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First off, my throwaway comment initially was trying to make the point that you don't need to overthink and hypercalibrate every interaction, especially something as unimportant as sending a text message. The point of a phone number is to GET A DAY 2, nothing more. You seem to be trying to run game via text, but you cannot kino, build comfort or especially FUCK over the phone, so why bother?
The whole adopt you as my little sister, etc. stuff is called a false disqualifier. The point of it is to fly under the radar when you are in set with a girl who might believe that you are trying to hit on her by maintaining an initially non-sexual frame, which you then break later when you have rapport with her by sexually escalating. If you've already got her number then this is pointless because you've clearly expressed interest in her as a possible sexual partner. If you continue down that line you will only get LJBFed because she will assume you're a funny, quirky friend.
Similarly, the hold hands thing is (1) gay and (2) "that's all you get" is a very specific tool that's part of playing push-pull, where you kino escalate and then break contact, saying "that's all you get," which makes her want to re-engage and enables you to escalate more effectively when you do. It is a completely pointless thing to say in the context of a text message.
I would advise you to move as quickly as possible to arranging a day two with this girl because you're not really making any actual progress at the moment.
I would also advise you to try to be less reactive to what people say, even if you feel they're criticising or making fun of you. Being reactive is deeply unattractive to women and nobody likes being around the guy who constantly takes everything as a sleight against him and fights with people about petty shit.
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What's with all the hate on Jazestix? o.O that was ... just ... lame ...
Thumbs up on the second message!
What did she say after that text?
Btw, a tip so she remembers who you are right away, use call back humor, I'm pretty sure you know what that is...
Cheers!
well the conversation went as such:
Me: craziest thing happened to me. u don't have a twin, do u?
HB: no i dont and sorry you are?
Me: aww that's so cute. Ur forgetful like my bratty little niece. i wanna adopt u as my new little sister and we can go on adventures and climb trees together! Stix
HB: Lol sounds good something unique to do
Me: and if u have to cross the street, i'll hold ur hand. but don't get any ideas. that's all u get. Lol. Soo..how have you been, brat 
HB: Good on my way to class
Me: Okay. Stay focused. I'll quiz you when ur done
HB: Lol ok but i suck at quiz
then i stopped texting. gonna call tomorrow and get the phone game going. yea plan on using callback humor. not completely comfortable with phone gaming yet, but...gotta start somewhere.
now THAT'S the kind of advice i'm looking for in a forum like this. appreciate the LJBF ... quirky funny friend advice about the dangers of texting. that makes total sense and i've never looked at it that way before. in person, i feel my game is decent with approach, kino escalation - so most of attraction and a bit in comfort in MM terms. i keep energy high and push/pull to keep sexual tension there. it's the phone/text game that i'm looking for help on. and being 6 years out of the game due to a LTR, i've also noticed myself struggling to escalate into sexual on day 2s. but that's why i play the game, and that's why i seek advice from others.
and in case ur wondering, it's not that i'm completely bad with women. my top score is decent enough for me. but i know my lays have all been done without consciousness to what i'm actually doing to create attraction. that's why i'm studying pick-up. i want to learn why at times in my life, i have been successful, and at other times i have not. i want to be CONSCIOUS about what i am doing. that is what seperates us from not only AFCs, but NATURALS as well, i think. it's been really fun and i am and have always been fascinated with human interaction and social dynamics. i read about different methods, visualize pick-up, and commit time in the field 3 days a week.
so maybe i got reactive to comments, but it's only because of what i've noticed from some ppl on the forums here. not just with mine. just straight up haterism, and cockiness. ur throw away comment would have been a lot more helpful if u replaced "shmuck" with something useful such as in ur last comment. or just left it out completely. because at the end of the day, either of these other 2 option would have served a better purpose and wasted neither of our times. i can spend a whole post about how good, or how horrible i am with women....but the fact that nobody really knows me, or anybody else on here (with the exception of wings) confuses me as to why there are so many egos. just cut the crap and answer or don't answer a question with good will and good intention.
in the field i would not be as reactive, as i know it's not an attractive trait. but in this forum, i'm not trying to pick any of u guys up either...so i'll say what's on my mind. love me or hate me, i'm still looking for good advice, just like all of us on here are.
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