Ok, this girl was playing mind games with me.
I decided to freeze her out.

Then she came talk to me, and this time with another drama BS like "Please don't tell (her female friend name) we hooked up, I don't want it to make it harder for you to invite her to watch a movie with you". (Her female friend added me earlier in the day, probably she said her to do it)

Yeah, I could've passed the shit test, but I decided to blatantly call her out on her BS and I said "What made you think i'd invite her for anything?", then I kept listing all the crap she gave me in the past.

She was saying stuff like "if I knew you would be like this I'd never say that... I regret it", "it was joke", etc. And I kept saying stuff like "these games don't work with me, don't do them", "you could ruin a good thing with this girl", etc.

And we both agreed to let this subject go.


What do you guys think? I messed up completely or I did the right thing by being a man that doesn't take crap?

Yeah you totally did the right thing, she'll respect you for it later. Something similar like this happened to me recently at the mall. My Mom asked if I could hold her purse while she tried someone on in the change room, I dropped the purse on the ground and told her I'm not a coat rack.

She was mad about it but I think she respected me for it more later.

Surely this is a joke?

She's your mother, not a HB. Holding a purse for your own mother for 5 seconds is hardly a big deal.

Yeah, I did something like that....when I was five. Come on now, your mom?

Anyways, you did the right thing. Never accept anything less for yourself. You showed that to her, and your not afraid to lose her because you stick to your principles. If she has any kind of attraction to you (She will after this) she will reinitiate contact.

Give it some time bro and live your life, you did a good job with this one. Cheers.

I can't really make much of it, or maybe that's the hangover talking.

Anyway, let's give it a try.

first of:
You make ALOT of assumptions.

And maybe i'm too naive but, she probably doesn't want you to tell other people you hooked up with her (she's using: 'don't tell my friend' as a way to convey this and tries to justificate this by saying "it'll be harder for you to invite her over") Notice: I'm just guessing here.

Now I'm left wondering what her answer was to: What makes you think I want to invite her over?


BTW, where do you want to go with this girl?

When in doubt, look forward, don't dwell in the past.

Thanks for the input guys.

Vaj, her answer was "No, nothing made me think this. I just would be thankfull if you don't tell anyone. Thanks"

My goal is really a LTR. I wanted sex at first, but I want a LTR when I really thought about that.

Boy you are getting sucked into her frame. But I hope you know what you are doing.

Edit: You are an experienced guy. So I can show you a direction and I am sure you are intelligent enough to figure out the path.
Think of it this way. What advice would you give to a friend who was in the same situation? Take a look at the situation from a 3rd person's point of view.

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Who said anything about 5 seconds? Seems like you're filling in your own details and attacking that argument, nice straw man there.

What if a HB10 came by and saw me standing there like a limpdick holding a purse? You have to have standards man, I'm going balls to the wall with my pick up artistry, if you don't share my values I respect that, but don't neg on me because I'm trying to remain legit.

Obviously I don't know the situation, but it didn't come off particularly well. If it was such a big deal though, why would you shop with your mother in the first place?

I'm all for taking a full throttle approach, but I don't see the value in being an inconvenience for your family. As I said - if you want to game nonstop, then what's the point of being around your mother in said public places?