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so this is how it played out. we had a firedrill today and we walked out of school together, i built up some kino, got playful, then i got really close to her and asked her if she had a date to h.c., she said no and so i told her ill pick her up at 5:30, what color is your dress.
She told me no. said we could do something else together. but i pushed a little, and she told me that her parents are so strict and shes doing me a favor. (I later found out her ex bf managed to turn her parents off of boys for good- so atleast it wasnt a lie). She gave me her #. I know she likes me, and i made sure i looked top notch today- i looked sexy, and acted very dominately.
I wasnt really looking for a gf, but just a date to h.c., im upset, not because i was rejected in a way, but because i wanted to go to h.c. with a date and now its too late to even ask someone.
If i go to the dance with a group, the group is 30 ppl +, without a date, will this lower my value? I mean the majority of the kids arent going w/ dates. but still, it would have felt nice if i could pull this off.
In the end, i was rejected for the dance, but # closed and could potentially date her-thats what she wants...i think- and now im going single and ready to pull a robbery on someone elses' date.
Questions:
1.Will going alone lower my social value?
2. Should i persue a girl who wants to date me, but rejected me (albeit b/c of a good reason)
3. How can i still have a good time at the dance while looking alpha. (how can i dance w/ all the girls i want to dance with even if they came w/ dates)
Not too bad. You handled the situation alright. The reasons for which she rejected you are out of her control, so it wasn't a "I don't like you" thing, it was "I like you but I can't."
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Only if you let it. Think of it this way: You're the bachelor of homecoming. You went alone because so many girls wanted to go with you that you couldn't decide. Whether that's true or not, you should go to the dance with that kind of confidence. Don't let being alone affect you. On the bright side, you won't be clung to by one date the whole night. You are free to do whatever you want to without any drama attached! I went to my prom alone, and had the best time ever. All my buddies went with dates, and didn't have nearly as much fun as I did (they even admitted it).
Go and have fun.
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Don't get oneitis. As a general rule, don't pursue her so long that you become upset about it. As long as it is an exciting challenge and you really believe that if you try hard enough you can get her, than it should be worth it. Otherwise, you are wasting your time.
Look, she rejected you because of a situation out of her control. This doesn't mean she doesn't like you, though. If you can work your way around that parental obstacle, then you get the girl. Think of it that way. So yes, pursue her, but don't get carried away with something that you can't have, if it turns out that it isn't going to happen.
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When I went to my prom, I just had fun. That's what alphas do; have fun, despite everybody else. If other people want to have fun, they can be included in your fun vibe, and as a result, you raise their value (and double your own). If people don't appreciate your fun or don't want to have fun, they don't get to be part of your awesome vibe.
I danced with almost every single girl at my prom; 90% of which had dates. Most of the girls who go with dates are just going either as friends, or as a last minute "I don't want to go alone" kind of deal. So, if you go around dancing with these girls, neither the girl nor the dude really care (the dude will most likely be doing the same thing). So go around, do what you want to do, have fun, and dance.
Have a good time!
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