Hi

How does one approach a hot older woman.

I'm 24 and have a lot of success with girls around my age, but when I go to lunch at work, I often see a super hot babe in the coffee bar. She looks about 10 yrs older than me, looks very sophisticated, very unapproachable. Always with other guys about her age or older, but I think they are work collegues as there seems to be no sexual tension between them.

Any ideas on how to approach?

Andy
London, UK

Hey mate, can try being in-direct, directions, ask for info whilst in the coffee shop, and try hit it off like that. That way there is no pressure, you can develop the convo well and hit it off from there.

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Thanks, good advice.

But what about the other guy's she's with? That's the main problem for me

I just want to say right off the bat. I am by no means an expert, or even close.

However my own experience tells me this.

Older women are far more confident and know exactly what they want (and dont want) and wont stand for any messing.

I have noticed they quite often dont have the same sense of humor as us younger guys. (I guess cos they grew up in a whole different mind set than us).

I have approached maybe 10-12 older women and got blown out in minutes for the first 8 or 9 of them just because I wasnt very serious.. (at least thats my interpretation) For the last 3 or 4 when I approached with a serious request (like already mentioned- and what I currently use) ask for directions seems to be a good one.

Again, my own experience, I have found if I go up serious (dont open with a joke, or a gimmick) and wait until the conversation is well initiated then bring on the cocky and funny it seems to work. But seriously be funny and crack jokes, but leave the real gimmicky things at home. They wont be impressed.

Also watch the kino. I think a wee bit is ok, but seriously you wont get away with as much off it as you would with a younger girl. And trust me, the older woman wont beat around the bush, if you make a kino move and shes not 100% happy with it she will let you know in no uncertain terms.

My guess is because they have had a whole lifetime (not just 7 or 8 years) of guys hitting on them they just dont give a shit anymore if they upset your feelings.

Like I said, Im not an expert by a long shot, but these are just some observations and conclusions I have come to with my own limited experience.

Hope that helps

Yeh, thanks for that.

Guess you are a young guy like me then?

Yeh 23... and in a similar position to yourself (Im guessing here) lots of older hot women in work.

And presuming your still in London Im not too far from you either. Ireland at the minute. But I hit up London regularly enough. So my advice should be relevant enough to you, not so sure how it applies to the ladies in the US though.

Thanks, know what you mean about some older girls.

The other week was clubbing and hit on an older girl. She just blew me out with "Go home and play with your toys!". Doesn't help that despite being 24, I look younger.

I'm told that I'm good looking though, but i rely too much on it, my game's only average.

But this woman in the cafe, she's different class, so don't want to mess up.

She was in again today with 2 guys, i think from work. Dark haired beauty, very well dressed, short skirt and amazing legs. She sat down and made no attempt to pull her skirt down, just a pair of gorgeous tanned pins on display! But all done with class, throwing her hair back, looking very aloof.

But I'm going to try, so wish me luck!

Andy

Good luck Andy, if you don't try you don't get, and even if you don't get, you learn and work on the next target!

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So far, so good.

Went in the cafe yesterday and she was in the queue. So I went and stood behind her and said "Hi, what would you recommend as the best coffee to have?".
And she didn't blow me out!
She suggested a Vanilla latte and she seemed very natural, lovely smile, no edge to her at all. She also bears a strong resemblance to Christina Scabbia of Lacuna Coil, very hot dusky beauty!

I then said "Let's enjoy a coffee together", but she politely explained that she was with people from work. Which was true, but I got a smile when I left.

So a part success, and maybe I'll catch on her own next time!

Andy

Well played, next time you see her, keep it kool and polite again, don't offer the coffee together though, she'll assume your busy and ou wont seem begging/needy. If she comes over, different story all together.

Then the time after the next, then offer a catch-up coffee or something.

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Haha, this reminds me: one of my housemates, a 21 year old, fucked a 39 year old woman last week.

This is hown he did it:
One of our neighbours invited the guys of our house over along with some other neighbours. That neighbour was the 39 year old woman. We were all busy so we couldn't go.
The day after, he comes at 3 pm to my room, in his underwear with red eyes and a hang over. He tells me that when he came home drunk that night, he saw her standing at the door of her house with a friend. He approached them, start talking with them, entered the house with them, and they opened a bottle of wine. When the friend left at 7am, it just happened. They fucked.
When he told me the story, he said that we shouldn't talk too loud because otherwise the neighbour might hear it.

It's one of the most epic stories I've ever heared.

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I find it far far easier to get older women than younger women. Not sure why, I think I just intrigue or connect with the older women.

The younger ones seem to be into guys that dont really intrigue them but particularly into looks.

Thats my opinion - just had far more sucess with older women. I know this is low morals and values etc but the unhappily married ones are very easy cos they find you exciting.

Most younger girls these days, especially in Britain are thick, uneducated, have no interest in what's best so go for scum. Where as older women, know what they want, know what's good when it's there.

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I struggle with the younger out of uni type girl (as I did a couple fo months back). Its us maturing and the girls still, as you say, being thick and not knowing what they want.

And lets be honest, older women? much hotter and better in bed anyways. Although they do have a bit more baggage.

Agreed, but everything has pro's and con's, women are no different.

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