I find my self over thinking and over worry from time to time with women. How do you guys shut off your brains? Just wandering if you have any tips?

i have similiar problem to you bro. I usually tune the woman out by going to the gym or playing soccer, usually stuff that requires physical activity

I don't stop thinking

To the OP, do you mean when you're approaching, mid-game, all the time? Can you be a bit more specific? I know for me, I usually get the brain "monkey chatter" most right before I approach, playing out all the negative scenarios in my brain. At that point, I just start walking towards the person so that it's harder for me to back out.

Things almost never turn out as bad as you make them out to be in your head.

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Any guys with advice on this? For me its not worrying, but analyze everything. Every little thing i want to know why. I cant stop thinking about everything. I need to know what works in what situation. This doesnt only apply to pick up.

If you mean when you approach, you get that internal dialog, there are some NLP exercises for this.

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I used to overanalyze situations too. Hell, I still do sometimes. In the end, overanalyzing will more likely hurt you than help you, and you've probably figured that out.

The main issue here is CONTROL. You over think everything because you are insecure. You are insecure about why she said that, or why she did that, or whether you made the right move or not, or if you should have said that or not. All of this uncertainty is rooted in insecurity, which plays into control.

First I think you need to understand what moods and emotions are. Moods are broad general feelings that last for a period of time, but are not specifically directed at an individual or object. Emotions on the other hand are intense, brief feelings. They are chemical responses to a specific thing or event.

"I am happy" is a mood.
"I am pissed of at her" is an emotion because it's directive.

Having a general understanding of emotions and moods will help you control them because you realize that the intense feelings you are feeling are simply chemical responses. Read some Evolutionary Psychology books to understand why we feel the way we feel.

So when you begin to overanalyze, or when your emotions begin to dictate your actions, just STOP. Repeat to yourself, "this is just an emotion, it will pass." Acting on an emotion can lead to disaster.