how do PUA's view friendship?or a social circle?

I have 0 friends,and 0 social circle,not because i am not interesting or not funny or something like that,it's just because i can't relate to people that way.My question is,how do you create a social circle and make friends that will help you meet girls/other interesting people?is there a formule or you just hope for the best!

I didn't see anything about this on the forum,maybe because all of you have friends,i imagine it's a DHV.What are your thoughts on this?and what should one do to have a "cool" social circle?

Im trying to get the time to write a BIG thread on this because In my past years I have went from having a normal socail circle to becoming oone of the most socaily inept guys going ( I have my reasons ) After that I had lituarlly no friends what so ever and had zero confidence . To make things worse I was starting a new college where I didnt even know anyone .

To begin im just going to go over briefly what some of the most correct stages are for this and I have put everything in bold to emphasize my points .

Start with guy friends first
If your fat , loose weight ( if you cba then dont continue reading what I have to say)
If your not fat join a gym and gain muscle anyway ( its an activity that gets you out and about)
If you wear glasses , consider getting contacts
Get a new wardrobe of clothes and a possible haircut ( your redesigning yourself , your old self had no friends so this is a must)
smile
Hold your head high and never look at your feet
Pick up other activities , such as learning a musical instrument ( get away from games limit to yourself of 1-2 hours a day of gaming)
Get into sports and support your local team ( whether you like it or not)
Ask simple questions in the gym to people .e.g. Where are the toilets ?

It takes time trust me but some other material I would read / listen to ( after you have done all of the above , this cannot be rushed !) is
Carlos xuma - alpha man
David deangelo - Cocky funny course
and find ben dowman nlp free audio remodeling on http://www.puatraining.com/

Good luck

cant wait for your big tread,specifics would be excelent here!for someone who has no problems with this it seems wierd,but for someone who can't make friends it's hard,if not,impossible.

Also how should this friends/social circle be chosen?i need specifics!

as i said,can't wait for your post!

Are you in college? If yes join clubs on campus, it is the easiest way to meet new people.

What are your hobbies? Except PUA. If you got non than find some and start going to places where people do this hobbies so you can meet like minded people.

Example: Say I wanted to meet alternative people like tattoos, piercings, etc. So I walked into a tattoo shop and basically asked "where do you guys usually hang out?" they told me all the places, so I started going to them and meeting people.

Say you like surfing or want to learn it, start going to the beach, interact with other surfers, offer help, ask for help, etc.

Make friends for the sake of making friends not because you need them to help you with game.

Btw: When you start getting friends DO NOT talk about PUA OR TRY TO GET THEM INTO IT! Keep the two things separate.

And last thing check out Ratisse in the 21 Convention Videos of 2009, on how to give love, he basically shows how to walk into and meet new people, NOT GAME, meet new people, by giving "love"

Cheers

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V3nu

Be a fun, sociable guy.

How do you be 'fun'?

Nobody can answer that but you. Fun is subjective. What is fun to you, may not be fun to me. However, the feeling of fun is universal. Fun is about doing what you enjoy despite what everyone else may be thinking of you. It puts a smile on your face, gives you a positive and attractive aura, and naturally puts you at the center of the room. People are drawn to the fun guy in a room.

How do you be 'sociable'?

Being sociable is just about chatting to whomever you feel like chatting to. Don't be afraid to speak your mind, to talk to somebody, whether it's a passing remark about the weather, or a compliment on a girl's necklace, or a "Hey, how are you?". Don't let the PUA community limit what you say by making you think that what you say is really important. It's not what you say, it's what you convey by saying it.

You need to learn to enjoy the presence of others. If you don't enjoy people's company and going out and socializing is a chore to you, this whole PUA thing and making friends will be nearly impossible. If you truly have fun talking to others, the fun and sociable parts will start to appear naturally. By enjoying yourself among other's company, you will convey the message: "Hi, I'm a fun, sociable guy looking for new friends, and you look like you deserve some fun!"

Seriously. Enjoy yourself, and others will enjoy you.

Be the guy you want to be around.

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-Sharplin
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I find that just going out to sarge - or, easier put, just going out a lot speaking to people, you will make lots of new friends and friendship circles.

Two examples spring to mind. I was sarging a bar one day with a PUA friend of mine - he left for a while for some reason so I was going solo for a bit. So I found a safe group to chill with whilst I entered and exited sets (it was still early in the night). I ended up playing 21 dares/drinking games with them, had loads of fun, and they invited me out the following week.

That just reminded me of another example. I was once amogging this hench dude, who turned out to be one of the nicest lads I ever met. He invited me to go clubbing with his mates at Ministry most Fridays, offering lifts etc. Come to think of it, guys number close me a lot. I think it's just part of being a high value sociable nice guy.

Anyway the second example I was originally going to say was a more recent one, where another PUA friend of mine had gone exclusive with this girl he picked up, so invited me to chill with them and their friends for a few nights out. I had fun with the group, so the second time I went out with them I was joking to this one girl: "Where's your boyfriend? I miss him, that's the only reason I came tonight!" And she was like: "Aww, you should call him! Or facebook him! He's looking to meet new people because he's kinda bored with the usual crowd!" And that guy was a really cool guy so I did and we went for a drink etc.

The other, completely different thing I'd say, is rather than 'gaming' all the time, it's nice to just have a group of friends you are actually quite close with, and just flow with it - as 'normal' people do, rather than analyzing this shit.