I never had the chance to try these, do they sound good?

Doesn't sound bad, I'll try these.

_________________
Signatures are awesome!

i usually respond to these types of statemnts by saying " ok fine lets hug and make up " with a smile.

_________________
Seize the day

Varies depending on the girl.

This is an example that happened recently:

Me: I like your green fingernails.
Her: Thanks!
Me: They don't really go well with your shirt though.
Her: You think you're funny don't you?
Me: I'm not trying to be funny, I'm trying to improve your fashion sense. (Then I made a very stern face and acted serious, jokingly of course)

I don't really have a go to response for "you're mean" though. Which is bad, because I tend to take it overboard sometimes.

Perfect answer

This is the 'logical reply' that a girl 'thinks' she would like to hear. . . . but in real life, she doesn't want to hear this crap. It simply turns the guy into a lying, apologetic flake.
This is the logical reply that guys typically think up because they NEVER want to "LOSE" an argument.

How about keeping your focus on the task at hand? You are chatting with the girl to pick up her up . . . so get back on track with something like, "Ohh, look how cute you look when you pout" or "Ohh . . . look at that Hollywood face" or "You always look that cute when you pout"... Then you can tell her, "Come here baby .. " and bring her into you and give her a big hug and a peck on the forehead.

And you gotta love the girls who pretend to be pissed off beyond this point. Generally, this is a "Why didn't you love me daddy" cry . . . so don't take it personally; it has nothing to do with you. If she seems worth the fuck, raise your finger to her face and tell her in a deep stern voice without any drama, "Hey . . . behave yourself." - then you just continue on as if nothing happened.

Great advice, kasabi. I was worried that continuing the tough guy facade would make matters worse =\

"Oh behave!" - Austin Powers