Alright so I see one of my friends I work with at a table with 2 girls. I go say hi to him talk a bit and then one of the girls introduces herself to me. My friend and her leave to go to class and I quickly sit down next to the HB 7.5/8. I sit down with relaxed spread out body language and look up a bit and away from her and I hear her say Hi.

I start talking to her asking if she knew the people I was talking to and going to that class and she said no she was here to listen to this interview to write for the schools newspaper.

We talk a little bit and then she says her name and brings out her arm to shake my hand.

I remained pretty quite the whole interaction since I am a shy guy. She mostly kept talking and re initiating the conversation whenever there was long silences. I spoke the whole time with a soft voice and solid eye contact and she did also.

Eventually she got up to talk to the guy and get information for what she will write about for the newspaper. When she came back she sat down started talking to me again.

She then got up and was like Alright I'm done I'm going home blah blah. I said Wait! Your really cute whats your number?

She looked shocked(or froze up or something) for a second and said "I'm not a big texter my phones always breaking but add me on facebook" (spells out her last name and said ooh make sure you put a K not C(for her first name) "

I'm a bitch I gotta start approaching or at least first LOL, I don't know why its so hard.

She seemed pretty interested in me I don't know why she didn't give me her number







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In my opinion, you hesitated and she felt it, because you showed interest out of the blue and so she gave you facebook instead of number mostly to LJBF you fast.

You can try to add her and see where it goes, but I think you're LJBF'd.

Next time try to talk more and lead the interaction and if you're going to show direct interest, do so right in the opener. Don't try to do small talk and then change to direct suddenly.
You either go direct from the start with confidence or you go indirect and show interest after she gave you IOIs.

I hope it helps.

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Yea I feel you it was pretty out of the blue. I felt like she was giving good amount of ioi's so it would work out but yea I was pretty random LOL

It doesn't at all sound like LJBF to me. It sounds like you went slightly to direct when it wasn't in agreement with the moment/your style. You changed it up way to fast. Most peoples first reaction is no, so if you change things up to fast no is the answer you will receive. If she came back to talk to you(why would she come back), and kept trying to get more conversation than you definitely have her interest. If you are super quiet the whole time and than burst out for a number it is to fast a switch.

Note: I have heard a girl say hey add me on facebook, I pulled out my phone and got their number. If she is against texting, say "that is ok, phone numbers are for calling".

I say add her on facebook shoot out the what's up message. If you don't try you have no shot at her, if you try at least you tried. Perhaps you end up with a great pivot.

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in field is you in an actual playground not on the web..coz you never know if that hb is really her or just a fag underneath those pics...
for facebook, friendster etc...get ga num close ...or try to let her call you then if possible video chat w/ the hb using SPAM or ym..in that way you will be sure that its the real deal..get my point???

you can practice openers and some routines on chat rooms but fclose or kclose will be out of reach....

goodluck..to to the real deal not cyber chick 1010101010101010101010

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want to hear the true? you fucked up man you didnt participate in the interaction most likely she got tired of hearing herself doing all the work

i wish somebody have give me this advice when i did my first approach mine was viceversa i was doing all the work it was pretty much like an interview

sweetfili what are you talking about LOL?

Girls love to talk. People love to talk, if you let them they feel very good about you. Should he have talked more? Perhaps, but if she kept talking and came back to him she was interested. You don't have to read into it that far, she came back for him. She was proactive about conversation. His lack of conversation probably made him a lot more intriguing. If you want to be good with girls learn to listen. Anybody can talk, but if you listen you make yourself a lot more appealing. You also make yourself somewhat mysterious.

Allowing someone to talk is one of the most powerful things you can do, people love to talk. You can individualize yourself simply by listening, something very few people do these days. Think about it, the people you like most(quickly) are people you likely know very little about because they let you talk. Being good with girls is more about body language(yours and understanding) and listening than it is talking. Sure saying crafty things works well, but I have seen a girl get picked up on with no words, just eye contact. I have kissed girls with very little conversation from me. I sit back ask here and there and just listen. Find a girls passion and let her talk about it and you are golden, she will have those passionate feelings awoken by you.

Steering a conversation is what you seem to be about. Let conversation come to you and you will make things far more natural for yourself. You will have a much higher batting average if you learn to listen and stop talking. You will hear what she is saying, you will see what she is saying, and you will feel what she is saying, after all that courtship is a walk in the park. Agree and listen and you will be spectacular with girls. Talk to much and you will seem like a self centered so be very careful.

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i said PARTICIPATE not drop at her all your dhv stories dont you think that when she was talking about ramdon stuff and doing all the work wouldnt these thoughts come into her mind?: im sharing so much stories with him why he doesnt share a thing with me?, why im telling all this stuff to a guy i barely know i mean i have girlfriends to talk with, this guy is so boring i should leave, and so on and on

a good conversation is 50/50 both guy and girl should participate "mystery" ? come on he is in college not at a bar