Only lately I have realized, that for my whole life I have been incredibly uncomfortable around new people, if one of my good friends aren't around.

When I'm with my friends I have great conversations, I'm funny, girls like me. Only rarely do i connect and enjoy someones company away from my close friends. Its hard for me to have a good conversation with people like this. its usually very awkward and i dont know what to say.

In high school I was one of the best volleyball players and I realize now i acted "alpha male" but only while playing, as soon as i was off the court i changed. This is one of the things that made lots of girls like me and i know they liked me but i didn't know what to do with that attraction.

Now im in college and dont have the volleyball aspect to back me up.

Whats the problem and is it a comfort issue and what can i do to fix this?

I have the same trouble too. Im at my best when with a freind.

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17 Year old rAFC
My cockyness is prepotional to my awesomeness.
- The Dagger

It sucks doesn't it? Just knowing your not going your full potential for some reason you dont understand. I know now i spent far too much of my younger years playing video games and thinking girls were icky.

Yeah, I can completely understand where your coming from. There's always that subconscious power struggle going on in your mind.

I recently got a job at a Supermarket and working the shelves. I had to snap out of this real quick. Whenever someone had a question, they always come to the guy working the shelves. And just taking orders in general. IT's really not a scary thing dealing with strangers. You dont need to go out of your way to please them or impress them. Dont think too much into the interactions and treat it like you'd treat anyone you were already acquainted with.

Try and work on being in a cheerful, social mood as often as possible. You dont need to make life long friends or find your soul-mate in these interactions and dont stress it and go with the flow. Over time, you'll be more at ease and you'll probably find yourself becoming more charismatic naturally.

The only key is to keep going out and putting yourself out there and getting out of your comfort zone. Even if you get a little uncomfortable and awkward, so what? Dont let things stress you like this and be an easy going guy, everyone wants to hang out with that guy. Try and become that guy

Here here. If you want to get confident at some'thing', do that 'thing' over and over - this is the only way.

I worked at a sub shop by myself over the summer before going back to college and I made a conscious effort to try to socialize with every person that walked in the door. Some people wouldn't talk and that was fine, but most people love to talk, and it was VERY VERY easy for me to just chat them up. In college I have a lot of acquaintences but conversation even between them is forced and unnatural, usually because I have nothing really to say to them, or just dont know what it is to spark the conversation.