Gentlemen,

Ill try and make this brief. Met a girl early this summer, some time in June. Played her pretty well and asked her out a couple weeks later. She was down at first and then flaked sayin she still wasent really over her ex bullshit, but I declined to hear the details when she offered. She said she just wanted to be friends after and I was originally down, figured I could use her as a pivot and just to chill with.

Anyway as summer went on we talked everyday (and still do) and hung out quite a bit, days when I never contacted her she would consistently end up calling me late at night and check up. I know one of her girlfriends and she told one of my boys that she was warming up to me and liked me. Probably should have made my move here but pussied out and waited.

Moving along I asked her out a few weeks ago again and she again gave me the ex boyfriend stuff. She cheated on him and things kinda sputtered out after that and ended about 10 months ago. I know this is a really long time and if she was actually really into me she would likely move past it.

I was lucky enough to wrangle a tre (MFF), when she found out later that week she started crying and I kinda just walked away (this after I asked her out).

She still txts or calls me daily (I rarely call her first) and its just kinda screwing with me knowing the situation im in but still having to see or here from her daily.


I guess I'm here asking for advice on what my mindset needs to be around her and what kind of game to play. I'm certainly ready to go after other ladies but I want to keep this going and actually try and make something more serious out of it.

Thanks in advance guis!

since you already laid your cards down twice.. i personally wouldn't invest in a strategy as it can get really messy really quickly. I simply would talk to her and assert that you guys are friends and it was hard for you not to see yourself with her so your dating other girls to try to fill the void..

reason why id go with this is you've done all the chasing for a long time and its her turn to do some in order to win you. if it doesn't work out forget it at the end of the day you have to realize relationships only work if you both give the same amount into it not you giving more then her anyways keep me informed on how it goes

--Emperio

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Thanks man, that's probably what I've been needing to hear just didn't want to ask anyone.

Should I try and game her at all then, or treat her like I do with any of my other friends who are girls? I feel like if I become the shoulder to cry on friend, or stay in frequent contact with her that I only cement myself to the friendzone.

I guess what I am really asking is should I try and maintain some kind of different mindframe with her or really just act like I do with anyone else I'm not trying to get with?

Thanks again emperio, I appreciate the insight

Dont mention it thats what these forums are for and you can still try hagning with her as long as your body language and your mind doesnt give away that you like her or have feelings for her. It is becuase when she hangs with you( on these seldom occasions) she will be looking for any type of signs that you are still in fact in love with her and if you dont show any she will feel confused and think about you a lot

if you really want to get with her try using mixed signals like touch her arm gently goin down with your ring finger and sayin shes a good friend or anything lightly sensual.. let her wonder what you guys really are as itll drive her crazy as most girls want what they cant obtain still explore other options as i figure were both in college and most girls are just flaky and confused like that

Anyways the main reason she misses you is becasue she likes what you offered she didnt wanna date you simply because you offered everythin when you were friends with her giving her no anticapation or excitement becuase she already has you.. let her reliaze that in order to keep it shes gotta earn it as they say nothing comes free these days

anyways if you ever need help with any other ?'s just pm me

Emperio

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To be invincible is unattainable without making some sacrifices"