I just started a new job in auto sales about 2 weeks ago. One of my co-workers is totally AMOGging me at work. This guy is a total douche-bag.

Our offices are in the same building on the complex. There are many HB's who come through our building througout the day. When one comes in, he gives them some stupid AFC comment like "How is Miss Sunshine today", or some variation of that. Then he always makes degrading comments to them about me. Like "We are breaking in him in today", "He drives like an old lady", "Some people take longer than others to learn", and many others.

What is the best way to handle an AMOG in a situation like this? He is almost twice as old as I am. He has been there for over a year. Sucks up to the mangement. When I try and have a conversation with him, he always seems to ignore or shun me. There was one time were he was practically yelling at for something stupid. This guy acts like a total prick. He has somewhat of a clique he is apart of. What is the best way to either get his respect or shut him out?

Thanks!

I don't want to get into a huge argument with him, because I could loose my job. But I don't want him to continue to degrade me either.

Not that answer your looking for but, some how be friend him get him to maybe teach you "how hes so good etc" obz thinks hes the man lol even though hes just a chump i think the way would be to get on his level then he will respect you no doubt. Will be interested to hear what everyone else thinks.

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I have been in a similar situation of starting a new job and having older, more experienced staff treat you...with little respect. I found the best way to deal with it is give it time, and just try to find some common ground with the person who is giving you a hard time. Any commonalities you have, you can try to relate to the person with. I know this isn't easy, but when it will make your life at work easier.

Keep your friends close, and enemies closer as they say.

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Thanks for the replies guys The problem is two-fold in that I want to be able to fit in and not belittled in front of others.

Do you think it would be okay to respond back to him when he makes disrespectful comments? I don't want to offend him and get people mad against me, but I don't want to look like a pushover either.

thanks

Ive been using the alpha male advice at work- mainly not giving a shit about males there - especially the other AMOGs and hell what a difference. You can immediately sence who's doing this stuff to you once aware of it and by simply ignoring them and not letting their alpha type crap bother you your immediately negating them as alpha over you. Just smile and look up like your saying 'oh here we go' shrug your shoulders and stay calm and they hate it.
You are the man not them so it doesnt matter a shit to you what they say!
Its working for me anyway.

Let's call your co-worker "Butch." Butch obviously feels the need to cut you down, which should definitely be an ego boost, as it means he feels threatened. Perhaps you're better looking, significantly younger, or obviously more intelligent than he is.

Whenever he makes one of his smart-ass jokes about you, just laugh, smile, and say something like, "Yeah. Butch has been around a LONG time. He's doing a pretty good job showing me the ropes."

In that one innocuous line, you make him sound old, economically stagnant, and you make it sound like he's working for YOU. It will break his AMOG routine like cheap ceramic.

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contrary to popular belief girls are not all stupid, many of us are able to see through the likes of this guy and his dumbprick comments, you are probably not the first person he has done this to, i imagine he thinks it makes him look funny cracking such lame jokes

your best bet is do not behave the way he is expecting, or you are playing right into his hands, he will continue to do it as it is clearly working for him. behave the way he doesnt want you to!!. it will drive him crazy!! act confident and happy, and like you are playing along with the game and have a sense of humour and are not an easy target

when he makes some dumbass remark, that he thinks passes for humour, just raise an eyebrow at the passing girl that seems to say 'how immature and stupid ...whatever...'

if he says we are breaking him in, ask the girl would she like to try breaking you in?
if he says you drive like an old lady, say yh Butch knows all about how old ladies drive his last gf was about 55,
if he says some people take longer than others to learn say, yh its true its true, i heard butch took 10 years just to discover he had opposable thumbs

or, you could be just really direct but sarcastic and be like 'yeah our butch here, really fancies himself as the alpha male around her, he's been telling me you girls are like his harem, i'm just watching him for tips cos he reckons to me he is such a pro when it comes to pulling women, go on butch you the massa suh, show me how its done

or maybe start calling him sensei and quote or misquote karate kid:
miyagi say "No such thing as bad student, only bad teacher."
We make sacred pact. He promise teach how to be alpha male to me, i promise i learn. he say, I do, no questions.
Wax on, right hand. Wax off, left hand. Wax on, wax off. Breathe in through nose, out the mouth. Wax on, wax off. Don't forget to breathe, very important.

