First you'll need to know I'm in 10th grade. Tomorrow I'll be asking a girl to homecoming (I know she likes me, too many IoIs to not like me). I met her in school about a year ago and we were good friends last year. I've never even seen her outside of school, because she lives far away.

Heres the question.

Homecoming cost $75.
If she says she's not going when I ask her, how should I respond? (Oh, and its her birthday tomorrow, I'm asking her to the dance as her present, haha)

Hehe, I can imagine this is a nerve wracking time for you. Your thinking too much about the possible rejection. How do you plan to ask her? We need to focus on how your GOING to ask her. Dont worry about what to do if she says no.

Well, its not too nerve-wrecking, because the fact that I know she likes me. It was actually my birthday on friday and she totally forgot. She felt really bad and told me she was gonna write me a song over the weekend (she sings) and that she only does that for special people. I always sit at her table during lunch for like 5 minutes, before I hop to another table of friends. So right after lunch I'm gonna give her a note/card saying "go to the fountain after school" (theres a fountain in the middle of the school). I'll tell her to make sure she reads it in her next period.

Then after school, I'm gonna wait for her to be at the fountain, approach her and say "Will you go to homecoming with me?"

I'm not too worried about the rejection, because I do know she likes me regardless, I just want to know how to react. I don't want to say something that will DLV.

Well, good. Im glad you're not nervous. It's really nothing to be nervous about anyway.

This is just my own personal opinion on this by the way, take it as you want it. I dont think that the note is a good idea honestly. Yeah, it might be cute and all but it seems kinda juvenile for your age group. Ironically, an older woman would react alot better if you gave her a note, shows a playful and romantic side.

A girl her age I dont think would really take it as you do. Girls like that want a man to take charge, save the well thought out romantic plans for when you guys are going steady.

This could be your big chance to shine with her, giving her that note is a real conservative approach.

The fountain in the middle of the school after school is a good idea though. If you are around her at any length of time during the day, walk up to her, grab her by the hand and lead her to the fountain. (If she's with friends, ask if you can "Borrow her for a second?") Thats big balls of steel to do that, and that shows loads of confidence over the discreet letter.

Take her to the fountain, and be seductive with your body language and eye contact. Dont try and fill up silence with useless conversation. Remember, you want this to be an experience she wont forget. When you get there, get closer to her (Not too close, keep a buffer zone) and look into her eyes and be physically seductive. Then just ask her. You're showing an initiative thats rare to come by in high school...hell, rare in LIFE.

KISS Method is your best friend. Be bold and seductive, but keep it simple and original.

Hmm, I never thought about that. That sounds like a much better way. Thanks a lot

I probably won't be able to bring her to the fountain, because the times I see her during school won't allow it. But I was thinking to do that borrow thing and just bring her away from her group.

Yea I agree. Just be cool when you see her. Tell her to give you a High 5 and then take her high 5 and spin her. Talk with her a bit and ask "You know what's a really good idea"

and then tell her your plans. Just don't think of it as a big deal and it wont be. Good luck man

Alright, 1 more thing. Should I give her anything for her birthday besides asking her to homecoming? I know it's the night before, but I wasn't going to get her anything because I didn't want to seem needy and I thought asking her was enough. One thing that did cross my mind was to write her a card saying happy birthday and something nice.

A card would be cool. Just a little token to show that you remembered but nothing over the top. I'd save it for if she says yes. If she does say yes, you can give her the card as sort of a "reward" for going with you. If she doesn't say yes and you give her the card, it might seem like your coming across as buying her affections.

Or option two is always good: Dick in a box

haha ^ nice

You could put a handmade I.O.U coupon onside the card. That would be hilarious and give her a good reason to set up a date with you

Lmao. The first one sounds like a good idea solteris. And yea foxtrot I was gonna do that coupon thing,I read that somewhere online. Alright thanks for the help. This post was my reason for making an account on here. I've been reading other posts on here for a while though. Since I got such great help, I'll be posting everytime I have a question. I also posted a bit about myself in the introduce myself section.

Thanks again!!

Dont be a stranger. Let us know how it turned out!

Well, I'm not really sure how it turned out so I'm gonna let you guys deicide. She yelled my name as I was walking to class and she was about to enter her class. So I turned around and walked her way, grabbed her hand and brought her like 15 feet down the hallway. I looked her in the eyes and said "will you go to homecoming with me?" She turned bright red and I hugged her cus I didn't know what else to do. She was like "aww thats soo sweet, on my birthday" She told me she doesn't know if she's going and has to ask her parents, THEN she said "I'll think about it".

I feel like I put too much control in her hands, I'm not sure if I asked her right.
I gtg right now, I'll tell you guys more later.

You asked her. Thats the important thing, you did it in a way that not alot of people have the guts to do. Either way this turns out, feel proud of yourself for doing what you did.

Now, based on what she said, dont feel discouraged because she didnt give you a yes. There ARE alot of situations to consider. The cost of the Homecoming, transportation, her parents permission, if her friends are going. Dont feel bummed because she didnt give you a definite yes. But what you do now is very important.

Dont even bring it up again when you see her again. Keep talking and being fun like you always are but dont bring it up again. The ball is in her court. Asking her again and again if she is going will only pressure her more and she may just say 'fuck it' to the whole thing.

Just keep it cool at all times. Like it never happened. What her decision is, it wouldn't phase you one bit either way. You did as much as you could do by asking her. Give the girl some time to work it out.

Alright. Oh and I never gave her the card w/ the coupon. Should I reward her if she says yes, by giving her the coupon I made? (its really funny, because I found a template online of some coffee coupon and fixed it up)

Just want to clarify this: Will it be awkward when she sees me??

It can only be awkward if you make it awkward when you see each other. When in doubt relax. I liked the way you asked her pretty much making it a movie moment. Another thing is she probably said that she will think about it because girls want a really cute way to respond. At my highschool asking and responding was such a big deal that I helped my brother get a canoe on her front steps so he could sit in it and say "you float my boat baby, canoe go to homecoming with me"! Ridiculous I know, yet it was expected so people do it. These things are expected to be creative so she may want to just come up with a cute way to respond. Cheers!