I met this girl at grad school a couple weeks ago. I bumped into her again yesterday afternoon in the computer lab, and we arranged to meet up after class. So we then went for dinner and a drink, paid our own way. It went well, but I can't tell if she likes me or just being friendly.

The following seem like indicators of interest:

- The conversation was easy, and she told me about herself. I.e what she's done since undergrad, where's she's lived, different phases of her life etc.
- Asked me questions such as what I wanted to do, where I saw myself, why I decided to go to grad school, etc
- She did alot of talking, whilst also letting me speak.
- There was also quite a bit of laughing and whenever I teased her, she seemed to laugh.
- She said that she had seen my facebook profile pic (bear in mind, I'd only met once before)
- She put her hand on my arm/shoulder a few times when speaking.
- Soon after I got home that night, she added me on facebook.
- She invited me to a halloween party (which I declined as my friend is also having one, but I said she should come along)
- Most the time we spoke, there was eye contact
- Said she had a fun time and that I should get in touch when I get a new phone (I lost mine)

However there are few things that make me wonder if she's just being friendly:

- She mentionned an ex-boyfriend and also a couple people she dated in the past. Maybe she's just testing me to see how I respond.
- She also said I reminded her of one of her best guy friends.
- It seems like she has quite a few guy friends.
- She's in the same department, maybe she's just trying to make new friends.

What do you guys think? There seemed like some good IOIs, especially the facebook add soon after getting home, shows she was thinking about me afterwards. However there were a few 'friend' signs.

been in the exact same situation...even number closed...waste of time really

I already had her number and e-mail, got that the first time we meet.

Girl is interested now if you build atraction or not that was up to you. For me that was shit tests if you failed or not i dont know

Thanks for the response carlos. I think I now need to quickly build interest and not fall in the friend zone.

Dont be bummed out by the whole "I have many guy friends" thing. It can be taken a few ways. The way I took it when I read it was that she was trying to show her preselection. She also did that by talking about her past boyfriends. She even emphasized the "ex" boyfriend.

Contact was a good sign, and is obvious she's trying her little heart out to get a follow up with you.

Dipset, this is Tower Control, you're clear for takeoff.

Thanks Solteris.

I want to tell her to come to my friends halloween party but without looking clingy.

I think she's going to one in Brooklyn, whilst my friends is in the Manhattan, so I was going to say 'No lie, my friends party is top 10 rated by a certain magazine....let me know when the manhattan drug kicks in.' I say because she mentionned that she doesn't like leaving Manhattan.

What u think?

Well I dont see in that way Solteris, when a Girl start talking with me of an Ex eor other dates , for me she is shitting test me or im on friends zone, but if im interested in a girl, I would change the subject quickly., in my opinion she was screening you to see if you are boyfriend material or not, I would say she is interested, and you probably are clear for takeoff, just need to play your cards right now dont be afraid to escalate. And dont let her talk about her ex.