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i think i just need to take the advice and man up and take the risk, i just hate taking the risk of over kinoing.... and opener, in some situations that might work, but if you come on that strong and let her know she has you in her palm it doesnt always turn out great
Escalate and touch, that's kind of a shitty response, every one says it but it doesn't really work when you are in the friends zone, this is the reason why there are STILL so many threads of how to get out of the friends zone.
If you escalate while you are in friends it's just fucking weird as there is no resonance between your frame and hers frame, it's just weird to escalate/touch for no reason while in the friends zone, in 99.9% of the time the girl will be like "wtf are you doing" or get weirded out.
SO BEFORE THE TOUCHING/ESCALATION PART, you have to establish that you like her and interested in her!
Sinn gave the the best example of this.
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I LOVE being in the friends zone... why? Because I just hit on her mercilessly, I tell her sure we can be friends but I'm still gonna try to get in your pants! Most of the time the girl will laugh at it, but she will passively take the frame and know that whatever action you take it will be to sleep with her, and 98% she takes the frame, because if you think about it how can your really reject this frame? Is by telling you to fuck off
So my point is, before you start the escalation ESTABLISH THAT YOU ARE INTERESTED IN HER! SHOW INTEREST! ESTABLISH A MALE TO FEMALE INTEREST FRAME! This goes against everything you know, but the trick is to not consistently show the girl interest, but to calibrate it and do it in a specific instant or with a push pull.
Let me know if you like to know more....