Oh man, I almost feel in tears right about now.

I've put all my new found PUA skills into this girl. Tonight was the second night we had gone out together.

Long story short, she came back to mine, I could of had sex with her, she was looking forward to it I reckon.

What do I do? I bounce. Fail.

So we go to hers, I act like an idiot again, I wanted to have sex with her, she wanted it with me ,then I became some kind of 12 year kid and started acting super shy. Even saying it to her," I'm dead shy you know", which I am, but I hide this personality trait and it only comes out when "girl wanna bang" if you follow me.

I'm sooo mad because I reckon I've lost this girl. I had her totally under my spell, after working hard for her. But when it came down to it, I basically sh*t my pants.

My last girlfriend we went out for 5 years, and had a ton of sex. I left her, because she was too cold and she broke my heart.

I feel like a total chump. Sex means too much to me when I have it with someone. I need to find a prostitute to get this ridiculous 'connection' thing out of me I think.

I've had girls in the past love me because I haven't tried it on with them I could of got it on. But tonight was just awful, there where no excuses.

Is there a spin I can put on this? She probably thinks I'm gay now.

LMAO no you didnt essay.

this is showing you "have a crack in the shield"...vulnerable! the word is!

in small doses this is pretty amazing but never diet her with it.

shows your real, do not fret.

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did she stay over? did you spoon with her? did you rub her down?

serioulsy man, so long as there is tension you have her hooked.

Just keep chatting away to her as if everything is normal, and then invite her out again.....just make sure you fuck her this time

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Update:

So yeah! You guys were TOTALLY right.

I texted her in the morning saying sorry about last night, I just couldn't find my off switch sort of thing. She texted me back saying forget about it, she had a right laugh, and started posting on her facebook to her friends about me and I was like "Damn, you guys were right!"

She then texts me asking if I wanted to go watch a DVD at hers tonight (ie: last night).

So I head round, bottle of wine in hand, and it takes me ages to get her to start making out with me. So were making out on the sofa, and I'm thinking to myself "come on, lets go upstairs, I soo wanna eat you out".

Anyway, after 20 minutes or so I just come out with it and ask her directly. She then gives me a 'not really' kind of look, and so I carry on for about another 10 minutes, then say to her "I'm not going to ask you to do anything you don't want to do".

Anyway, times getting on, so I make up a story that I've got to be up early and should go, which I do.

This morning she's texted me "Sorry about last night, I felt kinda shy".

I've just texted back"hehe, don't worry about it. Ever".

What do you think chaps? Are things going well, or am I messing up?

EDIT - I just put "badNews101 is in it for the long ride" on my facebook status.

As she says, forget about it.

Dont talk to her anymore about any of the awkwardness, just assume it is over and get on with the business of seducing her in every way - mind, heart, body.

You are doing alright man, keep up a strong frame, be interesting, be seductive, and make your intent clear.

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hey

i used to have this trouble a while back. it would take me hours to kiss girls and then id be scared id be scared of going the next step. sometimes it was cos i liked the girl and other times it was due to shyness.

All i do now is never talk about it, and when im kissing them i slowly escalate, hands on her ass, feeling the legs up and down, kissin the neck and tits, then whenever the girl gets cold i say the mystery "its so hard not to kiss u right now" and carry on it doesnt work everytime but it worked for me last nyt

so key is dont ever talk abotu whats meant to happen because she will immediately go for the anti slut defence and not want to. the key is pretend its not going to happen then when it does she feels less guilty. say things like, "ill come over but you gotta romise not to take advantage of me, im a sensitive guy" blah blah blah.

hope it helps dude

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Oh man, seriously, that helped soo much., let me update you guys.

Firstly I wanna say I'm trying to rep you guys, advice 101 is your middle name. But the rep system is so fucked up on this forum (I'm a programmer by trade).

OK, so let me update you.

So despite what has gone one, I texted her today, saying "wanna hang out tonight"? I played the alpha male and told her I'd be out anyway, and she was OK, I'll come meet you later. She turned up, made me look the mac in front of my friends, whatever. She was all dressed up up, like more dressed up than ever.

So we bounced, I made her laugh, I made her feel special.

Trouble is, I think think I've freaked her out, like totally.

I was honest, and told her I've never met any one like her before, in numerous ways for a good 2 hour period. I laid it on thick. It was genuine, but not something she's used to.

All of a sudden she fucked off. Like out of no where. Totally did a runner!

I think I've frightened the shit out of her. I kept saying to her that I think she's never experienced love before (I'm 10 yrs older than her, and it's clear to me she doesn't know what love is).

