Need some tips on college openers, the one I've been using is basically approaching a group set and asking who they think is more famous from Jersey Shore, Snookie or The Situation, and then going on from there. However I've been getting flat out turned down recently, worst being "hey can I ask you a question?", to which the HB 6 replied,"No." I've read numerous posts and the general consensus is that "college is really easy" I'm a senior and its easier said than done. Any suggestions appreciated.

Well I'm kind of in the same boat. To be honest I feel like situational openers are always the best because they're the most natural. To me it just seems weird to ask a girl some random question out of nowhere. Situational openers are hard to turn down because they're completely innocent. An example would be asking for directions or commenting on the weather. After this I can keep the momentum going for a bit but I have trouble building from there. But that's just my problem haha.

Don't say "Can I ask you a question?" because as you stated, gives her the chance to say no. You should go in saying "Hey I need your opinion on something". Here they usually just say OK and you can go into it from there.

Asking her if you can ask her a question is just setting yourself up for rejection.

Maybe you need to spice things up with a different opener as you might be getting bored using the same one and that boredom comes across in your voice tone aswell.

Also, false time constraints. They work. There's something about adding, "real quick" at the beginning of your opener that makes people more likely to listen. Especially if you position your body as if you're not about to stick around--like you're still half turned from them, about to go back and talk to your buddy.

Then, when they respond, act like they now deserve your interest and turn to face the group.

Sometimes it doesn't matter what you say if your body language is giving you away.

Hm, it's day game so I wouldn't go for a 'situation-unreleated-opinion' opener, those always sound a bit awkward for me during day time. I would say for example:

You: Hey, I'm a architecture student here (i actually am), I can't figure out what if I like this building or not, what do you think of it?
She: blabla
You: yes, but what about this?
She: blabla
etc....
You: you know I've got an architecture book at home with this great building, I think you would like. How about we get a coffee and I'll show it.

Just made this one up, but I can feel it will work for me. The point is you need to ground your opener, so there is an actual usefull reason you can talk to her. If you can combine it with linking your opener to getting a coffee? Even better

I actually did an entire social experiment to see the best college openers and I came up with more of a method than an opener but use it trust me it works. I got about 95% positive rating for it. Every good opener in college (and possibly life) needs:

1) Justification (either spoken or assumed) - If you dont have a good reason for goign up to them then theyll assume your looking for something else. Sorry to say Jersey Shore opinion doesnt sound like a good one

2)False time Constarint ( either spoken or assumed)

3) Compliment - In college this is key giving a compliment liek you seem friendly or you look liek you know your way around will heave them try to live up to that expectation and be more receptive

4)Politeness- If your very polite theyll be less likely to reject you and it smore of a justification as to why your so social becuase polite peopel usually assume others are as well

5) Smile - Will definetly help people be more receptive

Example: Hey guys I got a couple of minutes (2) to burn all my freind have class at this time (1) but you seem really freindly (3) would you mind if I take a seat (4).

This worked 95% of the time in teh lunchroom just remember to tailor it to the situation if your walking ask for directions If a group of people are standing asl them an opinion about a class your thinking about dropping soon but remmeber the rules

Hey you guys look pretty smart Ive got class in a bit but Ive been stressing over a class that i may have to drop soon have you ever heard anythign about seniors and dropping out of classes Ive heard it looks bad on your resume

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