first of all i think it is insane if you actually try to get back with her. But if you can some how get her back, I agree with most, she has some intentions in mind. And those are more than likely revenge. If you chase her, you give her all the control, and may as well hand her your balls in a jar and say here these are for you, i dont need them anymore. If you make her come to you, you know she is actually interested in getting back with you for some reason. Then, it is a matter of sucking up, and running the game of all games on her. Dont lie, but dont necisarilly tell her everything. Dont explain why you did what you did, unless she directly asks, then keep it simple and strait to the point. You will not get anyone who can tell you exactly what to say, and you dont want that any way. You want to be honest, and be in the situation. we dont know the situation exactly, and thus can not tell you what to say.. You have alot of AFC qualities to you, and i think you are in the wrong place.

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Brilliant! yeah that's good advice. But at the same time i agree with RawWingman. You gotta make her intrested in you.

If your doing all the chasing she's jus' gonna run.

But that's definatly the way you should treat your relationship. Like you still feel (AND ARE ACTING IN) the same way. Just don't crowd her or give her too much attention otherwise she will use it to get back at you. Happy hunting

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Dude..

Play the long game.

If you get back with her now, unless she's begging you too, it will all become horribly messy for you, and for her.

If you're serious about getting her, do you know why? Do you want to marry her, want her to have your kids?

Well then you will, almost definitely have to play the long game.

I would suggest, not contacting her at all for a week or three, then when you do speak with her, NEVER tell her you slept with anyone.

Make sure she discovers you have female friends, but NEVER let her know for sure you slept with them.

Tell her, after a month or so you would like to stay friends. Maybe a coffee?

But do not press, at all times be calm, level, relaxed, occasionally its fine to be upset, but when you're trying to get a relationship with a girl, then showing her you're sad because you miss her, that you love her etc will get you nothing except lonely nights.

Keep in touch with her. Meet and love many other women. If you love the girl you want now after that. Then keep in touch with her and play with the long game.

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