tips for commuters?

same question as zacharie101.


I'm a transfer student and I go to a commuter school.

Everyone I've met already has their little group of friends already. Breaking into one is pretty damn hard.

I've gotten plenty of numbers, but setting up day 2's are a pain since every single girl lives at least 30 mins to an 1HR away.

exactly everyone seems to be having their own groups
tell me some techniques u used to get numbers?

and how did u create any social proof?

See if there are other PUA's at your school.

I can make friends, they're just scattered everywhere, and they already have their groups...I haven't been focusing on meeting any cool dudes, just girls but I should start meeting other dudes.

First thing I did was try to make friends in my classes. Get study groups going, ask to hang out, work out, get lunch, go to football games, meet up at bars/clubs.

Meet people from school at night clubs haha.

Some of those friends would invite me to join clubs and stuff. Go to club meetings/socials and game girls there.

My wing and I got invited to a social. We went, met people, got numbers. Just be cool and talk to girls. Getting numbers is easy...setting up day 2's a bitch...everyone at a commuter school has jobs, and lives so damn far away, different class schedules.

Techniques for getting numbers? "Hi..I'm (name)". talk about class, majors, whats fun on campus, what to do for fun.."we should hang out". "do you have a facebook?...cool whats your email? you know what? I'm not gonna remember that..I'll just text u later"...hand the phone, she types it in her number.

I'm still trying to get more social proof. Kinda tough because I go to class, usually come home, or go to work. When I actually stay on campus I study or use the rec. Grades should come first anyway.

haha okay so what's my next move?

i met hb9 at a party @ my house + got her number.

texted and she met me up @ my buddies party where she was def into me the next night... lots of really good kino back n forth. this was last saturday... the problem was she was with her roommate who is a fat chick who is an amazing cock block... she keeps telling hb9 that she wants to go to a different party and when it comes time to leave i go to the bars with my buddies and they go to the different party

i got pretty drunk with my friends and texted her "made you look!" later in the night lol... she didnt respond.

i was like fck it and she randomly facebook friended me on sunday.... obvious ioi she had to have stalked me to find me

i didnt text her or communicate until today when i said "im about to take a nap and it made me think of u hahaha we should hang again soon "... we have a little inside joke about naps by the way ha

she didnt respond again!

ok so bring the criticism what did i do wrong here? and whats my next move if anything?

have u ever tried cold approaches on campus? I was reading the conquer your campus book and the author said you shouldnt do it on campus

and do u think social proof really matters that much?

Hi all im a college uy who drinks alot and usually doesnt remember 90% of the names or faces of people i meet in that context.

I keep getting booty calls and flirty shit from a private number, It sounds too good to be true but the private number thing is sketch and im not trying to get lured somewhere only to get clapped up by a bunch of led pipes and robbed or something.
Am i being paranoid? it sounds like i am on paper but the nature of the calls is off, i may have met this chick at a day party a bit ago but dont clearly remember giving her my digits.

any advice is appreciated

o yea and all u dudes up there trying to find a group of friends in college or establish a social empire at the college you're at i got one word for ya:

****CIGARETTES****

great social tool and people all habitually smoke them in more or less the same spots

college is generally easy. parties are a no brainer and approaching on campus outside of your classmates is pretty easy too. allot of girls fresh to college aren't used to guys approaching them direct so that works well. as the year progresses people form their circles so earlier is the best time. but it's also never a bad time.

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any tips for guys who are commuters and dont have alot of social proof since they commute?

A lot of the posts in this thread are gold.

For myself, this sophomore has been a lot better than freshman year, basically because I was still trying to find my place (and so is every other freshman).

I think that 3 things are crucial (these helped me a lot):

1.) Dress well. I may sound insecure in saying this, but I feel the need to look good. Let's be honest here. Most of the guys in college dress like doo doo pancakes; that is, they wear sweats, the college hoodies, and slippers to class.

Don't be that guy. Wear fitted clothes and stuff you feel confident and comfortable in. Even fixing your hair sets you apart from the other guys. My style is mostly dark with contrasting colors. For example, I rock some black jeans with a red-orange shirt, a nice military jacket, and some desert boots. I know I look damn good.

Or look at it from another perspective: Notice how most girls are dressed up. Why is this? They want to look their best. Most guys in college are lazy and simply don't care. When you dress your best, girls notice this. You will definitely get some eye-fucking from them.

2.) You want a positive mentality/attitude. Don't ever dabble in negative thoughts. No 'what-ifs,' whatsoever. Most guys are too passive when it comes to college. They depend on cliques to survive. I know some guys who are afraid to go eat lunch by themselves; it really does get that pathetic. Insecurity is high, especially among guys who depend on others and have no confidence/assurance in themselves.

Be the man, don't give a fuck what others think, and do your own thing. Own the place and don't ever display neediness or desperation. Grab a hold of your nuts and man up. Who else is on your level? You don't need to prove anything. You are who you are. Don't be afraid of yourself. You attract what you are. If you are a confident, awesome dude, you will attract confident, awesome chicks.

Who knows? Maybe you'll even find your future wife in college.

3.) This may not work for everybody, but this has worked for me lately. I found inspiration in reading the book Yes Man by Danny Wallace. I'm not gonna spoil any part of the story, but I took a bit of advice from the book. I find myself stretching the limits of my comfort zone and doing things I normally wouldn't do. I figure that I only have a certain amount of years until I (undoubtedly) die, so I want to enjoy it before I get into the adult life (e.g. going to work, entering a mid-life crisis, etc.).

I think that a lot of people, who started off as open-minded, carefree kids (like myself), gradually close themselves off to the world due to cynicism and fear. Why must you fear the world and what it has to offer? People dwell too much on the negatives. Show me a person who's so positive that something will succeed. You would usually find somebody who's weary of trying new things or someone who needs to feel safe. How many people think "I'm gonna hit her up, and I'm gonna get her number, no doubt?" People are scared of opening themselves up to failure and rejection because they feel a need to have success in their enclosed mentality. But how do you experience the beauty of life without ever jumping into the 5ft. area of the pool instead of your normal 3ft. shallow area?

People need to realize that being scared and feeling limited gets them nowhere. The world is yours to conquer. So stop being scared and start conquering. You know you can do it. Don't let anything hold you back. No one has a gun to your head. You are the master of your own life. Take it by the horns (yes, that's a pun intended).[/i]