Is it a good idea opening up to people?
because i know some people are just plain nosey and wanna find out any little dirt and goss about you, Ive been opening up to girls lately but then i tend to hear my story from a different girl some are DHV stories but some are DLVing me

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I never tell ANYONE my problems, ive just turned 18, the last 6 years ive held everything to myself... im not sure if its a good or bad thing but its definitely made me independent

Although it is sometimes good to open up to your closest friends, and i dont talk to girls about my problems ever, i have a guy friend who i do sometimes (he is my best mate though)

I wouldnt consider showing too much of a problem/emotionally life on you to women though

Don't talk to girls about your problems. If a girl whined to you about shit that was happening to her, would you give a fuck? No. Why should girls feel any differently when you complain to them?

Being able to open up is good, but it's kind of lame subject.

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The best way to DLV is to show knowledge, experience or passion about a particular topic, this naturally leads to questions about your past and where you got the info from, about which it's useful to be initially vague, or maybe just cut the thread and talk about something else.

The time to "open up" is when you're building comfort. You can just throw a little story out like "I don't usually tell people this, but I kind of have this embarrassing fact.." and then tell something about yourself that's actually more of a DHV than anything else, like you used to be in a band that played music you grew out of, or you intentionally embarrassed yourself in front of your niece to make her feel better, or your dad got angry and you defended your mum against him (depending on how deep your conversation gets) or something like that. Then she's more likely to open up with something about herself and you can qualify her on those aspects you find positive, thereby building a connection.

It's generally a good idea to not open up too much until at least comfort because people who blab on about details of their lives sound like validation seekers with no friends. However during comfort and once you're in a relationship, this is obviously ok. Leave your *problems* to your actual good friends / your psychiatrist.

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I am open with most stuff to most people. If they ask I answer. If I have a problem with something, I tell them. It is not whining, it doesnt show weakness. It is a strength.

You are supposed to be able to communicate with girls emotionally, to share and get a sense of closeness, that is what builds trust.

I dont however apologize for what I am. I tell people the naked truth, if they can handle it, thats good, if they can, their loss.

This is also how I get away with so much.

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I'm not trying to be a dick Ezo, but you're being a Pick Up Snob in my opinion.

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be shamelessly honest about yourself, theres really fuck all bad that can come from it, being able to be upfront about your weakness's is a good thing and takes a lot of strength to do.

this being said, for girls you are just trying to meet and fuck i don't see the point in needing to shower them with your problems, you need to define 'people' is people close friends, or is it every girl you say 'hi' to?

by people i mean people in general, close friends, people i meet girls/guys, acquantences

thanks everyone for your help i understand now.
Ezo i used to be like you man but i wasnt too sure if this is AFC or PUA material

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