just take whatever he throws out and use it to get a laugh at his expense

ok this whole alpha male thing started really intriguing me and god help me i looked it up on t'internet - you have no idea how happy i am that i am a girl all this stuff is so complicated - anyway THIS LINK IS AWESOME - i was laughing so much at some of the excellent comebacks and putdowns and there are loads! - you will SO be able to out-alphamale this guy. PLEASE check it out

http://www.theattractionforums.com/misc ... cs-td.html

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just call him out on it.

next time he says something to the girl about you just say "im not gay man, but everyone around here is comfortable with who you are. dont worry" in a casual tone, so girls think its true

watch him try and make the girls know hes not gay and look like a pussy.

or say to the girl, "are you flirting with him? hes a really nice sweet guy", and itll just prove that no, the girls do not want him.


or you can just flirt with them but better THATS a better idea, just outgame him.

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When I use to get AMOGED, I would have not comeback what so ever. I was think too much off a logical comeback which froze me up.

Good thing is, getting good at handling shit test from girls got me good at handling AMOGS.

For me, I keep it playful. If I notice a guy that I see on regular basis that start to AMOG me, I just become super playful around him. Thing is, logic is turned off so I forget what I am doing.

Like this dude in my class was trying to AMOG me. Next class day, I walk to class and everyone was waiting outside waiting for the the professor. I go straight up to him put my arms around him and start hitting on him like he was girl. Rest of the semester, I would talk to him out loud in a playful sexual tone and all him comebacks were me about being gay. I was getting everyone in my class to laugh at him while his jokes were not hitting at all. Keep in mind I did this really playfully. I beat him at his own game.

I havent read any of the comments so i duno if this has already been said .

Mindset Your far more cooler than him , you don't want to gain any form of relationship from him although you will allow him to build one with you

commen responses

We are breaking in him in today - response " awwwwww your so cute and caring "

He drives like an old lady - fxck yeah they've got skills

Some people take longer than others to learn- I know youve got to admire the patience i have with him ( flipped it around on him)


I usually just ignore the remark or reply with one worded answers " awesome " , " terrific" , "cool"


and every now and again give him a wink and blow him a kiss maybe a little wave as well ( trust me , its the most unexpected thing for a guy to do in this situation , really awkward and probably not a situation he is prepared for ) I have to admit I was laughing when I wrote that . But yeah In this situation I would totally flirt with him and make him feel uncomfortable . And if anyone asks why respond " hes such a homophobe im just getting a reaction out of him". Trust me I could make that situation work , so could you ( the aim of it is to get a reaction out of him , or make him feel awkward around you , make him out to be a flirt the possibility are endless with this ! ) .

Thank you all for your help!

The problem now is even worse. I now have to work with another sales guy who is 10x worse. He acts like he is God's gift to women. He thinks he is such a hot shot. This guy is one of the biggest assholes I have ever met in my life. Not only is he a douche-bag AMOG, but he treats me and several others like shit. I am new to the place and he tries to act tough and say shit like "If you ever do that again, I'll kick your ass so bad!". or "If you ask for my advice and don't listen, i'll never fuckin help you again". He makes smart-ass comments like these in front of a brand new set of women I am working with. I feel belittled. I try to stay calm, but it is really wearing on me.

The managers let him get away with pretty much whatever he wants. He is just a toxic person to be around. I would love to kick his ass, but he would win and I would loose my job. He tries to flirt with all the women there, while simultaneously trying to make me look bad.

Would it be best to try to not be reactive to him?

Thanks

Look, the best way to handle ANY AMOG is to maintain a positive attitude, be polite, and in many ways be condescending in a subtle manner. Especially in the work place. If your getting on his nerves AND being polite, then he can't act unprofessionally in front of customers, so he'll simply have to walk away.

"Yeah! He's been in this same department for, oh, what 25 years now?"
(No ability to advance)

"It's hard to be as good as him when I'm also studying for a law/doctorate degree."
(They're stuck and you progress)

Ariana's old lady line is good, as were her others. Make your own, man! Just make the lines aggravating to him/them, but invisible to the customer. Give it a shot ! I actually specialize in this sort of thing, so PM me if you have anything you want to ask, I'm kinda pressed for time right now.