Hey guys

Going to keep this as short as I can. Basically I was seeing a girl at uni for about 2 months but we never slept together and tbh I was still quite upset after finishing with an ex of mine. Now we have all left uni the girl in question has come and visited me a few times and the first time she came and visited me we ended up having some pretty good sex. She visited me a second time a couple of weeks after and we were in bed watching a dvd and I started to kiss her and she said things would be weird if we carried on and I told her I wasn't looking for anything serious at the time just living the moment and we were both quite far away from each other. Nothing happened after that, we ended up going to sleep.

She then came and visited me again a couple of months after and we spent a whole two days together, went for food and some drinks got back to mine and again she slept in my bed (dispite there being another one) and we started to make out and when things got heated she told me that she "didn't want sex with me" I said "Oh ok, bit embarassing for me" she replied with "No I obviously want sex with you but I'm not a slag and I know you are all for living the moment but I wont without being in a relationship". I said fair enough and turned over and tried to stop myself feeling horny lol and she started to hold my hand and put her arms around me which just made things worse and I told her that I was horny and that wasn't helping.

Anyway next day we were having a good day out and we went to this castle and into this "haunted" chamber and she kept holding my hand and rubbing by my leg. Now she wants me to go and visit her because she has moved to a new city to be a teacher however I don't want to go down and get my hopes up again to be pushed back. I do like this girl but the fact that we live 4 hours away means that I don't want a relationship (I have done a long distance relationship before and it ended badly) and on top of that i'm young and just want fun. Surely she knows this and I just don't know what to do?

Any advice on this situation?

Cheers guys!

There's nothing you could've done to make this turn out any better.

You don't want a long distant relationship, she doesn't want sex without being in a relationship.



NEXT her, it's the respectable thing to do,

You both want different things, too bad.

Can't win em all

i beleive this to be LMR (last minute resistance)

mystery has a few methods to overcome this, look it up

basicly either make her really horny first, or use freeze outs - be like ok i understand, get up and do something else, stay cool about it, ask her to join

tl;dr - google: overcoming LMR

You're an idiot.

This isn't LMR, it's 2 people both wanting different things.

Sure you can try throwing in some scheme to still get pussy from her, but will she stay? Nope, it's going to result in buyer's remorse because she doesn't want to be a booty call. Look up cognitive dissonance.

As she stated she wants a relationship.

It's way easier to leave it on good terms still be friends and go for new girls.

Who knows what might happen after you do that.






jesus christ people....

Ha ha, Jav/Vaj/aJV/Vja whatever...

I love that reply. I totally agree, people try to fit things into the stale old pattern of the Mystery method. So much that they miss the obvious. And that ladies and gentlemen is the plain truth. Much of what is out there isnt a neg or a shit test or something people say in order to play, it is just what they feel like doing.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

Can I get a plus vote now?



oh

p.s.


About the whole holding hands thing:

She stated she wants still sex with you, but not unless it's in a relationship...

Guess what she's doing by holding your hand.

PROTIP: gf/bf frame

You gotta buy me a drink first...

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn

I'll get you milk







hur hur

Vaj is correct, and joey this you are mistaken here, heres why
So he fucked her and then
Not LMR bc most importantly if u see he has already fucked her, LMR on the same girl is rare only when the relationship is split(no contact for extended periods at least months).
What she did happen is she fucked him then was hoping fucking him would make him want her as a gf. Then when a guy says I'm not looking for anything serious the girl will say no sex if no relationship bc she thought the sex was the start of something.
This happens when the women has a much higher interest level than the guys most of time, obviously the case in this one.

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Inner game is the core, outer game is just an expression of it

I usually flip it around , I mean women are the ones that usually decide if we have sex so i use what girls say to lads typically but emphasize it dramaticly so that i hold the cards .

some cheesy lines

"who said you was going to sleep with me , you've got to earn the right to do that"

"If you wanna tap this shit you've got to put a ring on my finger"

" Listen Im not that easy , so dont think you can seduce me into your pants "

Suxs about the distance . Usually if you say randomly when things are getting heated up Im leaving in 20 minutes she will usually do anything in her means to make you stay . If not look up some of Afc Adams work , his usual method is to state " he wont shag her on the first date " and then foreplay and state that it isnt sex and its fun teasing her . Then usually he says fxck my rule lets just have sex
and its on his terms .



Good luck anyways bro x

The most interesting part of this discussion is that Vaj got a negative rep point with the reason "THINK before posting"

Which is exactly what he did...

Which is exactly what the negative rep giver didnt...

Which is pretty funny to me...

Which is why I accept your milk and give you a rep point... (Also because I think that it needed to be said!)

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

bbardot: you just reminded me about porn