I've met and talked to enough men in my life to know that at their core. . . they are all remarkably similar. By core, I don't mean your individual identity. I mean you as a being of nature. That being never had a name. It never had experiences to distinguish itself from other beings. It is a drive. It is a willpower given to you by nature.

"Be yourself" often means tapping into what makes you different. And that's okay, as long as you transformed yourself for the better.

More powerful is the essence of you. The thing that makes you go after what you want. The thing that REJECTS all social programming, all fears, and all reservations. It's your "most drunken self" for lack of a better term. It's where you don't even care what happens, as long as you made an action to achieve your goal.

It's the animal.

If "be yourself" means acting like the love-sick puppy that you may be, then it is shit advice. Because at your core, you're anything but a lovesick puppy. You're a creature indifferent to everything except what it wants. The AFC crap is ALL rooted in social programming.

If "be yourself" means acting on primal urges that defines what a man is, then it is the best advice out there.

But please. At least delude it with scant reservations, so you don't get thrown in prison for the remainder of your life. Kiss that girl and be aggressive, but stop short of raping her. Go after what you want, but try not to murder anyone or piss off too many of the wrong people.

Be as self-serving as you can possibly be while still being smart enough to avoid trouble where possible. Be yourself.

The Nice Guy is unattractive to women because they recognize that he is dominated by his own reservations.

The Bad Boy is attractive to women because they recognize that he has embraced who he truly is: A beast. A man.

For me, the mantra "you are good enough" doesn't mean that you should simply lay back and expect everyone to accept your flaws, but that you have it within yourself to be constantly improving and learning.

It's what makes man what he is. Did ancient humans sit around and say, "we are doomed to a hunter-gatherer lifestyle, boo hoo, let's sit around and sulk?" No, they innovated, learned about the world around them, and adapted accordingly. That's why we have the Great Pyramids, skyscrapers, fucking satellites beaming us internet access for $10 a month.

You can do whatever you want. The first and most important step is the will to change and learn what's necessary to attain your goals.

Improve ourselves to better our living conditions? Absolutely. Improve ourselves to pick-up women? Improve your appearance, at least. However, to me, successfully picking up women is about a kind of regression back to animal basics, as I described in the original post.

so do you ignore all pickup theory and just go complete caveman, kind of like early Jeffy Allen, or what?

The best thing to do is keep learning new tricks to get what you want.. but maintain your identity at the same time.

Social skills are important and so is compromise. The key is knowing when to be aggressive and when to let things go. In the end its about results. If being yourself 100% gets you results then do it. If not.. learn some tricks but maintain your identity.

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Women are smarter than you think... but not as smart as THEY think

Who cares about "pick-up theory" beyond how it can help them effectively rake in women.

Have you ever heard of "60 Years of Challenge"?

I say.. be your best self..

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Keep doing that and I'll make you tremble...

Cutiest girl ask for more, unfortunately someone's creeping on my floor.. an empty glass a topless babe a knock at the door.. girlfriends girlfriends never could be more..

This. My methodology is like stream-of-consciousness. I just say whatever pops into my head initially unless it's something that's just awful. A woman's threshold for crazy shit is way higher than you'd think. The more out there I am with what I say, the more playful they are in return. My sense of humor has always been my greatest asset throughout life so I turn the knob to 11 and demonstrate value by being crazier than anyone she's ever met. I toss in a couple of negs (this is where learning a couple of tricks to help you along comes into play) and they're never taken poorly because of the goofy reality I've created for us. Example from a Facebook chat with an HB8.736582 earlier: she said she was babysitting. I said I only did it once or twice but was told I couldn't any more because the kid wanted me to powerbomb him on the family's trampoline and it's not my fault that seven year olds have tiny fragile bones because they don't drink enough milk. I just implied that I broke a child's neck and got a tremendous reaction. From there I was in. She's got a boyfriend too!

If humor's not your deal, find what you do best and make it your golden ticket. Just make sure you do it all out or it'll come off as lame. I used to use humor before too, but always tempered what I said for safety's sake. Couple of chuckles and a polite "you're a funny guy" was all I'd get. Fuck that shit. Nothing you do will work if you play it safe. It's a game and you have to go for the win!

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Only one thing could cure this: Dance Music.

the more i think about this, the more i think it is true

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