Hey guys,

I recently met this girl and she's very into me. I explained how I don't want a relationship right now and even though it's not like her we're still seeing each other and getting fairly physical. She's a virgin but keeps telling me how special I am and that she would love to be mine / give herself to me.

Every time I see her I know how to turn her on and generally get her worked up but I haven't been able to escalate past '2nd base' yet. I feel like getting to 3rd base should be easy enough, she's already told me she likes to give blowjobs but I was reading something from another post and it got me thinking.

In order to have sex with her is the best idea to freeze her out after getting her incredibly worked up or to just go plain caveman?
I can see caveman working until I get her completely worked up and naked but I think she'd tone it back and ask to wait or plain won't unless we're in a relationship. At that point is it then best to freeze her out or will she just feel like I'm only in it to have sex with her?

I think it's pretty important she doesn't feel that, especially as she's a virgin and also because it's not true. I really like her but I still want to be single. Have my cake and eat it as it were.

Any input is appreciated.

hahaha run for the hills!! i hate virgins lol... too much work and they love you forever lol... not my thing...

i dont understand what you're talking about... we're all adults here lol wtf is this second and third base stuff? i found that with virgins... its harsh but you need to promise them the world and give them nothing lol... i found that whenever i said i was more along the lines of going out with her then she'd sleep with me and then i wouldnt talk to her again... I DONT RECOMMEND DOING THIS! i say let her find some bloke thats willing to STAY in a relationship with her because its kind of cruel at the end of the day lol... i dont do virgins anymore because i feel like an arsehole for ditching them after i've slept with them so i steer clear of virgins... i suggest you do the same lol

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lol I'm 24 but I thought it was the best way to describe where our sexual relationship has got to.

I understand your point about virgins, but I'm not going to leave her the moment we have sex. I just want to be available to other options at the same time should they arise, an open relationship essentially.

ok sweet lol... you're american? im australian lol and i have no idea what this second, third base stuff is exactly lol...

ah ok well yeh i cant really tell you what to do because i've never had a virgin and kept her around for casual sex.. i find they get too clingy and i cant stand that lol... but if i was to say something then you'd have to make her trust you so much for you to keep her around as a fuck bud... and even then i dont think she'd be up for just casual sex.. by the sounds of it she wants a relationship from you... sorry mate i hope it works out

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A wise man once told me
"Bros before hoes, unless hoes have no clothes!"