It was at this point, like I mention, she did a runner.

I've gone to her house and knocked on her door, I've texted her twice, she is clearly not answering me.

My opinion: I think I've freaked her out, like wayyy to much, she said to me tonight that she's never had anyone be so determined and convincing to her that someone's in to her.

Let me tell you the texts I sent (whilst still drunk):

First:

"Don't run off from me [name]. I'm only here because and for you. Accept it [name] reality is like this"

Second:

"I'm sorry [name]. I didn't mean to freak you out.I know my emotions can be too much. It is all for you gal. It's all for you."

This was around an hour ago.

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UPDATE: She just text me, saying "Please just leave me alone!"

Half an hour later I text back, saying "Let me come to yours for 10 minutes. I think it will sort things out" (basically bacuse I planned to ask her to be my "girlfriend") which I think will clear things up.

She immediately texts back "I'm going to bed and I DONT want to talk sorry".

Help me out guys. I don't wanna loose her, but I think I've laid it on too thick. fuk v.fail. What the fuk am I supposed to do?!?!?!??!?!?!??!?!??!!?!?!?!?

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holy shit dude you went super creepy on her ass.
Move ON, there are so many girls out their.

Move on and maybe try again in 3-4 days, best not to confront her wilst this being on her mind, sorry bro we all need to learn and start off somewhere. Just remember your game, your personality, and stick to it. Because it works

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Sorry to hear things didnt turn out like you'd hoped man.

Plain and simple, you got too emotionally caught up into it. Think back to when you were first gaming her, you didnt have these strong feelings like you do now and you weren't as pressed on having this kind of an outcome. You had the advantage.

When you aren't emotionally involved it's clearer to think about how you want to game this girl and your intent with her as long as you keep that emotional distance.

There's nothing wrong with wanting to only fuck her OR wanting a long term relationship, but both destinations are down the same road.

You were gaming her great when you wanted to get in her pants and if you had played it calm and weren't in a rush, you would have done it eventually. After a while you got antsy and got caught up emotionally and created this horrid snowball effect that sent her running.....literally.....

Whenever you deal with ANY woman, when those strong feeling surface, you need to take a step back from reality and try and clear your mind and sort out your priorities because thats ironically the best way to GET those results you want, is to distance the emotional aspect and be a man about it.

Dissecting everything you told me, she was into you up until that final meeting because, lets face it, if a woman isnt into a guy she WILL find a way out of that meeting. Her meeting you that night is always a nice little IOI.

If your being totally upfront and honest about the, "I was honest, and told her I've never met any one like her before, in numerous ways for a good 2 hour period".....damn. Never in the history of EVER has confessing these feeling to a girl in this way ever really resulted in a long, healthy relationship. This is not what a young, vibrant, attractive girl wants to hear from a guy she sees from time to time. Thats way too much pressure. She wants to have FUN, have SEX, and be entertained with guys. Only then after those needs are being met by a specific guy will she really consider him for a long term relationship.

I, personally, dont buy into all of the bullshit women say when,"We look for specific qualities in a man when we want to date them" Me, you, and every other guy in this world has seen the latter. Women end up with abusers and dickheads....BUT....they gave them that thrill and excitement.

Just make sure that the girls interest level is always higher than your own. Even if your head over heels in love with this girl, showing your hand too early is never good.

If I can make any suggestions, take some time off and calm down and think about things. You cannot go to her anytime soon and think things will be fine. You need to get your emotions in check and she needs time for this to pass. Only then can you slowly try and get back into her life again with a more In-control and carefree attitude. Not someone looking for a long term thing.

I do wish you the best and I know you dont want to hear it but give it a few days or ideally a few weeks. You'll be in hell for the first few days but in time you'll understand what I meant by and then you can rationally break down what happened and where to take it. Who knows? You may even find another girl in this period of time and be happy with her. Life's funny. Just dont get too hung up on "results" and enjoy the ride!

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Couldn't have put it better myself

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Exactly what Solteris said. No better way to put it.

I recently started talking to my Ex from a long while ago, and she was having issues with her BF who treated her like SHIT, and took advantage of her every day... Well they broke up, and we started getting into it, and I even took it slow, but what happened? Oh, thats right, feelings got involved, and she got scared. She then ran back to her ex, who at that paint had cheated on her and is why they broke up. I ended up being "that guy" that women run to when they need the emotions, and securiy that their BF doesn't provide. well FUCK THAT! NEVER AGAIN WILL I BE "THAT GUY"!

Point being, Sir, is that too much emtional will sink your battle ship quicker than shit! Let the crazy out slowly.

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