I meant to post this in the relationship section but it wouldnt let me since i dont have 20 posts
anyways i met this girl a while back around march, we always liked eachother and dated on and off because she doesnt trust me, i really have always liked her but i would talk about other girls once in a while so she wouldnt think im too crazy about her,

then i recently got incarcerated 7 weeks ago and i didnt make any contact with her the whole time, i didnt expect her too miss me too much, then when i got out on friday i go on my facebook and i got amessage from her cousin saying shes been worried sick about me, so i called the girl i used to date

when she answered her mind was blown away because she was talking to me she couldnt belive she almost cried,and she was telling me how much she cried for me because she didnt know what happened to me and all that and she was loving me more than ever,
now here is my problem everything was going like this until last night i told her i was hanging with the people i got in trouble with and she hung up and said shes done with me and said she cant have her heart broke anymore because i left her once before and i would do it again, then my emotions got the best of me and i started telling her how i much i really loved her and all that and she told me to leave her alone she never wanted to talk to me again or see me again and it sounded like she really meant it, she said im trying too hard now, should i leave it alone? give it some time? keep trying? please help im going crazy!!!!!

Call her again IMO. She's insecure and unsure right now so you will need to comfort her if you really are into this girl. talk to her on the phone and maybe get a coffee somewhere together to talk it over.

@GameIsOn we were supposed to hang out this weekend, and when i was telling her all this last night she said she didnt want to anymore and i was throwing things out there that would usually make her kinda insecure and it seemed like she really didnt care, so i tried to play it off and said can we be friends and we started talkin a little more about different stuff....so from your expericne you think i should call again? and should i wait ? i dont want to seem too thirsty or obsessed thats what she said i sounded like she thought i was crazy please and thanks

Wait a few days for you both to cool off. If she really does like you, she may contact you herself, or she'll at least be more receptive to talking to you when you get in touch.

Try and arrange a meet up, somewhere public where you can have a proper chat, like on a couch at a coffee shop or something. A public place is better than one of your two homes because there is more social pressure to be calm and not scream at each other.

A good negotiation strategy (in general) is to start by affirming simple things that you can both agree on first, and then building up to the issues in contention. So start by just confirming what happened, that your relationship was going well, that you both have feelings for each other, etc.

The issue here is that she's running away from the possibility of being hurt in the future, and she's willing to sacrifice what could be a great relationship based on a possible future loss. What you have to do is convince her that the future relationship could be great, and the possibility of you going away is low. If you're willing to sacrifice seeing those guys, then that's a great promise to make to her. If you're not, then you have to explain why it is that seeing them won't land you in prison again, because you're more mature and you've learnt your lesson. You're out now, and you want to start again and make a great new life, and you want her to be a part of it too.

p.s. Try not to actually say "love" though...

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Yea i understand what you guys are saying but i basically made myself seem week and an afc, she was saying stuff like "im only answering so you wont do anything stupid" when we were talking last night , she said to quit trying to fix things because even if i fix it she doesnt care, im just trying to get all the facts out there first....do you guys still recommend calling her ? or maybe another strategy? thanks im only 18 and very unexperienced